ChaoticGamer
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Hi,
This is a follow-up to my last post, but let me try to summarize it quickly here. Met a girl on Tinder, chatted for a couple of weeks (she had some initial resistance), eventually she asked me out! went on date, Kino-escalated well, got kiss, generated rapport, etc. (Maybe was too direct about wanting a relationship), she continued to show interest for a couple weeks, and then things turned sour when I asked her for a 3rd Date, she didn't turn me down, but just ignored my request via text (keep this in mind as this is her modus-operandi), some more days pass, and I ask her out again, told her something sweet, she acts as if I swept her off feet, agrees to date, but the day of, she calls and says she's sick, I REACTED to this poorly, she notices I'm frustrated and won't even READ my messages anymore after this incident, I decide to do a HARD No-Contact.
5 Months pass, I broke No-Contact, out of nowhere she says "You're so sexy in that picture", because of this positive indicator of interest, the next day I continue to catch up and I asked her out, she says Yes. The day of the date she arrives at the venue while speaking on her phone, she sits across me (bad sign I guess), she continues to talk for a bit while I'm silent, then she extends her hand and makes a gesture I didn't quite understand, then she does it again, I understood this time, she wants to hold my hand... I get closer and she holds my hand in a sweet and romantic way. While she continues to speak on the phone, I signal her to sit next to me, she gets up and does it, we're finally next to each other. For the rest of the date I let her do 75% of the talking, she tells me everything she's been up to (family dramas, lost job, bla bla), all the while I continue to escalate, she's 100% comfortable, I go in for the Kiss, she kisses me back...
(I snapped the pic while she was still distracted on the phone)
Anyways, I feel it's time to end the date, I tell her, "I really like spending time with you, I've tried to date a couple of people, but there's something about you... How do you feel?". She literally goes on a rant about me being the most amazing guy she's ever met, among the things I remember her saying:
HER:
- "Your way of seeing life, the way you talk, there's no one I know who's so refreshing and intellectually challenging as you are, I mean... Yeah, it's obvious you're quite the catch man, I have to be honest!"
- "Career-wise you're a 10 y'know, well, I know you know that! hahaha, I've spoken to friends of mine about you, they don't believe me there can be a guy like you living in this town, I've also mentioned you to my parents, they're also so surprised by how accomplished you are, they're kind of proud I've randomly met someone like you"
- "And plus, you've always been so soooo special to me Joe, I can never forget that"
But then she started her rejection monologue:
HER:
- "But right now I don't want a relationship, I feel I can only give you 50% of a relationship, that's not fair to you, I need to solve this family issues and I'm so stressed about having lost my job"
- "And I promised myself that my next relationship is going to lead to marriage, it will be my last one!, I WANT TO BE MARRIED!, but I also promised myself I will take the time to know my next partner well, even if it takes me 2 years!"
- "As you've seen lately I've been traveling a lot, and a lot of guys asked me out, but I've turned them ALL down, trust me... RIGHT NOW... I don't want a relationship!"
- "So, what do you say we keep knowing each other and see where this goes?"
ME: "It's fine by me, I don't want to rush things either but if what you really want is to be alone, I can back away, I don't want to be a burden to you, I can take it"
HER: "Joe look, If I wasn't interested in You, there's no force on this planet that could make me come to spend time alone with you!"
Then, as she's leaving she grabbed my face, gave me a 3 seconds kiss, then a 2 seconds one, then a 1-second one.
Before this post gets too long I would like to know if you guys think what she says is plausible? friends keep telling me there's another guy in the picture, that I'm not her #1 option, simple as that. I'm really confused TBH, she's really affectionate, she even started the physical escalation this time (After 5 months she acted as if the last date was last week). However, this was on Saturday, later she sent me a text Thanking me for the date, BUT as of Today she's acting COLD again! ie. Last texts I sent her she won't even bother to read! This all feels too familiar, this is exactly what she did right before I pulled the Long No-Contact on her!
I have no idea what the hell am I supposed to do! First time in my life I have a girl like this I can't eff'n figure out! Should I continue texting her when she stops? She's the type of girl who won't INITIATE Texting EVER!
By the way the last text I sent her was a response to a silly GIF she sent me, my response was "Does this mean you want to bite me or kiss me?" (the GIF was that of a dog wearin' a Shark costume)
Sorry for the Long post, Please let me know If you guys think she's for Real? Or what's her deal? I need to know if I should continue to be patient or just run for the Hills?
Thank you!
PS. I'm surprised what a No-Contact can do, she's even spoken to her parents about how awesome I am, lol... I'm not entirely sure but it would seem her feelings for me grew in my absence, but she's strong-willed, she'd rather die than breaking no-contact.
PS 2. Forgot to mention something that's potentially important, I told her to connect on Instagram twice, and she's dodged that request, ignored/changed the subject, it's OBVIOUS she doesn't want me to see what she has in there!
This is a follow-up to my last post, but let me try to summarize it quickly here. Met a girl on Tinder, chatted for a couple of weeks (she had some initial resistance), eventually she asked me out! went on date, Kino-escalated well, got kiss, generated rapport, etc. (Maybe was too direct about wanting a relationship), she continued to show interest for a couple weeks, and then things turned sour when I asked her for a 3rd Date, she didn't turn me down, but just ignored my request via text (keep this in mind as this is her modus-operandi), some more days pass, and I ask her out again, told her something sweet, she acts as if I swept her off feet, agrees to date, but the day of, she calls and says she's sick, I REACTED to this poorly, she notices I'm frustrated and won't even READ my messages anymore after this incident, I decide to do a HARD No-Contact.
5 Months pass, I broke No-Contact, out of nowhere she says "You're so sexy in that picture", because of this positive indicator of interest, the next day I continue to catch up and I asked her out, she says Yes. The day of the date she arrives at the venue while speaking on her phone, she sits across me (bad sign I guess), she continues to talk for a bit while I'm silent, then she extends her hand and makes a gesture I didn't quite understand, then she does it again, I understood this time, she wants to hold my hand... I get closer and she holds my hand in a sweet and romantic way. While she continues to speak on the phone, I signal her to sit next to me, she gets up and does it, we're finally next to each other. For the rest of the date I let her do 75% of the talking, she tells me everything she's been up to (family dramas, lost job, bla bla), all the while I continue to escalate, she's 100% comfortable, I go in for the Kiss, she kisses me back...
(I snapped the pic while she was still distracted on the phone)
Anyways, I feel it's time to end the date, I tell her, "I really like spending time with you, I've tried to date a couple of people, but there's something about you... How do you feel?". She literally goes on a rant about me being the most amazing guy she's ever met, among the things I remember her saying:
HER:
- "Your way of seeing life, the way you talk, there's no one I know who's so refreshing and intellectually challenging as you are, I mean... Yeah, it's obvious you're quite the catch man, I have to be honest!"
- "Career-wise you're a 10 y'know, well, I know you know that! hahaha, I've spoken to friends of mine about you, they don't believe me there can be a guy like you living in this town, I've also mentioned you to my parents, they're also so surprised by how accomplished you are, they're kind of proud I've randomly met someone like you"
- "And plus, you've always been so soooo special to me Joe, I can never forget that"
But then she started her rejection monologue:
HER:
- "But right now I don't want a relationship, I feel I can only give you 50% of a relationship, that's not fair to you, I need to solve this family issues and I'm so stressed about having lost my job"
- "And I promised myself that my next relationship is going to lead to marriage, it will be my last one!, I WANT TO BE MARRIED!, but I also promised myself I will take the time to know my next partner well, even if it takes me 2 years!"
- "As you've seen lately I've been traveling a lot, and a lot of guys asked me out, but I've turned them ALL down, trust me... RIGHT NOW... I don't want a relationship!"
- "So, what do you say we keep knowing each other and see where this goes?"
ME: "It's fine by me, I don't want to rush things either but if what you really want is to be alone, I can back away, I don't want to be a burden to you, I can take it"
HER: "Joe look, If I wasn't interested in You, there's no force on this planet that could make me come to spend time alone with you!"
Then, as she's leaving she grabbed my face, gave me a 3 seconds kiss, then a 2 seconds one, then a 1-second one.
Before this post gets too long I would like to know if you guys think what she says is plausible? friends keep telling me there's another guy in the picture, that I'm not her #1 option, simple as that. I'm really confused TBH, she's really affectionate, she even started the physical escalation this time (After 5 months she acted as if the last date was last week). However, this was on Saturday, later she sent me a text Thanking me for the date, BUT as of Today she's acting COLD again! ie. Last texts I sent her she won't even bother to read! This all feels too familiar, this is exactly what she did right before I pulled the Long No-Contact on her!
I have no idea what the hell am I supposed to do! First time in my life I have a girl like this I can't eff'n figure out! Should I continue texting her when she stops? She's the type of girl who won't INITIATE Texting EVER!
By the way the last text I sent her was a response to a silly GIF she sent me, my response was "Does this mean you want to bite me or kiss me?" (the GIF was that of a dog wearin' a Shark costume)
Sorry for the Long post, Please let me know If you guys think she's for Real? Or what's her deal? I need to know if I should continue to be patient or just run for the Hills?
Thank you!
PS. I'm surprised what a No-Contact can do, she's even spoken to her parents about how awesome I am, lol... I'm not entirely sure but it would seem her feelings for me grew in my absence, but she's strong-willed, she'd rather die than breaking no-contact.
PS 2. Forgot to mention something that's potentially important, I told her to connect on Instagram twice, and she's dodged that request, ignored/changed the subject, it's OBVIOUS she doesn't want me to see what she has in there!
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