Not Invited to Social Circle Party Because I Hit on Girls

[Vice]

OP now just needs to own it and take his position as the most alpha guy out of all men there.

A good option for OP is to go even further, be more ****y-funny arrogant etc ie escalate the conflict/drama, dont back down and dont give it. If its drama they want give it to them. The women will definitely miss you being around. If nothing else this is a good life lesson for OP, when humans act threatened, weak, beta due to your male alpha energy, you just gotta intensify and go harder cos they are showing you a weakness.

This is an excellent way to never be invited to any social gathering again, and if you happen to be there, you'd be used as an excellent person to make fun of.

Women aren't interested in belligerent wannabe "alpha" guys; there's no such thing as an "alpha".

All this behavior does is prove that the belligerent male has no ability to be any kind of leader, influence people in a positive manner, and be able to read social cues.

@kavi I suggest you don't offer advice for a while.

 

[Vice]

I dont get it. You go to a party, you teased some girls a little, have a good time and suddenly you are "that guy" who "hits" on all girls and they dont want to invite you to parties.

F0ck them, they are not your friends. This is borderline alpha-ashaming, trying to turn you into a blue pill feminist beta simp. Spend your time somewhere else.

There is no such thing as an "alpha".

They're creep shaming. No one wants to be around someone this obnoxious.

 

[kavi]

Holy **** some of you guys are ****ing idiots.

Being "alpha" isn't a thing. At all. You were likely being ****ing an annoying douche, and made the women uncomfortable. This isn't that deep.

If some dude came to one of my parties and started aggressively hitting on women thinking he was "alpha", I'd ask him to leave.

Don't try to **** women in your social circle; bring women INTO that social circle you meet elsewhere as a reason to hang out further.

Theres no evidence he made women uncomfortable, I think OP has the calibration to read that. No accusations of creepiness or anything like that. Nothing he wrote suggested that.

Ofcourse there is such a thing as 'Alpha'. What doesnt exist in reality is Don Juana and Seduction. Alpha is as old as humans, even older.

I see no reason OP should bend down to weak infantile power games led by socially weak and insecure women, and their beta male followers.

OP interacts with women a decent amount, he aint no incel with low-social skills, from his posts. I am sure a guy like that can read social cues, seems he didnt get any cues or feedback on the day otherwise he would adjust and recalibrate.

All this is a bunch of girls upset he didnt ask for their numbers or attempt and escalation, thus leaving them wet and rejected, and other losers guys upset.

 

[Stanley]

I just observed something else. The group chat we’re all in and plan parties/events in has went strangely silent. The assumption on my end is that they created a new one without me after the party. Then they put the new party invite in there.

Probably, sounds like some typical cliquey ****. It doesn't go away with age either man, this what people do now and it's really lame and petty.

Just do your own thing and don't take it personally as best you can. I got tired of people doing this so I just remove myself from group chats entirely. If someone wants me somewhere they can hit me up or if I want to see them I'll reach out. Group chats can be breeding grounds for toxic, duplicitous behavior from both women and men. If there actual decent friends they wouldn't ostracize you from the group, unless you gave em good reason...but I doubt that. Next em

 

[Vice]

I just observed something else. The group chat we’re all in and plan parties/events in has went strangely silent. The assumption on my end is that they created a new one without me after the party. Then they put the new party invite in there.

This is exactly what happened.

As another user said, apologize to the host, and apologize to the women. THAT is the right move. THAT is going to show them that you respect them, that you can read social cues, and that you're capable of self-reflection. From there, use those parties as an event to invite other women you meet out to. The primary benefit of this is that they'll feel less pressure to show up, and they can bring friends. That combined with the respect that your social circle shows you will cause you to have to not try hard.

The users on here who thing that doing so is "beta"/"blue pill" or whatever the f*ck obviously have zero good experience in social circles, or socializing in general. And if you want to follow that kind of sh*t advice, you deserve exactly the results you're going to get.

 

[Vice]

Theres no evidence he made women uncomfortable, I think OP has the calibration to read that. No accusations of creepiness or anything like that. Nothing he wrote suggested that.

Ofcourse there is such a thing as 'Alpha'. What doesnt exist in reality is Don Juana and Seduction. Alpha is as old as humans, even older.

I see no reason OP should bend down to weak infantile power games led by socially weak and insecure women, and their beta male followers.

OP interacts with women a decent amount, he aint no incel with low-social skills, from his posts. I am sure a guy like that can read social cues, seems he didnt get any cues or feedback on the day otherwise he would adjust and recalibrate.

All this is a bunch of girls upset he didnt ask for their numbers or attempt and escalation, thus leaving them wet and rejected, and other losers guys upset.

Jesus you're an absolute fool. Not even worth responding to any of this.

OP, do yourself and block this guy, lest he continues to offer more toxic and counterproductive advice.

 

[Vice]

Probably, sounds like some typical cliquey ****. It doesn't go away with age either man, this what people do now and it's really lame and petty.

Just do your own thing and don't take it personally as best you can. I got tired of people doing this so I just remove myself from group chats entirely. If someone wants me somewhere they can hit me up or if I want to see them I'll reach out. Group chats can be breeding grounds for toxic, duplicitous behavior from both women and men. If there actual decent friends they wouldn't ostracize you from the group, unless you gave em good reason...but I doubt that. Next em

OP gave them a very good reason to ostracize him.

 

[kavi]

Lols I have lots of exp building social circles, I am literally starting a socio-political group mostly looking to recruit women and also pretty close to being a polygamous 'marriage' with more than 2 High-Quality women.

I do agree that a guy needs to have social cues and not try to bang every girl in a social group but also many women do enjoy the attention and energy of a guy trying. These women should have atleast warned him once, even the host should give him another chance, cos it dont seem like he didnt anything too wrong. I dunno but what I remember university guys can be pretty aggressive and its important to remember the standard expected here is of a 22yr old guy not a mid 30s guy.

Yeah OP may have gone slightly too far, but if not even into belligerence or creepiness then that is normal variation that just needs a warning not some lame ass power games and ghosting from a group. The type of behaviour OP is being given is something I have got from weak beta men and those led by weak women, that just needs a guy to never back down and simply stand his ground.

If the OP genuinely feels he did something wrong then he should apologise.

 

[Vice]

these women should have atleast warned him once,

No.

Even if they "should", they didn't. And they shouldn't.

even the host should give him another chance, cos it dont seem like he didnt anything too wrong.

lmao you're oblivious. And I have zero respect for someone who uses the word "cos".

that just needs a warning not some lame ass power games and ghosting from a group.

You shouldn't need a warning to not be obnoxious. Regardless of your opinion on their "games", they are still going to ostracize people from groups for dumbass behavior.

The type of behaviour OP is being given is something I have got from weak beta men and those led by weak women, that just needs a guy to never back down and simply stand his ground.

You're suchhhhh an alphaaaaaaa broooooo

Ostracizing someone from a group for making women uncomfortable isn't exclusive to any type of group, and if they don't do so, the women will leave on their own accord. Imagine a social circle full of dipsh*t guys who all think they're "alpha males" trying to talk over each other and make women uncomfortable with their weird ****.

Blocked because this isn't even remotely up for debate, and I can only handle so much stupidity and social ineptitude. Good luck with your "socio-political group mostly looking to recruit women", whatever the f*ck that creepy sh*t is.

 

[Stanley]

OP gave them a very good reason to ostracize him.

Neither I nor you know the full extent of what went on.

If you looked at my other posts I disparaged op for going at it too hard and told him take a step back and cool off and let it be. Why bother with immature cliquey groups to being with? He should reflect on whether or not it is even worth apologizing to the supposed 'friends'. Op's intent is to game women, don't do that to your social group. If he wants to be apart of it then yes he should rectify his behavior and I do not disagree on that at all.

The whole thing should be a lesson to be learned.

 

[kavi]

"I didn't think I would pull her, but I just enjoy teasing girls. It was a fun time. When she left, I was facing away from her. She punched me in the arm and said "Aren't you going to say bye?". So she must have enjoyed my teasing."

Bruh I think (going by your words, I dont know if your honest) that you gamed this chick ok, but when she came back to you to say bye, she wanted you to ask for her number/date whatever, you didnt. She felt rejected and her friends thought u a bad guy for 'playing' her like that. Now they turned against you.

 

[DonJuanjr]

I don't think threatening/ predatory creepy behavior would embolden women to playfully knock a guy's hat off. Regardless if it's due to lack of respect. So I don't think he was actually making the women feel uncomfortable.

 

[RazorRambo24]

I don't see anything wrong with what you did OP. that **** is mild. I feel like everyones lookin too hard into this .. thsi is a completely insignificant stitch in time.. if somoene doesn't like u hitting on girls at their party, its just a personal problem nothin to do with u per say. you didnt really hit on anyone though tbh. some mild banter/flirting

i take it you're not in America.. and dudes are just being weird and jealous or overly controlling of their guests..

find out where the cool parties are and go there instead

 

[MatureDJ]

It's OVER for SocialCirclePartyCels.

 

[Skyline]

dude, I’ve been to plenty of parties and I’ve been in your exact same spot. Stop hitting on women in a serious manner. It seems like you have the game for it but you’re taking too seriously. Just be chill and focus on having a good time. If you don’t get any action, or contact into, don’t be pressed about that.

Remember, women can smell desperation from a mile away.

 

[SW15]

It's OVER for SocialCirclePartyCels.

The long term trend is that social circle has been responsible for forming fewer relationships.

I just observed something else. The group chat we’re all in and plan parties/events in has went strangely silent. The assumption on my end is that they created a new one without me after the party. Then they put the new party invite in there.

This is exactly what happened.

I agree that this is exactly what happened.

@CollegeMan22 -- Where you go from here depends upon your goals and how much you value certain friendships.

 

[bat soup]

So I was at a house party a week ago and was having a good time and drinking. I wasn't heavily drunk, but definitely enough to get my game gears into overdrive. I was teasing girls and giving them a hard time. They were touching me and hitting my backward cap off.

Then I went to the couch and there were 2 girls sitting there. There was another girl standing. I was testing the 2 girls on the couch, both of which had BFs, asking if they did sports. They said they played badminton. Then I asked if they were winners or losers. They said losers. I pulled in standing friend and asked her too. She seemed pretty emotional and said "yeah, I'm a winner!". I proceeded to keep hard teasing her. We made heavy eye contact several times, after which I would move my arm to make her blink, telling her "you lose!". She was having a good time. One time we had a staring contest for 20 seconds and at the end she tried to make me blink but I was super stoic and didn't move a muscle. She was pretty surprised about that.

I didn't think I would pull her, but I just enjoy teasing girls. It was a fun time. When she left, I was facing away from her. She punched me in the arm and said "Aren't you going to say bye?". So she must have enjoyed my teasing.

So now it's a week later, and I hear there is a party next Saturday. But then my friend who let that slip out is immediately silent and doesn't give me any info. I see the girl in the hallway who's hosting it (I've gone out with her and kissed before) and I asked if I could come. She says "Oh, but will you hit on girls again?! There's my younger friends there and I don't want that happening". It seems like the girl crew gossiped and now they "know" about me. I didn't get to talk to her about it much more because she had class immediately after I saw her.

What's the best move here? What should I tell the host who doesn't want me hitting on girls?

If you can't hit on girls there, what's the point of even going?

 

[Slowhandluke]

If you can't hit on girls there, what's the point of even going?

Find one girl that isn't being chase by other members (esp. don't hit on other guys girlfriends). Have fun. Get drunk. Build connections and relationships that can help create $$$$$$ and lifelong bonds. For example, when you are unemployed, there might be someone there who likes you as a person that will give you a foot into a door of a company that he is currently working for.. or it might be his company, etc. Or you find a person who you like, and when there's an opportunity to help him/her, you do because you like him/her.


Social circle is about helping EVERYONE in the circle, just not about helping yourself. Why would a social circle want to admit someone into their circle when all that person does is mooch? Or flirts with "their women"... That's just insane.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

No bro...you have no social sense apparently if you think that's why they didn't invite you. They didn't invite you because you are acting like a creepy dude that hits on anything that moves and that isn't the vibe they want at their party.

If you must use that strategy save it for the clubs.

A house party of people who mostly all know each other isn't a club environment.

Know the difference and know how to act appropriately socially in both.

 

[SexManiac]

Host your own parties

Not a good advice man. I can not afford to host my own Parties. Does that means I am condemned to not getting laid? Of course not. Hosting a party requires money and we do not seduce with money on here as much as it is within the limitations of not having it.