Depression & Anxiety Indicators Of Personality Disorder

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How many of you consider this a serious red flag in a Chick?

If she is on Antidepressants and has or had depression related issues for a long period of time.

From my personal experience, anytime I ever dated a girl who had depression or was taking Anti depressants for any period of time, it rarely ended well.

I always felt a little uncomfortable around these girls, something just didn't seem right and sit well with me.

Some might even have had a personality disorder that I wasn't even aware of.
 

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Huge red flag. If she has a regular prescription for anxiety/depression, you will get acquainted with her cRa-Zee side at some point. 95% correlation. Been there done that, learned my lesson. These girls shop doctors to get their next supply. Always check their nite stands and bathrooms for pills.
 

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Nah man avoid it at all costs.

Women on antidepressants have mood swings and are usually sad all the time with low energy. It's very hard to be around them you will be like a wet sponge constantly drying out.
 

Do not be too easy. If you are too easy to get, she will not want you. If you are too easy to keep, she will lose interest in you. If you are too easy to control, she will not respect you.

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Nah man avoid it at all costs.

Women on antidepressants have mood swings and are usually sad all the time with low energy. It's very hard to be around them you will be like a wet sponge constantly drying out.
Bro my Russian Ex was on Anti Depressants, for a good long time. She came off them sometime before meeting me, this could explain some of her combative, angry behaviour.

She was naturally quite aggressive/masculine too, so add to that the depression & anxiety and it's a ticking time bomb situation!
 

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I personally believe that it's normal for people to go through episodes of depression, anxiety, etc. based on things they are going through in that given moment. However, if a person is needing to go OUT of their way to seek out a psychiatrist in order to get medication for these issues, which suggests this either a serious and/or a long term issue, then I'd be wary. I personally believe that in western culture many are far too readily available to put themselves on psychiatric medications when instead they should be analyzing their life circumstances to see if there are some changes that need to be made.

There is nothing wrong with seeking help if you actually need it. However, this is also a personal issue and you should be asking yourself why she even told you this in the first place. Oversharing about something like this or some sort of traumatic event in the past is not a good sign, in fact I'd say there are far more issues going on underneath the surface than what you could imagine.

A long time ago I had a date with someone and she randomly blurted out about how she was sexually abused as a child. This was on a first date and it really threw me off that she felt the need to tell me this for no reason. If this woman felt the need to tell me about this on a first date what other issues could she possibly have going on that I'm not aware of?

At the end of the day, it's not your job to go out of your way to fix someone else's problems. I think a lot of crazy/troubled women have this idea that relationships/men will fix their problems, make their lives better, etc. Instead of bettering themselves and fixing their own lives, they seek out others to do this for them.
 

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I personally believe that it's normal for people to go through episodes of depression, anxiety, etc. based on things they are going through in that given moment. However, if a person is needing to go OUT of their way to seek out a psychiatrist in order to get medication for these issues, which suggests this either a serious and/or a long term issue, then I'd be wary. I personally believe that in western culture many are far too readily available to put themselves on psychiatric medications when instead they should be analyzing their life circumstances to see if there are some changes that need to be made.

There is nothing wrong with seeking help if you actually need it. However, this is also a personal issue and you should be asking yourself why she even told you this in the first place. Oversharing about something like this or some sort of traumatic event in the past is not a good sign, in fact I'd say there are far more issues going on underneath the surface than what you could imagine.

A long time ago I had a date with someone and she randomly blurted out about how she was sexually abused as a child. This was on a first date and it really threw me off that she felt the need to tell me this for no reason. If this woman felt the need to tell me about this on a first date what other issues could she possibly have going on that I'm not aware of?

At the end of the day, it's not your job to go out of your way to fix someone else's problems. I think a lot of crazy/troubled women have this idea that relationships/men will fix their problems, make their lives better, etc. Instead of bettering themselves and fixing their own lives, they seek out others to do this for them.
Have experienced this myself.. Actually on more than one occasion. Some of these girls on Antidepressants - Anxiety have some traumatic childhood event.
 

Don't always be the one putting yourself out for her. Don't always be the one putting all the effort and work into the relationship. Let her, and expect her, to treat you as well as you treat her, and to improve the quality of your life.

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I'm unhinged myself but I notice that women are simply not strong enough to handle their struggles while still keeping control of their lifes.

When I'm angry I hit the weights harder, when I'm sad I walk in the nature...women just pop pills or create drama.

They are emotionally weaker as much as physical.

I dont need the drama and surely dont need a girl that talks about her life (or mine) with a third person on a regular basis.

I met many girls with emotional issues that I find myself very comfortable to deal and talk with and sometimes even getting intimate but a relationship it's a complete different thing.

Hard to tell what's more dangerous between an angry woman and a depressed one.
 

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Suffering from depression is normal how we treat it nowadays is not if I were you just keep her as a friend at best.
 

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Watch out for Narcissist Personality Disorders.

Know the signs.

Cuz once you are in the web, it's hard to get out.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

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If they stay on the pills they are usually fine. But if they stop taking them, then things can get bad fast.
I agree with this.

My ex wife of earlier this year got off them right after we got married and it all went to shambles from there. Seen the same at least one other time.

My FWB i was seeing in Illinois before i moved to Florida was not on them, and she was fine. But I think shes the only woman over 30 I have met in my life who wasn’t.
 

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Watch out for Narcissist Personality Disorders.

Know the signs.

Cuz once you are in the web, it's hard to get out.
You think there is a correlation between depression and Narcissist personality disorder?

I'm not sure about that, however if a girl does have depression/anxiety, often there is a trigger for this, maybe some type of trauma and the likely hood of a personaly disorder developing is very real.
 

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You think there is a correlation between depression and Narcissist personality disorder?

I'm not sure about that, however if a girl does have depression/anxiety, often there is a trigger for this, maybe some type of trauma and the likely hood of a personaly disorder developing is very real.
My bad homie. Read title of thread wrong.

Disregard.
 

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Problem is society seems engineered in such a way that mental problems are common for both men and women. The only difference is that men tend to chalk it up and keep to themselves more, and that men are seemingly more "ashamed "to admit they're having mental problems.

You'll be hard pressed to find a hot woman without mental issues. Lately I see a trend where women will be upfront about their mental health issues . Probably because they've learned that sooner or later it will come to the surface and the contrast between "happy Stacy " and " depressed stacy " is baffling at best.

So its a double edged sword. On one hand I kinda respect it when a person admits whatever is wrong and is willing to work on it. Combine this with the fact that seemingly every woman after age 25 has severe symptoms, and the next best thing is indeed a woman who at least actively works on it.
 

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My bad homie. Read title of thread wrong.

Disregard.
Credit is always deserved to a man that acknowledge being wrong.

Problem is society seems engineered in such a way that mental problems are common for both men and women. The only difference is that men tend to chalk it up and keep to themselves more, and that men are seemingly more "ashamed "to admit they're having mental problems.

You'll be hard pressed to find a hot woman without mental issues. Lately I see a trend where women will be upfront about their mental health issues . Probably because they've learned that sooner or later it will come to the surface and the contrast between "happy Stacy " and " depressed stacy " is baffling at best.

So its a double edged sword. On one hand I kinda respect it when a person admits whatever is wrong and is willing to work on it. Combine this with the fact that seemingly every woman after age 25 has severe symptoms, and the next best thing is indeed a woman who at least actively works on it.
A woman with mental issues is covered with attention and solutions, people is nice to her kinda like she deserves a reward for something wrong done to her.

A man with mental issues better keep it for himself unless there is a real solution to it cause the only things people will see is a defective provider and protector or even worse a potential problem.

This is why women brag about their problems and traumas while men accept the pain and keep it for themselves.

A woman's struggles are celebrated, a man's one are ignored cause it only matter if in the end he wins or not.

Thats one of the reasons in my opinion why men are dropping not only relationships but society as a whole.
 

If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.

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