52...have baby with partner?

[nzrod]

Hi gentlemen
I have just turned 52 and my 45.5 year old Asian girlfriend wants to have a baby. We live together. She had two miscarriages when she was married 8 years ago...and is childless. She was devastated and still wants a kid (marriage ended as he cheated).

I feel if I dont, the relationship might not last. She may a) subconsciously resent me for all time or b) subconsciously seek a man who will, while being with me. I dont think she will consciously do a or b as she is very Christian with clear morals but she is also a human ...so subconsciously she may.

If I have a kid I will be about 71 when the child is 18.

What are your thoughts please?

 

[Bible_Belt]

Hi gentlemen
I have just turned 52 and my 45.5 year old Asian girlfriend wants to have a baby. We live together. She had two miscarriages when she was married 8 years ago...and is childless. She was devastated and still wants a kid (marriage ended as he cheated).

I feel if I dont, the relationship might not last. She may a) subconsciously resent me for all time or b) subconsciously seek a man who will, while being with me. I dont think she will consciously do a or b as she is very Christian with clear morals but she is also a human ...so subconsciously she may.

If I have a kid I will be about 71 when the child is 18.

What are your thoughts please?

Let her go. Everyone else here will say the same thing.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

No, I had mine in my 30’s and I’m just finishing up launching my last one. Absolutely no.

 

[nzrod]

No, I had mine in my 30’s and I’m just finishing up launching my last one. Absolutely no.

Too tiring?

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

It requires a lot of energy

Too tiring?

 

[Plinco]

I'm in my late 30's now, and I still want to have kids. My concern is that your girlfriend is 45.

 

[lost_blackbird]

Yeah, she's probably got like half a dozen eggs left at that age. I often
see this on Bumble, rough looking, post wall women 45+ who have selected
'haven't decided yet' on the children category. I think Mother Nature may have
made that decision for you my dear, in more ways than one.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Definitely do Amniocentesis and discuss it before knocking her up, if she’s not preggo in a month get ready shell out 10k plus for invitro.

I'm in my late 30's now, and I still want to have kids. My concern is that your girlfriend is 45.

 

[Plinco]

Definitely do Amniocentesis and discuss it before knocking her up, if she’s not preggo in a month get ready shell out 10k plus for invitro.

Are you talking about me or OP?

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Are you talking about me or OP?

Whoever is thinking about knocking up a woman that’s 35+

 

[Plinco]

Whoever is thinking about knocking up a woman that’s 35+

I think I'm still pretty potent. On my father's side of my family I have cousins in their late 40's knocking up women.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Amniocentesis is about making sure that the developing fetus does not have any genetic disorders and being able to terminate the pregnancy if you choose to or prepare for the arrival of a special needs child.

This is a REQUIREMENT for 35+ maternal age, as the reality is that the incidence of problems like this goes through the roof at that point.

I think I'm still pretty potent. On my father's side of my family I have cousins in their late 40's knocking up women.

 

[Plinco]

Amniocentesis is about making sure that the developing fetus does not have any genetic disorders and being able to terminate the pregnancy if you choose to or prepare for the arrival of a special needs child.

This is a REQUIREMENT for 35+ maternal age.

Oh I don't touch women over the age of 27 with a nine foot pole.

 

[lost_blackbird]

When you see stuff like this you just have to laugh... 47 and trying for a baby with
this green card seeker. Fool me once and all that....

Woman who was dumped by Egyptian toyboy finds love again

Joanna Girling, 47, from Kings Lynn, Norfolk, who was dumped by Egyptian toyboy for 'being old' found love again with a new flame - and they plan to tie the knot in Cairo in January.

www.dailymail.co.uk

 

[SargeMaximus]

While I’m not against having kids at any age, never have kids just to save a relationship. Because if and when that relationship ends, the poor kid will get some of your resentment. It’s fvcked up

 

[EyeBRollin]

Biologically, she is not going to have a child at 45+. This is Grade A delusion.

This relationship can’t be saved. Are you open to adoption?

 

[The Duke]

She is too old. Already had two miscarriages, if she gets pregnant this will likely end in devastation as well or the kid will be retarded. It's high risk.

If all you are is a baby maker for her, then I guess you can find out for sure.

I had one that wanted marriage from me. I knew it was to secure resources. I told her to hit the road. No big deal. You can always get more women.

 

[2Rocky]

Padecky: What I’ve learned from parenting a teen — at age 74

“I was told and believed that having children later in life keeps you young,” columnist Bob Padecky writes. “No, it doesn’t. It keeps you alert.”

www.pressdemocrat.com

 

[nzrod]

While I’m not against having kids at any age, never have kids just to save a relationship. Because if and when that relationship ends, the poor kid will get some of your resentment. It’s fvcked up

Good advice

 

[nzrod]

Biologically, she is not going to have a child at 45+. This is Grade A delusion.

This relationship can’t be saved. Are you open to adoption?

Not open to adoption. Thanks.