Why Marriage Doesn't Really Make Sense Anymore

[Bigpapa]

Most relationships don’t last past a couple months nowadays. How you gonna get married when she keeps jumping around from dude to dude every couple months? They all begin the same way too, meet and take a whole bunch of pics to post on social media the first few weeks. Get all your likes and comments, go on expensive trips, then suddenly breakup after 2-4 months, complain about being single and men and then start it all over. Who wants to keep investing in that toxic ****? Not me.

Maybe you should not go to expensive holidays with new girls , and instead use the money and time to meet other chicks?

I have quite a big hunch that you are a big part of your problem too

 

[SW15]

Most relationships don’t last past a couple months nowadays. How you gonna get married when she keeps jumping around from dude to dude every couple months?

Most people are able to get at least one relationship lasting beyond 2-3 months.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

False. Men who get married live longer because women sexually reject genetically inferior men.

If the 6'4" star QB is more likely to be in a relationship than the socially awkward 5'6" nerd, should we conclude being in a relationship is more likely to make you a star QB?

Good cope but the studies would already adjust for that. Stop trying to make sh!t up based on whatever you think is the answer with no basis in reality for it.

 

[Snag87]

Good cope but the studies would already adjust for that. Stop trying to make sh!t up based on whatever you think is the answer with no basis in reality for it.

Care to provide evidence the studies adjust for that?

How am I making **** up? Is a homeless bum living in a tent more likely to be single than a millionaire?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Care to provide evidence the studies adjust for that?

How am I making **** up? Is a homeless bum living in a tent more likely to be single than a millionaire?

Google is your friend. I don't have time to spoon-feed a grown man.

 

[Robert28]

Maybe you should not go to expensive holidays with new girls , and instead use the money and time to meet other chicks?

I have quite a big hunch that you are a big part of your problem too

I’m not taking anyone on any expensive trips lol I was just passing on what I observe. Like they said, a wise man learns from the mistakes of others.

 

[Robert28]

Most people are able to get at least one relationship lasting beyond 2-3 months.

I wouldn’t say most, the dating market isn’t leaning that way these days at least. Seems like the norm is situationships and short term relationships one right after another.

 

[Snag87]

Google is your friend. I don't have time to spoon-feed a grown man.

Yea, I thought as much. My statement stands.

 

[SW15]

I wouldn’t say most, the dating market isn’t leaning that way these days at least. Seems like the norm is situationships and short term relationships one right after another.

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My social circle is almost all in LTRs of multiple years, mostly with marriage and babies.

No one's social circle is a representative sample.

I do still think longer term relationships are more common than situationships and short term relationships, especially when the social circle is all age 30+ people.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Yea, I thought as much. My statement stands.

No it doesn't, you are simply too lazy to do the work yourself.

 

[Snag87]

No it doesn't, you are simply too lazy to do the work yourself.

I'll bet.

 

[Bigpapa]

Pregnancy Announcements Everywhere! Life When Your Blue Pill Social Circle Starts Having Babies

Yesterday, I was on my Instagram and saw a pregnancy announcement from an acquaintance's wife in my social circle. I don't particularly like her. I find it annoying to be around her the 1-2 times a year I ever randomly see her in person. Right now, there are 3 women from my local area social...

www.sosuave.net

My social circle is almost all in LTRs of multiple years, mostly with marriage and babies.

No one's social circle is a representative sample.

I do still think longer term relationships are more common than situationships and short term relationships, especially when the social circle is all age 30+ people.

Especially since LTR in the vast majority of cases does not mean that it is a happy one, or one of the parties has some side ventures every now and then

 

[SW15]

Especially since LTR in the vast majority of cases does not mean that it is a happy one, or one of the parties has some side ventures every now and then

Affairs are quite common in marriages. Women have closed the infidelity gap, both in marriages and in non-marital relationships. There is an increase in men who are staying in marriage when their wife has extramarital sex, regardless of whether or not they have their own side piece.

 

[Millard Fillmore]

Taxes, kids and commitment aren’t strong enough reasons to get married.

https://medium.com/personal-growth/does-marriage-even-make-sense-anymore-70e10f4d8c18

• Marriage is waning in popularity in contemporary culture.
• The advantages previously associated with marriage — such as tax breaks, financial support, and stability for children — are no longer relevant in many circumstances.
• When making the decision whether or not to get married, disregard societal opinion and follow your instinct.

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Thoughts?

It never made sense other than for family business. Yet men on SS still have Disney fantasies about it - go figure.

 

[Bigpapa]

It never made sense other than for family business. Yet men on SS still have Disney fantasies about it - go figure.

Because most men think that marriage = sex, as sex for most of them is quite difficult business

Marriage was never about sex, marriage was mainly for children

 

[Millard Fillmore]

Because most men think that marriage = sex, as sex for most of them is quite difficult business

Marriage was never about sex, marriage was mainly for children

I think it was always for $ and property. Still is in some parts of the world.

 

[Slowhandluke]

Marriage is as obsolete as muscles, and fertility clues (birthing hips, nice boobs, youthfulness, etc.). Muscles are obsolete because we have tools; muscles use to be a sign that you could protect yourself and your future family. You could provide for them -- hunting, farming, etc. All of these things required being healthy and fit (basically having muscle). However, with the advent of modern tools, those things can be provided to a girl w/o having muscle -- commercial farming, modern manufacturing, firearms, etc.

Same thing with fertility clues. Women can now get pregnant a little bit later in life with modern science and less likely to die during child birth. Fertility clues are not as important -- even if men value it a lot.

In the past, life was harsh. Many people died of starvation if they couldn't work... if they weren't able to farm, hunt, etc. People need marriage to work together as a team to raise children and provide for them. And to protect themselves from the elements, to fight for scarce resource, etc.

Men in the past help created our current society where life is easy and poor people die not of starvation, but because poor people eat too much (heart attacks, obesity, etc.. etc.); they die from over eating. Men in the past have done such a good job creating a "good society" that they have made marriage obsolete.

Rationally there is no reason to get married. It's only our lizard brains that want us to get married. The same lizard brain the find fertility clues "hot"... or men with big muscles "hot".

 

[CornbreadFed]

With inflation and the insane cost of COL these days, idk how you can say marriage is obsolete.

 

[Slowhandluke]

With inflation and the insane cost of COL these days, idk how you can say marriage is obsolete.

Because you didn't die last winter because you didn't save enough food during the harvest season because you didn't have a wife to help out.. Or because you didn't die due to Viking raiders -- or other raiders because you didn't have a wife to look after the home while you focus on building defenses or training to fight. Or you didn't get mauled by some wild beast and you didn't have a wife to nurse you back to health. etc.. etc...

Life has become so easy, the marriage "team" is no longer required. Not sure if this is a bad thing or a good thing. Modern society, we go to the gym to exercise. In the past for millions of years, people didn't need gyms. To get food, to fight for scarce resources; to just exist - that was exercise in itself.

 

[ThisIsSparta]

It's more of a problem because the men don't properly vet women they are going to marry or ignore obvious major red flags. That alone would likely prevent over half the horror stories.

It would also prevent 90% of marriages.

Read any number of studies done on it. It's been shown that women mainly benefit financially while men mainly benefit from a health and longevity standpoint. Repeatedly.

Studies dont mean shyt today..... the gender wage gap '"has been shown" too.... doesnt mean its for real.

What about the 50% of men that get divorced? Do they live longer too or are THEY the reason why "unmarried mens lifes are shorter"?