I don’t want conversations. I’m finding it hard to explain what I’m after here
Say hi to everyone, if you see something they are wearing you like comment on it and maybe ask where they got it from, ask them what they think of something relevant that is going on that day, etc...
But I don’t want to start a convo because people get too clingy and then it’s awkward to eject for me
First step here is to decide what you want and recognize what’s keeping you from doing it. A social life usually involves different types of conversations. Can’t go in two different directions at once …
I have no idea what you are trying to do OP, those seem contradictory.
be careful not to be formulaic. I was t the gym relaxing after a workout A woman came up to me and core dumped a whole ton of questions she likely read on some internet site. ‘what movies do you like? What’s your favorite food?…. it was clear what was going on. I had to force myself not to chuckle. But kudos to her for trying.
If you're trying to be polite without talking to people just say "hello" when you see them and smile then keep walking or look down/away that's it. Most people aren't going to go out of their way to engage in conversation if you don't. (The ones who really like you will)
Never try to read a woman's mind. It is a scary place. Ignore her confusing signals and mixed messages. Assume she is interested in you and act accordingly.
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I’m not after a typical extroverted social life
Yeah I’m trying to explain it. I’m introverted and I’m not after this weird expanding socialization that comes with opening people, that said, I’d like to screen for people I want to spend time with in whatever capacity that means but it can’t be decided before hand (which is what direct game is), and it isn’t that weird expanding social thing where I get talking with people and now it’s awkward because I may not like them but we are in a convo
C'mon Sarge I know you've heard of false time constraints
sounds like you are trying to be something you are not. if you don't like to chat with people about stupid pointless things then don't do it.
Yes but that’s still an approach. I don’t want to approach.
If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.
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I hate approaching too.but I have good news for you. There is a misconception that men have to seduce women. This is coming from a low value perspective.
Yeah that’s more in line with what I’m after but the problem is, saying anything is outside my norm so im already putting more effort than normal if I do that. It’s quite the conundrum. How to do it naturally I guess is what I’m trying to figure out
For me, as soon as a woman looks at me with actual intent, I smile and wave. I don’t even say anything. If you can’t do this, then it’s not a matter of not wanting to approach, but a matter of lack of confidence, which is a deeper issue.
I don’t want to have conversations.
I doubt I’m emotionally available tbh. The **** I’ve learned over the course of my life makes it almost impossible to relate to anyone.
