The 1 Strike Rule

[manfrombelow]

I never said their nature has changed. What I said is that some of the traits through time have developed to match the current circumstances with guys nowadays.

You said "women have changed". That's what you fvcking said.

 

[Learning Curve]

You said "women have changed". That's what you fvcking said.

Again, not the nature.

 

[Gamisch]

Even if you're going through a dry spell, this still applies.

Because, it's not like chasing after an uninterested broad suddenly works (aka she fvcks you eventually) just because you're going through a dry spell, is it?

So, having abundance mindset or not, it's always good knowing WHEN to stop investing into a bad "project".

The dreaded dry spell...its like rose tinted glasses making you see women in a more "positive "way because you REALLY need her now..

I was contemplating what happens when you'd say two or even three strikes. My conclusion is that a woman MIGHT get more strikes IF she earned it.

But that's already a slippery slope. Dangerous territory . " she made me a sandwich once so she got 18 strikes".

 

[SW15]

drop new girls at the first sign of disinterest or disrespect.

This is perfect and the best way to do things. That's Iron Rule of Tomassi #1, holding frame.

 

[manfrombelow]

But that's already a slippery slope. Dangerous territory . " she made me a sandwich once so she got 18 strikes".

How about she gets 100 strikes for svcking my d!ck the other day???

 

[BeExcellent]

Advice from the old lady:

For context, @Colossus married a top flight girl several years back. My guess is that he’s perhaps a father by now. Like Uncle Atom Smasher he faded from SS after positing many nuggets of wisdom, and is (by last report) happily married.

The message is this:

Respect Yourself.

You are not respecting yourself if you allow others to disrespect you, and that includes women.

I also agree strongly with @stringpuller in this thread. In a LTR there are going to be conflicts that arise naturally from differences of opinion about things and that is to be expected. You may also have upset to deal with at times and maybe exchanges between one another that are less than kind. The main thing there is to keep the big picture in mind. If the man is leading the relationship and the woman is deferring to him more often than not this is how you get through the occasional bumps in the road.

 

[Barrister]

An act of disrespect is certainly a reason to NEXT a woman.

However, most of the reasons given in this post are way too rigid IMO. I can't tell you how many lays I would have lost out on over the years if I had axed a girl in early stage dating because she didn't text me back for a few hours or texted while on the date. That seems just silly. These aren't so much acts of disrespect so much as they are just women being women. Especially hotter women. No hot woman is going to sit around glued to a single text conversation and be responding within 2-3 minutes all the time.

Certainly set your boundaries. But set your expectations at reasonable levels as well. And most importantly, have multiple options so you don't care if a single girl takes a couple of hours to answer your text message.

 

[BadBoy89]

If she is hot, fertile, and younger than 25, she is allowed 27 outs.

If she is over 30, 3 strike rule
If she is over 35, 1 strike rule
If she is over 40, she’s on the bench.

 

[soulforge]

Advice from the old lady:

For context, @Colossus married a top flight girl several years back. My guess is that he’s perhaps a father by now. Like Uncle Atom Smasher he faded from SS after positing many nuggets of wisdom, and is (by last report) happily married.

The message is this:

Respect Yourself.

You are not respecting yourself if you allow others to disrespect you, and that includes women.

I also agree strongly with @stringpuller in this thread. In a LTR there are going to be conflicts that arise naturally from differences of opinion about things and that is to be expected. You may also have upset to deal with at times and maybe exchanges between one another that are less than kind. The main thing there is to keep the big picture in mind. If the man is leading the relationship and the woman is deferring to him more often than not this is how you get through the occasional bumps in the road.

What if in your LTR she has disrespected you a few times and is always going off the handle with arguments.

That's what I had with my ex, so I ended things and walked away.

Things felt very unstable and marriage/children years of commitment together seemed like something unachievable with her. She had a combative/agressive streak to her.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

Since I have no interest in ONS or super casual sex ("flings" are the most casual I am interested in) I have been emplying the one strike rule with increasing strictness.

It really does save you a great deal of time, effort, and headache if you only pursue women who are easy to deal with. If I had to pick between 1 date per month with a high IL, compliant, agreeable woman or 5 dates per month with low/medium interest, difficult women, i'd picker the former every time, even if the latter are hotter.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

A lot of this is simply honed in on women who have Borderline Personality Disorder, we need to quit conflating rejection with outright freaking mental illness, it also swings both ways, your recent One Night Stand could of been somebody going through a psychotic episode but is just in that manic phase, like luckily a lot of these women are protected and looked after but as somebody who has worked extensively in developmental disabilities I can tell you these broads that are mentally ill get around recklessly, most of them have more than 1 boyfriend or are generally accepting of the "You wanna bang?" opening online.

I do believe genuine rejection can be worked through.

Also it isn't always the women, sometimes it's us, this poster used to come around SS talking about this idea of "Frequency" of our testosterone levels rising and dropping alongside our perceived attractiveness, like when you feel good, you might feel good all the time but when you feel great, your just better than when your good and vice versa for feeling bad.

Maybe you are having a low frequency day, maybe you made your initial approach on a high frequency day and then followed up on a low?

 

[soulforge]

Since I have no interest in ONS or super casual sex ("flings" are the most casual I am interested in) I have been emplying the one strike rule with increasing strictness.

It really does save you a great deal of time, effort, and headache if you only pursue women who are easy to deal with. If I had to pick between 1 date per month with a high IL, compliant, agreeable woman or 5 dates per month with low/medium interest, difficult women, i'd picker the former every time, even if the latter are hotter.

This is exactly what I needed. I recently had an LTR with a girl who was HOT but honestly difficult to deal with. Sometimes combative/argumentative. Definitely not worth it.

I think a slight downgrade looks wise, with an easygoing feminine women is much more preferable.

 

[BeExcellent]

What if in your LTR she has disrespected you a few times and is always going off the handle with arguments.

That's what I had with my ex, so I ended things and walked away.

Things felt very unstable and marriage/children years of commitment together seemed like something unachievable with her. She had a combative/agressive streak to her.

Well as you noted in your response to @FlexpertHamilton above, you’ve got to decide what amount of peace you need to function in your life. Select potential partners accordingly.

When you calibrate to being around beautiful women that is only step one. Step 2 is to treat them like normal people (and expect good behavior from them.)

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

This is exactly what I needed. I recently had an LTR with a girl who was HOT but honestly difficult to deal with. Sometimes combative/argumentative. Definitely not worth it.

I think a slight downgrade looks wise, with an easygoing feminine women is much more preferable.

Men deal with disagreeable people all day, the last thing we need is to come home to a woman who is disagreeable too. I can't stand it anymore, it repulses me. I'd pick a plain jane 5/10 who's kind and agreeable over a 8/10 disagreeable, argumentative bvtch. Though in my experience there is basically zero correlation between looks and agreeableness at least in the mid range (once you deal with >8's it's almost a guarantee they'll be a headache).

 

[soulforge]

Men deal with disagreeable people all day, the last thing we need is to come home to a woman who is disagreeable too. I can't stand it anymore, it repulses me. I'd pick a plain jane 5/10 who's kind and agreeable over a 8/10 disagreeable, argumentative bvtch. Though in my experience there is basically zero correlation between looks and agreeableness at least in the mid range (once you deal with >8's it's almost a guarantee they'll be a headache).

I think an easy going 7/10 is possible. She doesn't have to have a beautiful face, but I do want a nice figure on her.

But I agree man, I absolutely can't stand being around a chick who will question/challenge every move or decision I make. Or simply get angry/combative over things.

 

[IKO69]

Really good. Keep this in mind: if you have no standards you will be walked on like a doormat.

Many men don't which is why women behave the way they do. If you put a glitch in the matrix and she happens to like you in some capacity, you will be in big with her. Women RESPECT strong men who can walk the walk and talk the talk, not simps they can lead with their v.

 

[manfrombelow]

Really good. Keep this in mind: if you have no standards you will be walked on like a doormat.

Many men don't which is why women behave the way they do. If you put a glitch in the matrix and she happens to like you in some capacity, you will be in big with her. Women RESPECT strong men who can walk the walk and talk the talk, not simps they can lead with their v.

Not only women, but in terrms of everything else in life, we must have and maintain our standards. Men are getting too nice and pvssified nowadays.

 

[soulforge]

Really good. Keep this in mind: if you have no standards you will be walked on like a doormat.

Many men don't which is why women behave the way they do. If you put a glitch in the matrix and she happens to like you in some capacity, you will be in big with her. Women RESPECT strong men who can walk the walk and talk the talk, not simps they can lead with their v.

Disrespect from a female doesn't necessarily have to be OVERT disrespect. Like she tells you to fvk off or something.

Her overall behaviour should be considered.
Is she uncooperative, combative, making your life difficult, she doesn't bring peace to your life.

We should have a very low tolerance for all bad behaviour, including obvious disrespect.

 

[Fortune_favors_the_bold]

Always a please to be read again such threads.

Good content and nostalgia are an amazing combo.

Funny how when wrote the second post 11 yrs ago with my old nick, I had nowhere the experience I have now yet the world was such a more simple place.