Dangers of success with women.

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Women are inherently destructive and cause chaos. Women are the ultimate source of validation for men. More than money, more than status, more than accolades. Whether most men realize it or not a lot of what they do is to get more women and if this encourages you to be a better man that is good however once attaining high levels of success with women a man can fall into the trap of validation seeking and get his life force literally sucked out of him.

I had a period where all i did was focus on women and though i got a lot in the long run it ****ed my life up. I felt i wasnt enough unless i had multiple girls or my "skill set" to get girls werent as sharp. When i got the girls i was high on life, when i didnt, i felt worthless. I would say like a drug addict but not like, i was a drug addict.

The healthy masculine way to get girls is always focus on yourself, your dreams, and ambitions and if a woman you find pleasing aesthetically and helps you on your journey invite her in (cautiously) but one strike and shes out. That is cause real men dont NEED women, women NEED real men. You are the scarce resource, not her. Achieve all you can on this Earth while you can and seize the day. The world is yours.
 

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The dopamine rush of getting validation from a woman is intoxicating. Like a drug. Even more so if it’s in front of friends or coworkers. There are withdrawal symptoms, when it doesn’t happen. It’s difficult to get off the rollercoster ride. As the highs are so addictive.
 

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Not recommended if you are on NoFap, Megan Fox will have you cummin buckets from that movie.
Fair enough. I've just looked at the content rating on IMDB. I have specific triggers that may lead me to fap, but it seems to be more geared towards pay4play/escorts. It's like a nude women is not triggering on its own unless its with a phone number and dollar sign (ie and an address that can be located on google-maps where you can walk-in at anytime). It's almost like I'm turned on or have a fetish with the pairing. This movie in and of itself will not be triggering or lead to breaking no-fap as it does not thematically deal with that. A documentary about prostitution would be way more triggering.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Women are inherently destructive and cause chaos. Women are the ultimate source of validation for men. More than money, more than status, more than accolades. Whether most men realize it or not a lot of what they do is to get more women and if this encourages you to be a better man that is good however once attaining high levels of success with women a man can fall into the trap of validation seeking and get his life force literally sucked out of him.

I had a period where all i did was focus on women and though i got a lot in the long run it ****ed my life up. I felt i wasnt enough unless i had multiple girls or my "skill set" to get girls werent as sharp. When i got the girls i was high on life, when i didnt, i felt worthless. I would say like a drug addict but not like, i was a drug addict.

The healthy masculine way to get girls is always focus on yourself, your dreams, and ambitions and if a woman you find pleasing aesthetically and helps you on your journey invite her in (cautiously) but one strike and shes out. That is cause real men dont NEED women, women NEED real men. You are the scarce resource, not her. Achieve all you can on this Earth while you can and seize the day. The world is yours.
Absolutely.

Sometimes you gotta ask yourself what are the things that can really move you of your square? You could have a nice and easy going day, or even week or month UNTILL woman X does YZ( acts up, ignores you, gaslights you , plays games ect) .

Women.

The problem is female validation is obviously an outside factor. Something you can and cannot control. I've noticed that it doesnt matter how many women you sleep with, once you're after validation from them its never enough, and by default you put them on a pedestal. Making them THE most important thing on earth.

A man must find a place where he's at peace with himself and what he does. Especially when you are a " validation-chaser"( an addict) , you gotta find that high in other "successful "things. The irony is that if a women addict puts more time in building himself, he will pull even easier. Because that hunter within you will NEVER go away. Forget about that.
 

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Women are inherently destructive and cause chaos. Women are the ultimate source of validation for men. More than money, more than status, more than accolades. Whether most men realize it or not a lot of what they do is to get more women and if this encourages you to be a better man that is good however once attaining high levels of success with women a man can fall into the trap of validation seeking and get his life force literally sucked out of him.

I had a period where all i did was focus on women and though i got a lot in the long run it ****ed my life up. I felt i wasnt enough unless i had multiple girls or my "skill set" to get girls werent as sharp. When i got the girls i was high on life, when i didnt, i felt worthless. I would say like a drug addict but not like, i was a drug addict.

The healthy masculine way to get girls is always focus on yourself, your dreams, and ambitions and if a woman you find pleasing aesthetically and helps you on your journey invite her in (cautiously) but one strike and shes out. That is cause real men dont NEED women, women NEED real men. You are the scarce resource, not her. Achieve all you can on this Earth while you can and seize the day. The world is yours.
From this moment onwards. I will live by this.. One strike and you are out!
 

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I’ve said this before, but most guys pulling lots of women aren’t high value in society’s view and exposing themselves to a lot of risks. There’s a reason you don’t see any players on the path to being doctors and etc. Any sane man will understand chasing pvssy is a waste of time once they’ve successfully done it.
 

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I just previewed Jennifer's Body (2009) and saw the first 20 min. Its interesting so far. I am expecting some sort of Species movie. Was totally thrown off the first five minutes as it was sick, but decided to give it the benefit of the doubt and watch up to 20 min instead of 5 min like I did before.

There is nothing arousing about the movie so far. Megan Fox looks hot, but she is not the prettiest actress out there. Just has this campy vibe so far. May watch up to 40-50% of the movie later before putting on a cinehold.
 

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If you followed any of the stuff I said early on when I first made an account, alot of it was about how being a player type for a long time labeled me a "womanizer", had me lose friends, had people lose trust in me, make people think i was sleeping with everyone.. made guys not want to bring their girlfriends around me or have me over when their girlfriends were around, yet have all our other guy friends there.. etc

I mean sht, I got fired from one job because of messin around with multiple women.. I mean im sure i menitoned other sht too but in all honesty and in hindsight, none of the negatives were that bad.. lol. I think the biggest negative is that for a while a lot of women would see me as this player guy and simply not trust me from the getgo. But, I learned to bypass that just by learning to be a genuinely good guy in their eyes.

Besides that, yeah I developed a sex addiction from many years. It started in my late teens early 20's and it just got worse. Andeach time I'd decide I wanted to chill and settle down, I'd get more pu55y thrown at me like the universe was just preventing me from being a standup one woman guy.

Eventually I learned to just keep a balanced life and not fall too far into any one thing.. lust can be very dangerous.
 

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The dopamine rush of getting validation from a woman is intoxicating. Like a drug. Even more so if it’s in front of friends or coworkers. There are withdrawal symptoms, when it doesn’t happen. It’s difficult to get off the rollercoster ride. As the highs are so addictive.
ive done molly and cocaine and like you said having validation from mulitple hot women and in front of your peers making you look like the MAN is more addicting. But when you dont have it or your in a drought and it seems like every girl is repulsed by you it makes you feel like **** thats why its important to not base your self esteem on it but its very intoxicating.
 

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The danger of success with women comes down to time: they suck up a lot of it, don't leave you alone. There will be plenty of times you will be bored and wish her gone, but she'll take her sweet ass time to go.

The above was a bit of a lighthearted reply - the last paragraph in the op was good I thought :up:
 

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The danger of success with women comes down to time: they suck up a lot of it, don't leave you alone. There will be plenty of times you will be bored and wish her gone, but she'll take her sweet ass time to go.
I think the biggest one is being trapped with a child and forced to interacting with some cvnt for the next 18 years.
 

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Whats the connection between that and this post?
The first post referenced getting his life forced sucked out of him (ie validation trap). This fiction is an artistic portrayal of that post. If you know of other art you are also free to recommend your own artistic references.
 

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ive done molly and cocaine and like you said having validation from mulitple hot women and in front of your peers making you look like the MAN is more addicting. But when you dont have it or your in a drought and it seems like every girl is repulsed by you it makes you feel like **** thats why its important to not base your self esteem on it but its very intoxicating.
never did molly. but did coke back in the day.
 

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Can you give example of a strike warranting a dump? Is it severe as unfaithfulness or just an annoying habit?
She ignores you when she's around her friends. Evasive to take any pictures together with her. Does not introduce you to her friends, especially chad-looking guy friends, like her bf despite taking her out on dates, being intimate, spending money on her, etc....

That was the one strike that was the beginning of the end. If I had options then I would have just dumped her then and there and pursued other interested women. As I did not have options and unfortunately just her, my mother was not happy with her together with me, she did some digging and found some serious dirt on her and that ended everything (ie where there was no choice but to end the relationship, etc..).

Another strike is her withholding important information about herself that would decrease her value to you, but waiting to disclose it when you are more invested into her. (ie if she can't have children, and you want children, then that should be disclosed upfront because you are more likely to make a rational decision about whether you want to get involved or not, then 2 months into a relationship).
 
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What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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