From my experience, OLD is full of spark chasers and girls on there just looking to waste your time. These girls have extremely high and unreasonable expectations for a guy on a first date despite them not bringing much to the table themselves. At the end of the day who cares and even if you did have sex with her, she was going to play games later down the road anyway.
This is insightful and a good argument for not doing tech-assisted dating. The swipe apps are the worst form of tech-assisted dating because women maximize their options on the swipe apps and get more entitled and unreasonable from the attention/validation.
Most men are better off not using swipe apps to arrange dates. Swipe apps will result in more quantity of dates than approaching strangers in a lot of cases. However, the quality of swipe app dates tends to be lower and there's a much higher risk of "one date, no sex, no second date" type dates.
Keep the first date to a maximum 30-minute coffee date- This is not enough time for her to over rationalize everything and give you that I'm not feeling a romantic connection BS after the first date. If she begs you for dinner or drinks instead then drop her. If she doesn't like you then you only wasted 10 bucks and 30 minutes of your time as opposed to 30 to 100 bucks and over a hour.
Coffee dates are a waste of time. This is a bad choice for swipe app arranged dates.
There is not a sexual vibe in any coffee house. A woman will walk away from any coffeehouse date not feeling any sort of romantic connection, which means no first date. Most women on swipe apps are chasing that immediate spark and you won't get it in a coffeehouse. If the date was arranged from a stranger approach in-person, those women are slightly less entitled and unreasonable but even they are quick to dismiss a prospect, especially if they are running an app on their phone, which you'd never know when you approached them in person. With first dates arranged from stranger approaches in-person, swipe apps, or Instagram DM's, you're going to need to create a spark fast to get a second date and a coffee house is too neutral of a venue to create that spark. Alcohol and other stimuli helps with that spark creation. Swipe app participant females need that spark fastest.
I usually attribute not getting a second date to some sort of failure on my part. What where the reasons you did not get a second date?
Many times when you don't get the second date, it has little to do with the game that you run on the date. You'll never know the reasons why you didn't get a second date, which is frustrating for process improvement. Women generally ghost with little to no explanation. The few explanations you may get would be so general and unhelpful at all. 90%+ will be ghosts/flakes with 0 explanation.
