Jesse Pinkman
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How To Beast recently released a video about how the lives of men starts at 30 but in his video, he never really talked as much about game and outcomes. He never answered the question so many younger dudes want to know the answer to and one I get DM'd about a lot, can guys over the age of 30 sleep with lots of different women? The Red Pill never truly answered this question, it just released a phony chart based on loose bro-science which talked about how women would want to date you more in your 30s versus your 20s because of SMV.
When we look at someone like How To Beast, we also realize that he has a girlfriend.
A lot of guys asking me this are in their 20s, struggling with life, and cannot prioritize dating and meeting women. I understand, for a part of my 20s, I was living at home with parents and in a boring suburb so getting my sh-t together was more crucial than chasing tail. This year, I will turn 31. Some of us do want to make up on that lost time or get ours before we finally decide to settle down.
To answer the question, can a guy over the of 30 meet and sleep with lots of new women? The answer from my experiences and observations has been yes but it is somewhat different.
I notice that guys in their 30s who get laid a lot have a different vibe to them that I think men must adopt as they get older or they will struggle.
It is a disadvantage.
Once you are past the age of 25 or even 22, the idea of sleeping with lots of different women becomes frowned upon. The idea of using women for sex and only hooking up becomes frowned upon. Even in media, they are pushing young men and older women as sexual with the rise of "Cougar" porn while trying to take older men out of the picture. I don't want to waste a lot of time on the politics and war on men that the Red Pill does, I just want you to know that once you are over the age of 30, women are less likely to want to just sleep with you unless there is commitment.
Even look at the manosphere and other masculine spaces, LOTS of shaming towards men over 30 that just want to sleep around with random women. Expect the world to be against you.
Being cool and fit beats your career and money.
Women no longer care about money and your career anymore, they are financially set themselves. They are entering college in droves and taking up management roles left and right. The men winning in the dating market are usually fit and cool along with being set enough financially. They are more of a Hollywood Star type of 30 and not an office middle manager 30. Being cool and being fit beats the fancy white collar job title or the yearly salary. However, you do need some money in order to get there.
Living in a big city is a MUST.
The whole "get married and have kids by 30" is still making a huge push in middle America and small towns/small cities. You will suffer greatly and have women try to lock you down left and right. If you are not set on getting married and having kids, you must live in a major city like an NYC or a London. In NYC, it was not uncommon for me to run into guys well into 30s that partied, chased women, got laid, and had sex with a lot of different women. Big cities, and I mean WORLD CLASS CITIES, are the only viable living options for you as a man over the age of 30 if you want to sleep with lots of different women. Try doing it anywhere else and you will face major hurdles.
In these cities, you are likely to find a lot of women DTF and even a solid set of guy friends who support you sleeping with lots of different women.
You learn to stop wasting time.
This means not spending hours arguing on internet forums like you used to. I think that the reason The Black Pill and Incel communities are loaded with younger dudes is because they have all the time in the world to waste. When you get older, you come to terms with your mortality. No more time spent mentally masturbating, theorizing, or any of that nonsense. No more time spent on crappy friends that waste it. No more time to waste on crappy wingmen. No more time to waste reading nonsense black pill theory and debating it.
This is why so many incel movements are flooded with younger dudes, because younger dudes have all the time in the world to waste.
Most importantly, this means no time wasted chasing women that play games.
I have noticed that older guys zero down fast. They are not trying to push through rejections or trying to push through maybes or trying to get with girls that play too many games. Older guys are focusing on girls that are real options and investing all of their energy there.
Younger guys will try to get 100% of the girls and give their time to each one equally. Older guys focus on the 10 to 20% of women that are actual options and spend all of their time there, the other women may as well not exist. You learn to get over rejection fast and just give less f*cks.
You have to become obsessed with it and truly make it the top priority.
The city you live in.
The friends you make.
The content you consume.
The info you take in.
The lifestyle you live.
It has to all revolve around getting laid.
This means cutting ties with otherwise good friends who have an issue with you sleeping with lots of different women.
This means even cutting ties with family that are trying to get you to settle down.
It has to become such an obsession that you will value it over all else in life.
Some say what about money and fitness? Well, as I covered, those things matter a ton for getting laid. You need money to live in a world class city and you need to be in good health to go out and game constantly.
When we look at someone like How To Beast, we also realize that he has a girlfriend.
A lot of guys asking me this are in their 20s, struggling with life, and cannot prioritize dating and meeting women. I understand, for a part of my 20s, I was living at home with parents and in a boring suburb so getting my sh-t together was more crucial than chasing tail. This year, I will turn 31. Some of us do want to make up on that lost time or get ours before we finally decide to settle down.
To answer the question, can a guy over the of 30 meet and sleep with lots of new women? The answer from my experiences and observations has been yes but it is somewhat different.
I notice that guys in their 30s who get laid a lot have a different vibe to them that I think men must adopt as they get older or they will struggle.
It is a disadvantage.
Once you are past the age of 25 or even 22, the idea of sleeping with lots of different women becomes frowned upon. The idea of using women for sex and only hooking up becomes frowned upon. Even in media, they are pushing young men and older women as sexual with the rise of "Cougar" porn while trying to take older men out of the picture. I don't want to waste a lot of time on the politics and war on men that the Red Pill does, I just want you to know that once you are over the age of 30, women are less likely to want to just sleep with you unless there is commitment.
Even look at the manosphere and other masculine spaces, LOTS of shaming towards men over 30 that just want to sleep around with random women. Expect the world to be against you.
Being cool and fit beats your career and money.
Women no longer care about money and your career anymore, they are financially set themselves. They are entering college in droves and taking up management roles left and right. The men winning in the dating market are usually fit and cool along with being set enough financially. They are more of a Hollywood Star type of 30 and not an office middle manager 30. Being cool and being fit beats the fancy white collar job title or the yearly salary. However, you do need some money in order to get there.
Living in a big city is a MUST.
The whole "get married and have kids by 30" is still making a huge push in middle America and small towns/small cities. You will suffer greatly and have women try to lock you down left and right. If you are not set on getting married and having kids, you must live in a major city like an NYC or a London. In NYC, it was not uncommon for me to run into guys well into 30s that partied, chased women, got laid, and had sex with a lot of different women. Big cities, and I mean WORLD CLASS CITIES, are the only viable living options for you as a man over the age of 30 if you want to sleep with lots of different women. Try doing it anywhere else and you will face major hurdles.
In these cities, you are likely to find a lot of women DTF and even a solid set of guy friends who support you sleeping with lots of different women.
You learn to stop wasting time.
This means not spending hours arguing on internet forums like you used to. I think that the reason The Black Pill and Incel communities are loaded with younger dudes is because they have all the time in the world to waste. When you get older, you come to terms with your mortality. No more time spent mentally masturbating, theorizing, or any of that nonsense. No more time spent on crappy friends that waste it. No more time to waste on crappy wingmen. No more time to waste reading nonsense black pill theory and debating it.
This is why so many incel movements are flooded with younger dudes, because younger dudes have all the time in the world to waste.
Most importantly, this means no time wasted chasing women that play games.
I have noticed that older guys zero down fast. They are not trying to push through rejections or trying to push through maybes or trying to get with girls that play too many games. Older guys are focusing on girls that are real options and investing all of their energy there.
Younger guys will try to get 100% of the girls and give their time to each one equally. Older guys focus on the 10 to 20% of women that are actual options and spend all of their time there, the other women may as well not exist. You learn to get over rejection fast and just give less f*cks.
You have to become obsessed with it and truly make it the top priority.
The city you live in.
The friends you make.
The content you consume.
The info you take in.
The lifestyle you live.
It has to all revolve around getting laid.
This means cutting ties with otherwise good friends who have an issue with you sleeping with lots of different women.
This means even cutting ties with family that are trying to get you to settle down.
It has to become such an obsession that you will value it over all else in life.
Some say what about money and fitness? Well, as I covered, those things matter a ton for getting laid. You need money to live in a world class city and you need to be in good health to go out and game constantly.