Struggling To Get Over My Break Up!

[soulforge]

enjoy the boxing match

Get the popcorn out.

 

[soulforge]

Yup. My hb8,5 ex keeps offering to suck me dry every few weeks and as I tend to follow my D I keep letting her in occasionally. Definitely not the way to go I'll admit.
Dumped her AGAIN so i feel your pain bro. Reread my post and you can tell that its full of pain. No personal insult, but rather from a " why am I (also )this stupid sometimes?"pov.

Seems like we were BOTH in a toxic relationship with a toxic woman. You say not?????? As crazy as it sounds, eventually we will both grow due to conversations like this. No way around it

I'm out of popcorn by the way.

Erm no!

I am NOT in a toxic relationship.

I had the strength and character to kick her azz out permanently.

You my friend are in a toxic relationship, because you keep inviting the toxicity back into your life for the sake of sex.

When you prioritise sex over your self respect, this is what happens. Back and forth, back and forth with a damaged toxic woman.

 

[Gamisch]

If you out of popcorn. You got Shvt loads of time to post epic monologues on SS, I'm sure you got time at hand to pick up some popcorn right haha

I got all the time in the world my brother!!

Some are epic, others not so much so..but thanks for the compliment. Are you done now?

Erm no!

I am NOT in a toxic relationship.

I had the strength and character to kick her azz out permanently.

You my friend are in a toxic relationship, because you keep inviting the toxicity back into your life for the sake of sex.

When you prioritise sex over your self respect, this is what happens. Back and forth, back and forth with a damaged toxic woman.

Wait a sec, you just posted yesterday that you were together with her for nine months.

" I'm age 47 and spent the last 9 months rearranging the guts of a 24 year old chick".

Sounds familiar? Now i hope you aint THAT dense and you understand that within the last 9 months you posted numerous threads with several issues about russian Lithuanian "women"?

You really wanna play this game? The beef kinda settled down, let keep it peaceful!

The math doesn't add up..you claim you "give them 2 chances", but I geuss you have a plug to Lithuanian/Russian women so there were 3 instead of 1 ...

And yes bro, you're definitely right about the sex vs self respect part. 100 % agree with you on that. If you eliminate the need for sex, all kinds of problems disappear. Like falling in love with women half your age.

 

[soulforge]

I got all the time in the world my brother!!

Some are epic, others not so much so..but thanks for the compliment. Are you done now?

Wait a sec, you just posted yesterday that you were together with her for nine months.

" I'm age 47 and spent the last 9 months rearranging the guts of a 24 year old chick".

Sounds familiar? Now i hope you aint THAT dense and you understand that within the last 9 months you posted numerous threads with several issues about russian Lithuanian "women"?

You really wanna play this game? The beef kinda settled down, let keep it peaceful!

The math doesn't add up..you claim you "give them 2 chances", but I geuss you have a plug to Lithuanian/Russian women so there were 3 instead of 1 ...

And yes bro, you're definitely right about the sex vs self respect part. 100 % agree with you on that. If you eliminate the need for sex, all kinds of problems disappear. Like falling in love with women half your age.

The fact that you look into such miniscule details of a post tells me LOUD and CLEAR that you ain't got nothing going on with your life bruh.

You are literally sat there in your basement putting time lines together, in the HOPE that you can catch someone out, so you can win the argument, tells me that you are lost beyond help.

Seriously man.. I simply do not have the time to peace together fukin timelines of what and when a poster said something. I got other things to do, like lift weights, and look handsome.

The fact that you literally got the investigation hat on, tells me that SS is your life and you lost beyond help.

You want to launch an official investigation on when and and where I said something.

Bruh you are beyond help.

 

[Gamisch]

The fact that you look into such miniscule details of a post tells me LOUD and CLEAR that you ain't got nothing going on with your life bruh.

You are literally sat there in your basement putting time lines together, in the HOPE that you can catch someone out, so you can win the argument, tells me that you are lost beyond help.

Seriously man.. I simply do not have the time to peace together fukin timelines of what and when a poster said something. I got other things to do, like lift weights, and look handsome.

The fact that you literally got the investigation hat on, tells me that SS is your life and you lost beyond help.

You want to launch an official investigation on when and and where I said something.

Bruh you are beyond help.

Haha what is that you want woman??

Not hard to find, wasn't rocket science. That post was on recent posted 30 minutes ago.

It aint that hard to somewhat remember that " minuscule detail ". I will post that picture in the other thread and delete it,just to **** you up.

Did you already post one of yourself?

Edit: posted the picture bruh..

 

[soulforge]

Haha what is that you want woman??

Not hard to find, wasn't rocket science. That post was on recent posted 30 minutes ago.

It aint that hard to somewhat remember that " minuscule detail ". I will post that picture in the other thread and delete it,just to **** you up.

Did you already post one of yourself?

Edit: posted the picture bruh..

Why you so desperate for my picture bro?

You can see my arms already. They as big as your head lol

 

[Gamisch]

Why you so desperate for my picture bro?

You can see my arms already. They as big as your head lol

Because you were challenging me several times in different threads to post a picture. But I bet you " didn't see it" lol after i left it on for 20 minutes.

That's why.

 

[soulforge]

Because you were challenging me several times in different threads to post a picture. But I bet you " didn't see it" lol after i left it on for 20 minutes.

That's why.

I didn't see it.. not that it matters.

Doesn't matter how big you are or how handsome you might be.

The fact that you let your ex treat you like dog poo, and you went back time and time again, tells me to take what you say with a pinch of salt.

Especially when you are pointing your finger of authority on others, when you come from a point of complete failure yourself.

I'm sure you have forgiven yourself for your pathetic beta behaviour. Maybe be a little more lenient and understanding to other people on here, who have made some mistakes too.

You ain't no authority on here bruv. Just another dude behind a keyboard acting the big G

 

[Black Widow Void]

Hate to see that you're in the "walking wounded" stage. In the past, I've been there myself and it's no fun.

I get it.
It's like... logically you know you're better off without her, but there's this 'poison' inside us; which disables us from walking away unscathed. At least for me, it was like being in a fog - almost sort of like a twilight zone. After the break up (which I initiated) I suddenly forgot her bad qualities and blamed myself for things. After a while, I regained clarity.

After I healed, I did some reflecting on that previous relationship (this was over twenty years ago - I'm older than most forum members). I wanted to make sure that this sh1t didn't happen again. And it hasn't to that degree. Here's what I came up with.

During my bad relationship, I overlooked a lot of things. She may have made me angry at times, but then I'd get surprised with a nice home cooked meal, clothes ironed etc (she had a key to my place) ... And of course the s3x was good and the good things warped my balanced view.

In retrospect, I invested too much energy and time into someone that didn't deserve it. Had I stood my ground early on and more solidly, I would not have felt so depleted after breaking off with her. The "depletion" part is the important thing. It's as if our 'armor' has been chipped away. And suddenly, we are feeling this vulnerability.

Here's what helped me overcome that hurdle. Any time I had a reminder of her bad qualities. I'd make a note of it. It is very important that you either record this or write it down. Do this each and every time that a realistic negative thought about her enters your mind. And then.. later on at the moment that you find yourself really missing her or thinking on a fond memory, play back your recordings or read back over those notes. Repeat this cycle when necessary. This will really speed up the recovering process. I did this and speak from experience.

From reading some of the previous comments, it looks like some of the members are trying to break your balls on this. Fvck them. We all have weak moments (self included). If these members do not understand that brotherhood is about helping a fellow brother out, then again, fvck them.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Guys love ya both, but seriously get a room!

 

[Mazer]

Come on bro, you have been on this site for a while, you should have known better. So many red flags and you chose to ignore. Time to work on yourself. Good luck.

 

[Gamisch]

Guys love ya both, but seriously get a room!

Dust has settled after a couple of days. Me and @soulforge are from the same breed. Bluepilled alpha thugs. With the right woman on our side great protectors and providers. Unfortunately in this modern era those qualities are rather frowned upon than appreciated .

I went in kinda hard. Why? Because I'm went through something similar. At some point someone gotta bytchslap you awake, and tell you without sugarcoating the truth that you are WASTING TIME and you're being a fool.

So ,@soulforge. Apologies on my behalf bro if you felt offended by my initial comments. Wasn't meant to diss or humiliate you(at first), but rather to hold up a mirror.

Life goes on, and there's a bunch of women who've turned 18 TODAY....

 

[johnrambo]

So ,@soulforge. Apologies on my behalf bro if you felt offended by my initial comments. Wasn't meant to diss or humiliate you(at first), but rather to hold up a mirror.

I am glad that you are offering an olive branch. You and @soulforge are both good guys. Oneitis is hard to get over. Sometimes the advice of f**king 10 girls, go to the gym, may not work. Oneitis can ruin lives literally. Some people never get over it.

 

[Dr.Suave]

At some point someone gotta bytchslap you

You guys are welcome. I live to serve

 

[soulforge]

Dust has settled after a couple of days. Me and @soulforge are from the same breed. Bluepilled alpha thugs. With the right woman on our side great protectors and providers. Unfortunately in this modern era those qualities are rather frowned upon than appreciated .

I went in kinda hard. Why? Because I'm went through something similar. At some point someone gotta bytchslap you awake, and tell you without sugarcoating the truth that you are WASTING TIME and you're being a fool.

So ,@soulforge. Apologies on my behalf bro if you felt offended by my initial comments. Wasn't meant to diss or humiliate you(at first), but rather to hold up a mirror.

Life goes on, and there's a bunch of women who've turned 18 TODAY....

@Gamisch that's cool my man.. I apologise too. Men gotta battle sometimes right, let off some steam.

But yeh I think in the early stages emotions override the logic, but we eventually come to our senses. We both on the same path now, moving onto bigger and better things, and more importantly learning from our poor choices.

 

[soulforge]

I am glad that you are offering an olive branch. You and @soulforge are both good guys. Oneitis is hard to get over. Sometimes the advice of f**king 10 girls, go to the gym, may not work. Oneitis can ruin lives literally. Some people never get over it.

This is true.. Therefore getting out of that situation sooner than later is key.

Imagine the poor guy who put a kid inside her, and moved in with her for 2-3 years.

That man is going to suffer for a good long time.

 

[johnrambo]

This is true.. Therefore getting out of that situation sooner than later is key.

Indeed it's better not to get oneitis in the first place. When the bad signs come up, prepare to push the nuclear button.

I suffered from oneitis more than 10 years ago...it took almost 3 years to get over..I am currently trying to get over one now. I almost got a cheer up yesterday from oneitis when someone from the "government" called to give me 50k. It turns out it was a scammer. Didn't give out any personal info though.

 

[soulforge]

Indeed it's better not to get oneitis in the first place. When the bad signs come up, prepare to push the nuclear button.

I suffered from oneitis more than 10 years ago...it took almost 3 years to get over..I am currently trying to get over one now. I almost got a cheer up yesterday from oneitis when someone from the "government" called to give me 50k. It turns out it was a scammer. Didn't give out any personal info though.

This a common mistake we make. We ignore the red flags.

3 years? Bro how long was you seeing her for. That's a long time.

I think max it has taken me to get over a girl was around 1 year. My weaknesses is hot woman. The hotter she is, longer it takes me to get over that 304

I was dating this ex model some years ago. Damn that breakup took so long to heal from.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Yet once in a blue moon a man comes across a woman that changes everything. They are out there, rare in this day and age, very rare.

What’s sad is you guys going to the youngest ones may never come across a true dyed in the wool “good girl”. They still do exist in the older crowd, again, needles in a thousand haystacks, but they do.

I’m experienced enough to know to sleep with an eye open, but recently my faith has been partially restored. I won’t hold my breath.

 

[johnrambo]

Yet once in a blue moon a man comes across a woman that changes everything. They are out there, rare in this day and age, very rare.

What’s sad is you guys going to the youngest ones may never come across a true dyed in the wool “good girl”. They still do exist in the older crowd, again, needles in a thousand haystacks, but they do.

I’m experienced enough to know to sleep with an eye open, but recently my faith has been partially restored. I won’t hold my breath.

Yes, the younger ones are hard to get. As for the older ones, the older they are, the more baggage they have. The older ones are jaded too.