Messed up with hb 10 at the gym, is she in Autorejection? Can it be saved?

[Hollywood4life]

This happened to me like two days ago. My cousins are 18 and just graduated. They threw a party. A couple of their friends were at a different table watching two of my kids. The friends were hot, right or wrong I could sense that feisty attitude a couple of the girls had right away and so when I said hey are they behaving and the one particularly edgy girl goes ‘yeah they are’ I could have sworn she said ‘yeah we are’ and i immediately was like ‘no not you, them’ and I immediately in my head was like ‘ah dude what are you doing’ lol. But then you know what… I knew immediately the only way to handle this is to act like it never happened and that you did nothing wrong. Because you didn’t!

You’re not going to be kicked out of the gym because you told her she was cute.

you’re not ‘punishing’ her by going or not going. You’re only punishing yourself because your fitness and your self confidence are going to suffer, while your anxiety wins and her self esteem gets a boost.

you can’t run away from your problems. It happens.

thanks for the story glad I’m not the only one lol

 

[Divorced w 3]

I look like Zack


thanks for the story glad I’m not the only one lol

Bro if you look like Zac Effron just shed the experience and keep moving forward lol.

 

[Hollywood4life]

Bro if you look like Zac Effron just shed the experience and keep moving forward lol.

was gonna say zac efron from high school musical Lol,yeah moving on

 

[redpiller1988]

The fact that you came on here and asked "can it be saved" means you've already lost her my man. You're complicating things way more than you need to. Forget all about her and go on with your normal gym routine like she doesn't even exist. I also wouldn't waste your time with an 18 year old.

If anything work on approaching other girls who give you IOI's at the gym. If an opportunity presents itself, go for it. Don't be hard on yourself either if you **** up the approach. You're already ahead of 99 percent of other guys just by saying hello to a female in the gym.

 

[Hollywood4life]

The fact that you came on here and asked "can it be saved" means you've already lost her my man. You're complicating things way more than you need to. Forget all about her and go on with your normal gym routine like she doesn't even exist. I also wouldn't waste your time with an 18 year old.

If anything work on approaching other girls who give you IOI's at the gym. If an opportunity presents itself, go for it. Don't be hard on yourself either if you **** up the approach. You're already ahead of 99 percent of other guys just by saying hello to a female in the gym.

thanks man

 

[redpiller1988]

thanks man

Welcome bro. The gym is a tough spot IMO. Capitalizing on IOI’s from women at the gym is something I’m trying to work on as well.

 

[Smok1nAce]

OP STOP STOP STOP STOP HOLD THE PHONE STOP STOP

YOU ARE THE MAN, YOU HOLD FRAME!!

Lets get one thing straight!!

What do you want from her, this guy summed it up pretty good about women and thier game of resentment.

Yea this was the death knell , she gave you an opening and you ran away from it

Women really hate this kind of situation because in her mind it feels like you have rejected her

That is why she's forsaken you and gone to the trouble of humiliating you with the other guy

It's a brutal situation but you must learn your lesson from it

NEVER approach a woman without 100% knowing what you want to get out of it and from her

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Back when I was using swipe apps I matched a PT in my gym ,I wasn't really that sure about her and mainly matched her because I had seen her in the gym

She was boring the conversation went dead and I ended up unpatching her , about 3 weeks later I randomly saw her in the gym and ended up having to make some small talk

The conversation wasn't awkward. but I recognise in hindsight I was probably giving her mixed signals

I left it at that .........fast forward another 3 weeks and she is using a piece of equipment I wanted to use I just go over say Hi and ask when she will be done

She's SUPER frosty to the point where she was almost rude

This example isn't as bad as yours because I really wasn't that bothered about her in the first place , but it's still awkward now whenever we are there together and she has a HUGE wall up towards me

Women hold grudges a lot longer than men

My advice would be to just ignore her and continue your usual routine chatting to other men and women in the gym

its not really a big deal and time will solve it

Now lets move forward as a man, not a coward. You dont ignore her, (if you still want to sleep with her) but you clearly know she a jump off, a sluut, a h03 from her little stunt. So now you know she not long term anything. After her stunt I wouldn't even take her out to dinner, or give her my number, this will only make you look beta.

Depending on how much balls you have you have two options,

a) either go about you business and next time her see her you clearly point out that her behavior was atrocious, you dont date hoes and walk away without a word or explanation. This is if you see her in week or so, if you dont see her in a week or two then it should be out of you mind and if you walk by and see her again just smile and move on (you dont entertain ho3s).

b) next time she "avoids you", you deliberately walk up to her and flirt harder, comment on how nice her as$ looks today, or how you where thinking what you do to her when she walked by. But do not bring up her behavior with the other guy.

Option A gives you an out of that you know what she is and you dont tolerate that and its her lose.

Option B asserts you frame as she is now to you just a hoe to be used for flirting with. Try lighlight touching her in some type of way, if she dosnet recipricate back off but still continue flirting heavy. And when you talk with her everything should be leading toward sex, like your inital convo. If she does ever bring up any type of outside activates or trys to escalate the situation. You say I have a car in parking lot with a clean back seat. If you that dosent work you contuine with even more open flirtations and cat calls until she either gives in or ignores you and labels you a creep (witch shouldn't bother you because you already know the score). This could take months but she will only get you number and a date once sex is given.


The hardest lesson is to know what type of women your dealing with OP (some are ho3s, sluts, jump off, thots). What she did was clearly a ho3ish move. Yes they come off nice and sweet and charming but women should always be judged on her actions.

You havnt lost anything yet considereing she put alot of effort into stunt. You just finding out (and shes showing you) what type of women she is. The guy she was talking to means nothing just another suker.

 

[Hollywood4life]

OP STOP STOP STOP STOP HOLD THE PHONE STOP STOP

YOU ARE THE MAN, YOU HOLD FRAME!!

Lets get one thing straight!!

What do you want from her, this guy summed it up pretty good about women and thier game of resentment.






Now lets move forward as a man, not a coward. You dont ignore her, (if you still want to sleep with her) but you clearly know she a jump off, a sluut, a h03 from her little stunt. So now you know she not long term anything. After her stunt I wouldn't even take her out to dinner, or give her my number, this will only make you look beta.

Depending on how much balls you have you have two options,

a) either go about you business and next time her see her you clearly point out that her behavior was atrocious, you dont date hoes and walk away without a word or explanation. This is if you see her in week or so, if you dont see her in a week or two then it should be out of you mind and if you walk by and see her again just smile and move on (you dont entertain ho3s).

b) next time she "avoids you", you deliberately walk up to her and flirt harder, comment on how nice her as$ looks today, or how you where thinking what you do to her when she walked by. But do not bring up her behavior with the other guy.

Option A gives you an out of that you know what she is and you dont tolerate that and its her lose.

Option B asserts you frame as she is now to you just a hoe to be used for flirting with. Try lighlight touching her in some type of way, if she dosnet recipricate back off but still continue flirting heavy. And when you talk with her everything should be leading toward sex, like your inital convo. If she does ever bring up any type of outside activates or trys to escalate the situation. You say I have a car in parking lot with a clean back seat. If you that dosent work you contuine with even more open flirtations and cat calls until she either gives in or ignores you and labels you a creep (witch shouldn't bother you because you already know the score). This could take months but she will only get you number and a date once sex is given.


The hardest lesson is to know what type of women your dealing with OP (some are ho3s, sluts, jump off, thots). What she did was clearly a ho3ish move. Yes they come off nice and sweet and charming but women should always be judged on her actions.

You havnt lost anything yet considereing she put alot of effort into stunt. You just finding out (and shes showing you) what type of women she is. The guy she was talking to means nothing just another suker.

good stuff,I had no clue about the psychology of Sluttiness of a woman, idk why I never thought of that because it actually plays a huge factor

do you go into approaches trying to spot a h0e/thot etc and act on it accordingly ? I never even thought of it like that… I always go in with light sexual/teasing BUT I only do daygame, but I could be ramping it up with some woman to get them more interested if there are said h0e/slut/thot?

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

Little background …this girl gave me approached invitations from the get go (being in my area 24/7 , asking me to help spot her etc )

You should have closed in on it right there.

Anyways I’ve approached this girl 3 different times ,all under 30 seconds I guess because I didn’t want to interrupt her workout because I see talking to “gym guys” all the time … so i don’t know her really at all still….

bad excuse but I’m normally able to stay in the interaction as long as need be,but at the gym it’s different story for me,it’s always been so much harder than other day game spots (streets,mall etc)

I understand.

well the last time I talked to her was right in front of the gym before she walked in and I was leaving…..

I told her that her and sister looked like twins (her sister comes to the gym too,the look a lot alike) and the only reason I could tell them apart was because she was cutier. She replied well you’re cutier than your brother with a giant smile( I take my twin brother with me a lot ).

I immediately replied “I have to go see ya later “ because I could feel her sister standing directly behind me at this point (she must of just got there coming in )….I know I was major beta biacth for this and probably ruined it..

Yeah you ruined it, for that moment.

so for the last week since at the gym she stays away for me and leaves the vacinity if I come anywhere close …except for yesterday…

I was on treadmill and it must of been a guy she’s been to high school with on the treadmill directly to my left, she hops on next to him and starts talking about old times at high school( she’s 18) very loud and over emphasising …so loud I can hear everything and she’s asking him questions ,feels forced …it feels like she was trying to make me jealous .. she’s so into him the guy asks her to hangout over the weekend to go swimming and she replies “we should get dinner first “ …

I know it’s 1 girl and move on and there’s no excuse to keep trying or overthink this one .. but I’m there everyday and she is to so I might as well …if it’s savable, that’s what I’m asking

It is savable.

First off, I agree.

She was trying to make you jealous.

That is actually a choosing signal, which means she still has, at the very least, slight interest in you.

What you should do is...the next time you see her, boldly step to her and say..

"So, can I get your number or not?"

No puzzy footing.

No playing it safe.

No tip toeing.

Be bold.

Be proud.

Be a man.

If she say declines, do not utter one more word to her.

Give an acknowledging head nod, and simply walk away...like a BOSS.

And don't speak to her again.

I guarantee you will feel 10x better now that you have closure.

Now, of course, I could prescribe to you MODE ONE..but the gym is not the place.

 

[RangerMIke]

The OP is reading too much into this. She isn't interested, or available or both. It happens... just move on.

 

[Barrister]

This is a lot of to do over nothing.

OP - you lost your opening, but really nothing else happened. You didn't say anything you need to be embarrassed about. On the surface, you just made some small talk with this girl. Go about your business as usual. The other guys telling you to work out somewhere else are overreacting IMO. Act like nothing happened.

 

[Smok1nAce]

good stuff,I had no clue about the psychology of Sluttiness of a woman, idk why I never thought of that because it actually plays a huge factor

do you go into approaches trying to spot a h0e/thot etc and act on it accordingly ? I never even thought of it like that… I always go in with light sexual/teasing BUT I only do daygame, but I could be ramping it up with some woman to get them more interested if there are said h0e/slut/thot?

Depends I'm older in my early 30s and I a good looking professional dude, so approaching every woman with light sexual/teasing, depending on the setting makes me come of as a jerk wannabe. If I see a good looking woman and want to F I engage her and usually within the first few seconds I can tell what she about.

Usually you can tell just by looking at a women or the way she looks at you if she a thot. But being honest most women are on some spectrum of the ho3 meter. Once you engage from the initial convo you should be able to get a grasp of what she about.

Ho3s are to be used. For sexual gratification. Its up to you to determine what you want out of her. It sounds to me like this woman is ho3 who enjoys teasing men. So I would tease back sexually, with in reason and have fun with it. It should build your confidence. You may F, you may not but a least you and her are on the same page. Thats life woman control who they have sex with, men determine what they want to have a relationship with. Being frustrated by the matter only gives her more power over you, at the end of the day its just s3x so who really is winning in life. Some guys have class like james bond, other guys cut to the chase, think like a construction worker cat calling a woman in a skirt as she walks by.


Play your cards right and 5 months from now you might be Fuk1n in the back of the gym, just dont put alot of effort into tying to set something up outside the gym. I wouldn't even give her a chance to get your number till she flashes you a titty or something, lol jk...not really. Approach her in a fun way and with the first comments being on how good she looks, then slowly when she gets used to it, up the stakes. She may roll her eyes or pout but if she sticking around its workin and your using her for sexual gratification. (this is initially why she started to avoid you, because your first approach on her was successful, in her mind. You told her she looked good and she gave you the time of day, she felt used and the little ho3 didnt know how to act when you left her in her own emotions) and I bet after that initial convo, she felt confused but you left the gym a happy go lucky guy. Thats what I mean. USE HER.

The treadmill stunt by her was a draw, considering you could play it off like you may or may not have heard it. Idk if you got her name, if you didn't its to late, and dont ask for it again. Depending on the situation initially you should always ask for a girls name if you interested in sex, shows class and works to your benefit. If you dont know what to say after getting her name act like you have an imporatnt phone call and bounce out the area, to return later once your nerves calm down, I digress. But anyways next time she pulls a stunt like that you need to turn around immediately and look her up and down and say something sexual. Your mindset is she a ho3 and everyone gets a ride but I was inline first. You could have said, "Hey ___, I was gonna ask you out for drinks Thursday night, why does he get to skip in line before me". Say it playfully and like its all a big game to you (because it is playa) her response should be priceless and you might get a laugh out it. You made it personal with her name and you made it direct by stating your intentions and called her out on her ho3 behavior. When dealing with thots, their is always some chump in the corner who knows nothing, dont be that guy.

Just do not loose your dignity by getting upset or mad. When dealing with ho3s you should always play it like you went back 20 years to middle school. The most reckless ho3s will take cheap shots at you and try and play you down (talk about your clouthes, car, haircut, degree, $$, ect..). This means nothing and is just to shake you, remember dont loose your cool. (That treadmill stunt was just to rattle you, but I guess that day you didnt have time to be messing with the hoes playa). Alywas follow up an attack from her with silence and a smile or with something sexual, because thats all she means to you. With every woman nowadays playing being thots, is this girl really a stone cold ho3, probably not but at least you know the depths of ho3ish woman.

Some guys are saying get her number, ect. My advice would be no, she displayed bad cuunty behavior it shouldnt be rewarded with a phone call from you, and would only setting yourself up for failure imo. Dosent mean the relationship is over but your F-up at the beginning is really your saving grace by showing you what type of woman your dealing with. Most guys dont get near this type of clarity until their knee deep and its to late. Think about that guy she was talking to on the treadmill, probally dosent have a clue. Its why its so important to know what type of woman your dealing with a go at it accordingly.



Your good bro just some ho3 at the gym you got caught up with. Like another poster said at the end of the day your their to work out, she gonna do what she does and your gonna do what you do. Just dont licked like a suka in the process.