Fortune_favors_the_bold
Master Don Juan
I'm talking about past traumas wheter we talk about family, peer group, first interactions with girls and early dating.
We often talk about the well known phenomenon of daddy issues where young girls neglected from their fathers develop a crave for attention from men that pushes them into any kind of behaviour that grant them as much as we are aware about how the lack of a decent father figure strongly damange the psychological and emotional growth of young men.
Despite the topic is far from new, we often fail to realize how otherwise decent families apparently, deliver strong blows to the chance of a sane growth to a young man.
Anxious moms and too strict fathers that boss a kid around or use him as an emotional punchbag are an example of that.
There was an experiment made of very young kids who came from distressed families that were either neglected or exposed to strefful environment...the result was that sane kids positively reacted to new toys and next tasks while the damaged one ignored them to focus on the observer of the experiment trying to figure out if they were angry or problematic.
Does this ring a bell? wanna talk about school performances or extra curricular activities?
Then as @SW15 reminded us in other threads there is the damage coming from relocations in early age that basically reset your peer group and social circle with all the issues that come with it in terms of acceptance, status or bullying.
Then it comes the sensitive part, girls.
Did they made fun of you at school cause you were fat? did they just ignored you while worshipping young chad and making sure you had it clear in your head that you werent enough? Did stacy mocked you when you invited to dance and bragged about it with her friends?
Did you enjoyed a non stop series of friendzoning after investing money and time...did you experience the one date, no sex, no second pattern for months?
Well you may be a succesful individual, you finally got your body in top shape as much as your finances yet all those experiences are there with you...they are part of your operative system at a deeper root than whater update you can willingly get later.
I'm not saying to make fun or laught at anyone here, I come from a very emotionally distant family, basically could never count on them regardless my needs.
All they cared about were themselves plus my mother that granted me the amazing gift of kicking out my dad (weak beta) and replace him with a belligerant angry men obsessessed about being the undisputed leader in the house...had to wait till I became bigger and stronger than him to finally find peace.
What a young man can get after observing his own mother dumping his own father as trash and replace him with an other...it's not even about her not giving an F about him, its her not giving an F about the kid either.
Also had conflicting relations with thos cvunts of my teachers, mostly leftist middle aged women...I can easily tell you that even now I feel a strong sense of disgust anytime I face a woman of that age groups with their lipstick, fake nails and attitude even if they are lawyers working for me or nice waitresses.
I'm also only partially able to pair bond with girls regardless how cute, lovely or warm they are to me, I often have to pretend affection cause I understand what is the fair and appropriate behaviour yet I dont feel the emotions I should, I find myself distant.
Anytime my gf leaves my home I often trash the sweets she bought me cause they dont fit my macros, I wash the towels we used cause they smell like pvssy juice and swet.
If she was to dump me, I would say ok and put down the phone with no heart beat or emotion involved...happened before exactly like that.
Now going back to those incels that apprently became the enemy of the state in the modern world, are we sure it's all their fault? are we sure that they should just work on their "confidence"?
In my life I never met a well adjusted productive man which remained such and who didnt come from a sane backround.
We often talk about the well known phenomenon of daddy issues where young girls neglected from their fathers develop a crave for attention from men that pushes them into any kind of behaviour that grant them as much as we are aware about how the lack of a decent father figure strongly damange the psychological and emotional growth of young men.
Despite the topic is far from new, we often fail to realize how otherwise decent families apparently, deliver strong blows to the chance of a sane growth to a young man.
Anxious moms and too strict fathers that boss a kid around or use him as an emotional punchbag are an example of that.
There was an experiment made of very young kids who came from distressed families that were either neglected or exposed to strefful environment...the result was that sane kids positively reacted to new toys and next tasks while the damaged one ignored them to focus on the observer of the experiment trying to figure out if they were angry or problematic.
Does this ring a bell? wanna talk about school performances or extra curricular activities?
Then as @SW15 reminded us in other threads there is the damage coming from relocations in early age that basically reset your peer group and social circle with all the issues that come with it in terms of acceptance, status or bullying.
Then it comes the sensitive part, girls.
Did they made fun of you at school cause you were fat? did they just ignored you while worshipping young chad and making sure you had it clear in your head that you werent enough? Did stacy mocked you when you invited to dance and bragged about it with her friends?
Did you enjoyed a non stop series of friendzoning after investing money and time...did you experience the one date, no sex, no second pattern for months?
Well you may be a succesful individual, you finally got your body in top shape as much as your finances yet all those experiences are there with you...they are part of your operative system at a deeper root than whater update you can willingly get later.
I'm not saying to make fun or laught at anyone here, I come from a very emotionally distant family, basically could never count on them regardless my needs.
All they cared about were themselves plus my mother that granted me the amazing gift of kicking out my dad (weak beta) and replace him with a belligerant angry men obsessessed about being the undisputed leader in the house...had to wait till I became bigger and stronger than him to finally find peace.
What a young man can get after observing his own mother dumping his own father as trash and replace him with an other...it's not even about her not giving an F about him, its her not giving an F about the kid either.
Also had conflicting relations with thos cvunts of my teachers, mostly leftist middle aged women...I can easily tell you that even now I feel a strong sense of disgust anytime I face a woman of that age groups with their lipstick, fake nails and attitude even if they are lawyers working for me or nice waitresses.
I'm also only partially able to pair bond with girls regardless how cute, lovely or warm they are to me, I often have to pretend affection cause I understand what is the fair and appropriate behaviour yet I dont feel the emotions I should, I find myself distant.
Anytime my gf leaves my home I often trash the sweets she bought me cause they dont fit my macros, I wash the towels we used cause they smell like pvssy juice and swet.
If she was to dump me, I would say ok and put down the phone with no heart beat or emotion involved...happened before exactly like that.
Now going back to those incels that apprently became the enemy of the state in the modern world, are we sure it's all their fault? are we sure that they should just work on their "confidence"?
In my life I never met a well adjusted productive man which remained such and who didnt come from a sane backround.
