On jealousy

[Macadellic]

Over/under set at 3 months before it happens again.

Over +105
Under -120

I bet the under

 

[Divorced w 3]

Over/under set at 3 months before it happens again.

Over +105
Under -120

I bet the under

Well let’s hope you’re both wrong! But if not so be it.

 

[Ricky]

Good point, twice in 3 days she’s watched her man stay silent while other men touch and eye fvck her in front of him. Slippery slope to cucksville.

Its a tough situation because if he acts jealous he comes off as weak, but if he accepts her bad behavior he comes off as weak too. It’s understandable why there arent great choices in these situations

 

[Divorced w 3]

Its a tough situation because if he acts jealous he comes off as weak, but if he accepts her bad behavior he comes off as weak too. It’s understandable why there arent great choices in these situations

Honestly it gets clearer to me as time passes. It’s just a learning experience. Some of the toughest guys on the planet look like housecats in public. You don’t do your own dirty work.

 

[BeExcellent]

I think you handled it well. You were rational and let her figure it out.

She would NOT have appreciated if you had done same. That was wise on your part.

Now you observe her behavior. She said the right things. Pay attention to what she does.

 

[Divorced w 3]

I think you handled it well. You were rational and let her figure it out.

She would NOT have appreciated if you had done same. That was wise on your part.

Now you observe her behavior. She said the right things. Pay attention to what she does.

Thank you. To handle it with restraint is the toughest thing to do and personally a big step forward. It becomes more apparent to me daily that to expend any energy towards something reduces your worth and increase the other. Has served me well in other facets. It’s how humans work.

Preface from 48 Laws of Power
“Anger is the most destructive of emotional responses, for it clouds your vision the most. It also has a ripple effect that invariably makes situations less controllable and heightens your enemy’s resolve. If you are trying to destroy an enemy who has hurt you, far better to keep him off-guard by feigning friendliness than showing your anger.

Love and affection are also potentially destructive, in that they blind you to the often self-serving interests of those whom you least suspect of playing a power game. You cannot repress anger or love, or avoid feeling them, and you should not try. But you should be careful about how you express them, and most important, they should never influence your plans and strategies in any way.

In fact, the better you are at dealing with power, the better friend, lover, husband, wife, and person you become. By following the route of the perfect courtier (see Law 24) you learn to make others feel better about themselves, becoming a source of pleasure to them. They will grow dependent on your abilities and desirous of your presence. ”

 

[Divorced w 3]

Here’s the strategy, clearly the relationship lost some intrigue and to his credit @BackInTheGame78 saw this coming months ago rat bastard.

I had not seen her since Sunday morning. I came over last night, was super nice did not accept her jumping into my pants via just not taking my clothes off. She did take my shirt off and if she had taken my shorts off I would not have stopped her but she apparently needed to see me do that, so nothing happened and I literally fell asleep. This morning I went to workout and timed it so I wouldn’t have time to hook up. Her face was a dead giveaway.

I originally let her reach out to me this morning and now I am being super nice, and everyone’s very happy and flirty.

I have a concert later with her from my work. Needless to say, any attractive talent in the box will be flirted with. On the way to the show, I’ll tell her that I am going to drop her and head back and blame a morning meeting on my end. This way I’ll have sex but no snuggle time. Then I won’t see her for a week.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Slight adjustment. I’m gonna bang her before we leave, flirt in the box and tell her at the show about the meeting. That way she won’t figure it out. She’ll see me once as a result in two weeks since the wedding.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Here’s the strategy, clearly the relationship lost some intrigue and to his credit @BackInTheGame78 saw this coming months ago rat bastard.

I had not seen her since Sunday morning. I came over last night, was super nice did not accept her jumping into my pants via just not taking my clothes off. She did take my shirt off and if she had taken my shorts off I would not have stopped her but she apparently needed to see me do that, so nothing happened and I literally fell asleep. This morning I went to workout and timed it so I wouldn’t have time to hook up. Her face was a dead giveaway.

I originally let her reach out to me this morning and now I am being super nice, and everyone’s very happy and flirty.

I have a concert later with her from my work. Needless to say, any attractive talent in the box will be flirted with. On the way to the show, I’ll tell her that I am going to drop her and head back and blame a morning meeting on my end. This way I’ll have sex but no snuggle time. Then I won’t see her for a week.

Sorry to see I was right...IMO these are the beginning of the end stages in a relationship where this type of dumb sh!t happens more and more and she almost seems to be encouraging it.

It took me a while to realize that it's being done intentionally with the purpose of having me break up with her because some women don't like doing that and would rather have the guy do it.

Not 100% sure this is what's occuring but it's better than 50/50.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Sorry to see I was right...IMO these are the beginning of the end stages in a relationship where this type of dumb sh!t happens more and more and she almost seems to be encouraging it.

It took me a while to realize that it's being done intentionally with the purpose of having me break up with her because some women don't like doing that and would rather have the guy do it.

Not 100% sure this is what's occuring but it's better than 50/50.

Don’t be sorry bro. You, my boys, others have been telling me for months not to put the pu$$y on a pedestal. That’s just the cost of learning the game again after 14 year being out of it. I’d take those odds. She introduced me to her parents like 4-6 weeks ago and she posted a pic on Instagram Saturday and gave me keys to her apartment that same morning. We will see

 

[Divorced w 3]

There will be no sex tonight either. I just told her I got called into a breakfast meeting and won’t be crashing, and I just made the timeline for the pickup as such where I have to get her and gtfo so we can make the show.

 

[Bingo-Player]

As I mentioned before, as a very staunch alpha male.. I can smell out beta's a mile away.. and you're one of the dudes I said I feel is a beta male.. which explains alot of this behavior. Stop using "i did this to her or we did this or she immediately got on her knees" sexual stuff as some kind of validation for anything.. Its really not at all. It reminds me of dudes who try to relate sex to a girl loving them just to be heartbroken when she leaves and is suddenly in another relationship 2 seconds later.

I concur

I haven't read all the posts but any man who has to use anything as a measure of his power doesn't really have any power at all

OP you appear to have some issues around dominating a woman with sex \\

A woman cannot be dominated with sex , her sex is available to whomever dominates her mind.

 

[Divorced w 3]

I concur

I haven't read all the posts but any man who has to use anything as a measure of his power doesn't really have any power at all

OP you appear to have some issues around dominating a woman with sex \\

A woman cannot be dominated with sex , her sex is available to whomever dominates her mind.

No argument there… again way out if practice. Why do you think I tell you guys. Maybe I’ll stay tonight. I’m making better time than I thought getting to her anyway

 

[Gamisch]

I kinda misunderstood the thread at first. But when it became clear that she actually allowed heavy flirting in front of you twice..and lets not forget that this was actually in your present. Imagine what happens when you're not around. The only cope left is to say she "tried to make you jelous ".

Every relationship we get with a new woman is like a clean spotless white sheet. Over time the sheet will be stained, damaged ect. You can have it professionally cleaned, the past damage will always be visible to you. It will never be like new. Ever.

If you don't dump her, you must at least give her a COMPLETELY different role. Most would say" demote to plate status". In order to do that you know what to do. BUT. If you keep lingering around just this one woman, she'll give you a false sense of security. This will make you return to your old ways( see her as your GF ect) , and the same scenario with even more " spice " will be the recepy. As far as you know ,that is. She might've been cheating on you all along.

Its easier said then done , but IF you could replace her in the blink of an eye, would you even tolerate this and come up with all kinds of "strategic ways to punish her" , or would you simply dump her sorry azz and move on?

 

[BeExcellent]

This is the perfect scenario for Silence & Distance.

Use the search function and find these thread titles. Read the wisdom therein.

You’re welcome

 

[Macadellic]

How about this hug? She knows the guy but she doesn't wanna give you any bad ideas, cause she respects you?

Come on Gainz,
we all know the difference between a friendly hug
- it’s brief ends quickly usually with a pat on the back and or the “oh hi” sideways hug

then there’s the flirtatious hug
and the we have f/cked in the past intimate hug.

 

[Divorced w 3]

I read these updates a couple times through in the bathroom last night over the course of the concert. I took them all very seriously. After the concert with about 30 minutes left in the drive I started the conversation mostly in the tone of @All_Kindz_Of_Gainz but I weaved in the words of everyone who posted last night. We had a blow out fight and it was actually very relieving. I’ll get into it later, the kids are over now.