Most of my peers live at home and fit in that age group.
All of them are employed, but many of the men lack drive. The handful of friends that have moved out on their own are yuppies elevated through nepotism. Most guys I know who are making even decent money have decided to stay at home while it is economically sound. (Rent in my state is astronomically high and most young guys see little incentive to move out.)
However, one common thread I see with these guys who DO want to move out and elevate themselves is they often want to chase tail (and success!).
As odd as that may sound it is certainly a motivator. It is for me as well
I at 25, live at home, work a full time gig, freelance, have several forms of passive income and also do volunteer work. My finances are getting in order and there are opportunities before me which I will be pursuing in the near future. I am currently in the transition of moving out and hope to be out the door before summer. I stayed at home after high school to work, go to community college, hone my crafts and ended up going to a rich kid school on a full ride during covid. Never took out any loans and have zero debt to my name. I missed out on 'fun' and kept my head down and worked with what I had, it depressed me for a time, but taught me the valuable lesson of delayed gratification. Most of my peers went straight to college, partied, learned jack and graduated into a dicey job market right as the pandemic hit while being severely in debt from financial aid. Nearly all of my friends lost their jobs/opportunities in 2020 and many have yet to recover. I also, l
ike many young adults during the pandemic fell into a depressed state for a time. But I got out of it through sheer force
Jump to now and I feel more driven to get out of the house with the core motivator being personal freedom and being able to 'date' freely. The majority of women 18-25 still live at home where I am at,
but a double standard comes to play. They expect the guy to have his own place, his own car, his own everything otherwise it is a
'red flag'. Is this fair?........No, but it is the burden of performance that men SHOULD undertake and use as fuel to get out there. life is not fair and b******* about it won't change a damn thing.
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Many young men feel defeated.
They lack guidance and they don't understand that drive and motivation is overrated. You need to first become disciplined and clear in what you want and with a concerted effort drive will follow.
In other words they need momentum. Most young men (and women) have felt as though there is a massive unconquerable mountain before them so they complain.
"This is too expensive, insurance is too expensive, I can't afford a car, I can't afford a house, everyone is evil, the government is corrupt, the system is broken". etc...
These are the common gripes heard amongst young Americans today (most millenials) and they are fairly well founded.
However, recognizing these things is good if one actually reflects upon it and decides to start scaling that mountain. Yes, there are a lot of things
'wrong' in the world, so it is time to man the f*** up and get yours. Make actionable changes slowly and combat the status quo and don't fall into victimhood. So many men perpetuate a victim mindset
(almost as much as young women do nowadays,) it's a shame really...
Most young guys are sexless and not in relationships and have simply given up in that regard. It is disheartening to say the least, but I have seen an uptick in young guys changing their mentality for the better. Many western men have indirectly moved into MGTOW mindsets and with that comes the whole doomer/blackpill mental schema.
These are the men that will remain as 'losers' until they undertake accountability and make change. The guys I've seen who have
'accepted' a lot of harsh truths about reality started off depressed and bummed like most.... but now I am noticing this sudden tenacity from many of the men around my age.
I think many of these guys feel slighted and as a result they are starting to transmute that into actionable drive. They were told a whole bunch of idealistic nonsense from a young age and when they hit adulthood reality kicked them down. Some got up on their feet in retaliation, whereas others (most) crawled into the fetal position and started giving up.
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Young people in general need ethics, morality, discipline and positive strong mentors who can help guide them towards success in life.
Most young people have never had a quality mentor and the education system here in America is rife with political agenda seeking to pacify the masses (with an emphasis on men.) Men are demonized, demoralized and increasingly feminized.
Whereas women are inversely positively affected by these societal constructs and encouraged to
"do what's best for you".
This in my opinion is the root of many of the issues found in the west, we have a noticeable disparity in power between the two genders and our masculine and feminine energies are thrown completely out of whack. Young people are confused
There needs to be a change and boys must recognize this and become men,
less we want to further slide backward. They must usurp the current gender imbalance in the west and strive to fix things,
not complain about them and wallow in misery. We need more older wiser men bestowing knowledge to the future generations and instilling proper masculinity in them. Currently in America, our education system, media, and government push a gynocentric narrative which has lead to the collapse of western society. It needs to stop
Sorry long post....