I need some texting advice

[Divorced w 3]

Moved it from Tuesday to tomorrow. Weekdays are killing me and I have no space next weekend to do it. We either smash or I dash tomorrow. That’s it.

 

[member160292]

Congrats, you are officially in her frame now.
Lol, I'm just teasing ya, have fun!

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[HaleyBaron]

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I like receipts like this. Keep it up.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Hmmmmmm. I’m pretty sure I entered her frame the moment I started sending IOI and made it home safe texts. But yeah I’m in now. Until I’m not. Hopefully tomorrow goes like it should. Good text banter going

 

[member160292]

I like receipts like this. Keep it up.

Where is yours?

 

[BeExcellent]

She has plans Saturday night? Plans without you? She is still On. The. Market. in a big way.

So Congratulations. You are her Friday night entertainment. Now. Honestly that is not terribly unreasonable. But she is still deciding whether or not she is into you at all, which means Meh, not really, while you are letting her shop around, which means she isn’t interested enough in you NOT to shop around.

And you, in seeing what you want to see, are messing up your life, your schedule, your routine for her.

Nope. If she was into you it would be the reverse. She would be saying “Yes” to a Saturday night date at the very minimum and she’d be accommodating your schedule.

Your buddy has it right. Lose her number. Flake on her tommorrow and hit the shore with your buddy & be open to a woman who actually likes you. This one is totally stringing you along and you are eating the crumbs with a grin.

 

[BeExcellent]

Let me explain what real interest looks like. This from a high self esteem woman with standards;

Met my fiancé out one night. He was staring at me all night, thought I was married because I was with someone else. Someone else was already on thin ice with me, got embarrassingly drunk & then was rude & disrespectful, so we broke up, right there. Boom.

My fiancée has no idea all this. He sees a hot chick out with a group, assumes I’m married but can’t stop looking. I go to the bar to get a drink, he (unbeknownst to me) clears space next to him by running off his friends from the bar so the only available space is next to him. So I walk up. He’s still staring (and happens to be handsome) so as I’m standing there waiting on my drink I KNOW he’s staring. So I say Hi how’s your night?

Conversation ensues. We introduce each other’s friend groups, he asks if I’m married, no, I explain the just now break up in about 2 sentences, he asks for my FB. We chat a few more times that night, I’m the designated driver (my date makes other arrangements, fine) and we all go home with our friends.

I wake up next morning to a text at 9am asking me out for brunch at 11am. I say sure. He picks a place near me. Cool. I go meet him. We have a nice time & he asks what am I doing the rest of the day. I tell him no real plans and he says let’s drive up to wine country. I say yes. I say let’s take my car (a nice convertible) and we go for a drive & bounce around wine country all day. We go to dinner. We go to a casino, we stay over to Monday morning. We drive back Monday morning as we both work.

I liked him. I was interested in him. I said yes to him. I would have canceled plans with friends (maybe I did who knows) because I was interested in him & he very obviously was interested in me.

The next week? He asked me to dinner near his work. I said yes. He asked me to dinner closer to me, I said yes.

Are you seeing a trend here? An interested woman says YES to a man she REALLY likes. We live together now. I still say yes the overwhelming majority of the time. I love him & want to please him & see him happy although it IS a 2 way street.

Hold out for a woman who is IN to you. You’ll be glad you did I promise.

 

[HaleyBaron]

Where is yours?

Tell you the truth, I dont take many pics of the girls I go out with. I guess some guys consider it like a trophy but for me I'm too lazy to pull out my phone and just take photos.

 

[Divorced w 3]

She has plans Saturday night? Plans without you? She is still On. The. Market. in a big way.

So Congratulations. You are her Friday night entertainment. Now. Honestly that is not terribly unreasonable. But she is still deciding whether or not she is into you at all, which means Meh, not really, while you are letting her shop around, which means she isn’t interested enough in you NOT to shop around.

And you, in seeing what you want to see, are messing up your life, your schedule, your routine for her.

Nope. If she was into you it would be the reverse. She would be saying “Yes” to a Saturday night date at the very minimum and she’d be accommodating your schedule.

Your buddy has it right. Lose her number. Flake on her tommorrow and hit the shore with your buddy & be open to a woman who actually likes you. This one is totally stringing you along and you are eating the crumbs with a grin.

You think though after like two weeks where I asked her for an overnight, without sex, that it wasn’t unreasonable she decline? If it wasn’t an overnight I wouldn’t doubt you at all. Should also add she had booked it with her card, was going to pick it up and I took care of it after.

my bud also pointing out I am looking at this like trying to make her a girlfriend because she’s not interested in casual sex (or at least not with me right, but some women just arent)…with that said she’s even said it’s not off the table. Man.

read the pook book and I think I need to just go get the experience and possibly not be successful . I had a ONS in the summer with phone sex girl that worked but turned into ONEItis, so I came here many months later and , I wouldn’t call it that I’d say after some convincing on this thread I took a shot at getting a rotation going.

I have not dated in over a decade. I think I need to get the experience. No substitute. When I get experience I get good. That’s very much my truth.

 

[BeExcellent]

That’s fair. It’s how any of us learn. You’re the only one with complete picture who knows all the variables. Enjoy yourself and don’t take anything too serious.

 

[Divorced w 3]

That’s fair. It’s how any of us learn. You’re the only one with complete picture who knows all the variables. Enjoy yourself and don’t take anything too serious.

I wouldn’t call it variability after tomorrow though i would call it very much binary. Sex or not. Lol. I mean fair to myself I have put in work fast. More so than anyone else in the last year. Time for her to step up.

I am going to push instead of pull. Sex is the 2k pound elephant in the room. So let it linger. Won’t mention a word about it.

Going in the best fitting shirt I have, lucky backwards hat-not laying a paw on her, eyes and drinks, walk her to her door and say alright have a great night, she will know this is the final straw and she’s going to jump on me or not.

Ty vm for the thoughts on the thread. Hope this is of use to others

 

[Divorced w 3]

Sex 4x. Twice last night twice this morning.

 

[Dr.Suave]

Sex 4x. Twice last night twice this morning.

Nice! Like I said: Sometimes there´s nothing wrong with being a little patient. Who cares if this girl takes a little bit longer to open her legs than other girls?

 

[member160292]

Sex 4x. Twice last night twice this morning.

Report, Johnson.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Report, Johnson.

Came home from work. Put on tight fitted shirt. Hat backwards, jacket, jeans, timberland boots for the venue. Took pre-workout and did 200 pushups. Had a cup of coffee. Went to pick her up and from the moment I went in it was fun, confident, negs and wise ass conversation for the walk over.

From the moment I got there it was all push. Do not hold hands or put arm around her. If she did something to me I did not stop her. But I eventually started giving her a hard time in a funny way when she did. No kino, she was on my hip the whole night. We end up dominating the rest of the couples we played against. I Start telling her that after dinner I am walking her home kissing her in the cheek and gtfo. That works well. So she kisses me middle of street on way back but not without me giving her a hard time about it.

Then we go get Chinese. We have a little more serious conversation bc I want to build up chemistry and I ask her about what her usual type is. I’m not it. She tells me she went out for a couple months with a fire fighter. I mean what can be said I asked right? So I just say that’s almost patriotic and just go on lol. And then after that we go walk back and I brought up that we go hit the bar.

She asked me specifically if I wanted to hit any and I said what do you like and we end up going to her favorite bar. Now I know what some of you are thinking. That I’m putting myself in her crowd as opposed to other ideas she had. Yes exactly. I’m out an hour from where I live. I wanted to see as much as I could to see if I wanted to keep this going.

I do meet a male colleague of hers. At first he came over to her hugged and got right into convo with her, I’m ordering but when I turn back they’re both aware that I’m there and talk another couple moments and introduced me. He is there for his engagement party, wasn’t flirting with her but he was also ****y, turns out he’s gone out with some of the women they work with. Hmm right. I mean what can you do welcome to the real world. So i don’t say anything. I make one them say something and she introduces me. I give him a firm handshake look him right in the eye just introduce myself. He asks me what I do. I just tell him I work in the city. I don’t say anything else and he doesn’t follow up. She looks surprised. I did that on purpose. I don’t care what he thinks I want her to think I’m humble, decent, she knows what I do but and im more interested in her seeing me as high character.

Later on that night I bro him tf out. As soon as I notice him up back to the bar with his buddy who was from across the country, I give him the biggest bro palm handshake and then he introduced his buddy and I kinda listen periodically to whatever they fvck he’s saying and kinda zone out and just smile cause it’s loud and I made my point and I don’t care. They go back to their party upstairs and eventually leave

So anyway it’s beer/ seltzer and over course if a couple hours a few shots. start calling her in the bar my friend, best friend, every long while when not in completely nonsensical entertaining convo. Opportunity at one point opens up where the bartender had the microphone and I told him to let her sing. While she’s flustered the girls next to me on the right , one starts trying to cheer her on and then ask me to join her so obviously I take every free chance to flirt in front of her without totally obvious. She at this point is asking me if I actually don’t want to have sex with her so I actually save her from going on about that since that’s her local bar and the vibe is good and now we just need to get out of there.

we get back, get her completely naked as soon as possible, rest is history. She squirts all over bed, shower, twice this am. Do your deadlifts gentleman

this am, totally different ball game. Attention, holding, get breakfast, give her the full run down on my situation, figure she’d appreciate it. I tell her it would be great to hang again and drop her off and head home

very important edit: tells me I can keep the hat on I take it off tho.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Supposed to go to shore tonight. Salt air is great but my boy wants to go out. I’m going outside to do wind sprints for 20 min lol

 

[Stanley]

@Divorced w 3 Sounds like some good push pull between everything. Glad things worked out for ya so far, just don't over do it.

 

[Divorced w 3]

@Divorced w 3 Sounds like some good push pull between everything. Glad things worked out for ya so far, just don't over do it.

Don’t overdo what bud

 

[Stanley]

Don’t overdo what bud

Don't get oneitis. That is all

 

[Divorced w 3]

Don't get oneitis. That is all

Understood. She has to earn it