Messed up with hb 10 at the gym, is she in Autorejection? Can it be saved?

[Hollywood4life]

Little background …this girl gave me approached invitations from the get go (being in my area 24/7 , asking me to help spot her etc )

Anyways I’ve approached this girl 3 different times ,all under 30 seconds I guess because I didn’t want to interrupt her workout because I see talking to “gym guys” all the time … so i don’t know her really at all still….

bad excuse but I’m normally able to stay in the interaction as long as need be,but at the gym it’s different story for me,it’s always been so much harder than other day game spots (streets,mall etc)

well the last time I talked to her was right in front of the gym before she walked in and I was leaving…..

I told her that her and sister looked like twins (her sister comes to the gym too,the look a lot alike) and the only reason I could tell them apart was because she was cutier. She replied well you’re cutier than your brother with a giant smile( I take my twin brother with me a lot ).

I immediately replied “I have to go see ya later “ because I could feel her sister standing directly behind me at this point (she must of just got there coming in )….I know I was major beta biacth for this and probably ruined it..

so for the last week since at the gym she stays away for me and leaves the vacinity if I come anywhere close …except for yesterday…

I was on treadmill and it must of been a guy she’s been to high school with on the treadmill directly to my left, she hops on next to him and starts talking about old times at high school( she’s 18) very loud and over emphasising …so loud I can hear everything and she’s asking him questions ,feels forced …it feels like she was trying to make me jealous .. she’s so into him the guy asks her to hangout over the weekend to go swimming and she replies “we should get dinner first “ …

I know it’s 1 girl and move on and there’s no excuse to keep trying or overthink this one .. but I’m there everyday and she is to so I might as well …if it’s savable, that’s what I’m asking

 

[manfrombelow]

If I was you, I would find another gym at least for now so I could avoid meeting her.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Keep working out and act like she doesn’t exist. If the opportunity arises chat with other girls. I asked a personal trainer out once and i misunderstood her terrible sales pitch as flirting and then she showed me her ring. It happens. Worst thing you can do is run away from the gym. The gym is a sanctuary.

 

[Hollywood4life]

Keep working out and act like she doesn’t exist. If the opportunity arises chat with other girls. I asked a personal trainer out once and i misunderstood her terrible sales pitch as flirting and then she showed me her ring. It happens. Worst thing you can do is run away from the gym. The gym is a sanctuary.

Yeah I can’t run away don’t really have another good gym in my 15k town lol

 

[Hollywood4life]

If I was you, I would find another gym at least for now so I could avoid meeting her.

I would if I had another big gym ,I need to move I know 15k town it’s the shtts for woman

 

[BillyPilgrim]

OP can you work out at home until this chick forgets about you? She's being a B, let her anger find another outlet. You don't need people giving you crap when you're trying to work out. This chick is trying to teach you a lesson by being over the top. F her.

 

[Hollywood4life]

This girl is a d1ck. I'd troll her OP.

I think she was trying to make me jealous because it was just so ridiculous..the guy is RIGHT next to me…yeah she went way over the top though…I plan on getting back at her if my shot is already blown

 

[BillyPilgrim]

I think she was trying to make me jealous because it was just so ridiculous..the guy is RIGHT next to me…yeah she went way over the top though

Man you guys need to let a man edit his posts, god damn it.

Don't bother trolling her, it's the only gym in town and she knows she can push your buttons and claim she "feels uncomfortable". Best to avoid in the meantime.

 

[Divorced w 3]

You literally need to just ignore her. Act like she doesn’t exist.

 

[Hollywood4life]

You guys are right she went over the top I can’t reward that…not going for awhile..she could claim I make her uncomfortable and be kicked out…I didn’t even realise what your guys were saying until now…gonna stop going for 2 weeks

 

[CornbreadFed]

This is why you don't shvt where you eat.

 

[kavi]

Dont be weird man just go to the gym and be normal its all good bro u were just making convo when ur at the gym u shudnt even notice her i dont get why men are so weak bruh u gonna take 2 weeks off gym cos ur scared of some girl wth bruh

 

[BackInTheGame78]

She is playing games with you hoping you do exactly what you are doing now, spinning your hamster wheel.

Why? Because it's fun, that's why.

 

[Divorced w 3]

You guys are right she went over the top I can’t reward that…not going for awhile..she could claim I make her uncomfortable and be kicked out…I didn’t even realise what your guys were saying until now…gonna stop going for 2 weeks

This happened to me like two days ago. My cousins are 18 and just graduated. They threw a party. A couple of their friends were at a different table watching two of my kids. The friends were hot, right or wrong I could sense that feisty attitude a couple of the girls had right away and so when I said hey are they behaving and the one particularly edgy girl goes ‘yeah they are’ I could have sworn she said ‘yeah we are’ and i immediately was like ‘no not you, them’ and I immediately in my head was like ‘ah dude what are you doing’ lol. But then you know what… I knew immediately the only way to handle this is to act like it never happened and that you did nothing wrong. Because you didn’t!

You’re not going to be kicked out of the gym because you told her she was cute.

you’re not ‘punishing’ her by going or not going. You’re only punishing yourself because your fitness and your self confidence are going to suffer, while your anxiety wins and her self esteem gets a boost.

you can’t run away from your problems. It happens.

 

[Bingo-Player]

I told her that her and sister looked like twins (her sister comes to the gym too,the look a lot alike) and the only reason I could tell them apart was because she was cutier. She replied well you’re cutier than your brother with a giant smile( I take my twin brother with me a lot ).

I immediately replied “I have to go see ya later “ because I could feel her sister standing directly behind me at this point (she must of just got there coming in )….I know I was major beta biacth for this and probably ruined it..

so for the last week since at the gym she stays away for me and leaves the vacinity if I come anywhere close …except for yesterday…

Yea this was the death knell , she gave you an opening and you ran away from it

Women really hate this kind of situation because in her mind it feels like you have rejected her

That is why she's forsaken you and gone to the trouble of humiliating you with the other guy

It's a brutal situation but you must learn your lesson from it

NEVER approach a woman without 100% knowing what you want to get out of it and from her

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Back when I was using swipe apps I matched a PT in my gym ,I wasn't really that sure about her and mainly matched her because I had seen her in the gym

She was boring the conversation went dead and I ended up unpatching her , about 3 weeks later I randomly saw her in the gym and ended up having to make some small talk

The conversation wasn't awkward. but I recognise in hindsight I was probably giving her mixed signals

I left it at that .........fast forward another 3 weeks and she is using a piece of equipment I wanted to use I just go over say Hi and ask when she will be done

She's SUPER frosty to the point where she was almost rude

This example isn't as bad as yours because I really wasn't that bothered about her in the first place , but it's still awkward now whenever we are there together and she has a HUGE wall up towards me

Women hold grudges a lot longer than men

My advice would be to just ignore her and continue your usual routine chatting to other men and women in the gym

its not really a big deal and time will solve it

 

[Learning Curve]

Don't switch gym for any woman.

Ignore her.

If she initiates contact tease her, be c0cky and playful.

 

[SW15]

I would if I had another big gym ,I need to move I know 15k town it’s the shtts for woman

That's really the bigger problem here. A town with a population of 15,000 is insufficient for dating.

Little background …this girl gave me approached invitations from the get go (being in my area 24/7 , asking me to help spot her etc )

Anyways I’ve approached this girl 3 different times ,all under 30 seconds I guess because I didn’t want to interrupt her workout because I see talking to “gym guys” all the time … so i don’t know her really at all still….

( she’s 18)

She's 18 and you're 35. It is low probability that a 35 year old can successfully seduce an 18 year old. You have to be outstanding in some way.

At least you got IOIs. That's good. The first conversation with IOI needed to involve you asking her out within 5-10 minutes of conversation. If you're totally going Mode One, that time would be even less. You can always use the false time constraint tactic to arrange a first date/collect a phone number. It's better yet if it is a true time constraint. Anyway, the first interaction needed to involve an ask out. You know where you stand.

At this point, if you were in a bigger city and there wasn't anything special about this gym, I would suggest to you to change gyms. For right now, you have to ignore her at the gym if you keep seeing her there.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Wait she’s 18 and you’re 35? Holy smokes batman. She is gonna see you as a man child. Get back in there now and act like she is the water girl.

 

[MtmVaott]

Little background …this girl gave me approached invitations from the get go (being in my area 24/7 , asking me to help spot her etc )

Anyways I’ve approached this girl 3 different times ,all under 30 seconds I guess because I didn’t want to interrupt her workout because I see talking to “gym guys” all the time … so i don’t know her really at all still….

bad excuse but I’m normally able to stay in the interaction as long as need be,but at the gym it’s different story for me,it’s always been so much harder than other day game spots (streets,mall etc)

well the last time I talked to her was right in front of the gym before she walked in and I was leaving…..

I told her that her and sister looked like twins (her sister comes to the gym too,the look a lot alike) and the only reason I could tell them apart was because she was cutier. She replied well you’re cutier than your brother with a giant smile( I take my twin brother with me a lot ).

I immediately replied “I have to go see ya later “ because I could feel her sister standing directly behind me at this point (she must of just got there coming in )….I know I was major beta biacth for this and probably ruined it..

so for the last week since at the gym she stays away for me and leaves the vacinity if I come anywhere close …except for yesterday…

I was on treadmill and it must of been a guy she’s been to high school with on the treadmill directly to my left, she hops on next to him and starts talking about old times at high school( she’s 18) very loud and over emphasising …so loud I can hear everything and she’s asking him questions ,feels forced …it feels like she was trying to make me jealous .. she’s so into him the guy asks her to hangout over the weekend to go swimming and she replies “we should get dinner first “ …

I know it’s 1 girl and move on and there’s no excuse to keep trying or overthink this one .. but I’m there everyday and she is to so I might as well …if it’s savable, that’s what I’m asking

What is the problem here? I don't understand.

Go to the gym like normal. Let her do her thing. You don't know why she does what she does. One day a woman does this, the next she does that. You just do your thing and maybe she will get back into contact with you, or maybe she doesn't. Anyway, it doesn't matter, becuase you go to the gym to train first and foremost. If you are implicitely more interested in getting to know women than to train, I suggest to cancel the gym membership and instead do female crowded hobbies or whatever.

 

[Hollywood4life]

That's really the bigger problem here. A town with a population of 15,000 is insufficient for dating.



She's 18 and you're 35. It is low probability that a 35 year old can successfully seduce an 18 year old. You have to be outstanding in some way.

At least you got IOIs. That's good. The first conversation with IOI needed to involve you asking her out within 5-10 minutes of conversation. If you're totally going Mode One, that time would be even less. You can always use the false time constraint tactic to arrange a first date/collect a phone number. It's better yet if it is a true time constraint. Anyway, the first interaction needed to involve an ask out. You know where you stand.

At this point, if you were in a bigger city and there wasn't anything special about this gym, I would suggest to you to change gyms. For right now, you have to ignore her at the gym if you keep seeing her there.

That's really the bigger problem here. A town with a population of 15,000 is insufficient for dating.



She's 18 and you're 35. It is low probability that a 35 year old can successfully seduce an 18 year old. You have to be outstanding in some way.

At least you got IOIs. That's good. The first conversation with IOI needed to involve you asking her out within 5-10 minutes of conversation. If you're totally going Mode One, that time would be even less. You can always use the false time constraint tactic to arrange a first date/collect a phone number. It's better yet if it is a true time constraint. Anyway, the first interaction needed to involve an ask out. You know where you stand.

At this point, if you were in a bigger city and there wasn't anything special about this gym, I would suggest to you to change gyms. For right now, you have to ignore her at the gym if you keep seeing her there.

I look 22,23 from what the girls always guess when I ask and let them think that’s how old I am …

I didn’t think looking 35 would matter much done the line anyway but it does, I don’t follow the forum much at all anymore,but I do I follow a lot of the YouTube stuff like coachkyle,a.g hayden, etc

This is a whole new outlook for me because the most of the girls I approach or the ones I get iois to are 18-23. If you’re out alone and look 18 or on the edge I’m approaching because with how small of town I’m in I might not see another one for a day or two…

But with the gym I’m going to just play it cool do my thing and stay at my gym ….

yeah 15k is horrible with the dating market here… I don’t like nightgame so I’m pigeoned holed into the mall where I get the majority of the woman I’ve got (yeah I know I’m 35 but who cares I want woman ). Or places like Walmart,groceries stores .I have to move and been procrastinating to long …