harrison9876
Don Juan
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I've been dating this girl for the past couple months. It was very very intense from the get-go... And things were actually going quite well. One thing that seemed like a weeeee bit of a red flag is that on the third date she said she loved me (who can blame her right? )
I'm not one to judge anyone per se, in terms of how one feels or what they're feeling in the moment.. but in some ways it felt pretty fast.
Keep in mind, though, the past couple months there have been some disagreements. One thing she said to me about a week and a half ago was that if I'm not telling her "exactly" how I feel in the moment, then I am essentially lying to her.
?
This is after I called her out on something that was bothering me throughout the day. I sort of kept my mouth shut at the time, and later in the day I brought it up... Just when timing was better and it made more sense.
We talked it out, resolved everything.. and everything seemed really good.
She slept over a few times since, and this past weekend we spent about 3 days with each other.
Again, things went really well.
Today I had to get up early to go to the gym.. she had to get up early to go to a film set... So we were both in a rush...sort of going separate directions.
Because she didn't pack anything the night before she was mega stressed out and was concerned about getting there on time.
Being kind.. and with her obviously freaking out... I did not rush her.. and stayed aroud longer then I wanted to, in order to make sure she had everything packed correctly and was able to get out.
So basically, I left about 15 minutes later than I wanted to,. Was I a bit bothered by it.. yes.. but it was my choice.
I did think about just giving her the key, leaving, and just telling her to lock up when she ready to go.. But I know her well enough that she probably would not have reacted well to that. Plus it didn't really feel right in the moment.
So...I stuck around, helped her pack her car, kissed her goodbye, I made sure she left okay. Again, in my mind that was me doing a kinder thing.
After I get to the gym, I get a frustrated and angry voice message from her because supposedly I contributed to the majority of her stress...
Supposedly (unknown to me) she picked up on the fact that I was a little bit bothered by me hanging around later than I wanted to, which in turn made her a even more stressed.
I couldn't call her back because she was on set, so I in turn, left her a voice message apologizing as that was not my intention. I also told her I thought about giving leaving and simply giving her the key.. but sort of assumed she would not like that.
I figured everything was sort of smooth out after that..
I was wrong.
She thanked me for the message via text.. said she got on set fine and things are a bit calmer... And then she proceeded to tear me a new arse, accusing me of being dishonest and lying to her.
It was the same as before: because I didn't express my exact feelings in that exact moment of time... That was me not being honest and essentially lying to her in that moment. She then yelled at me for "assuming" things without bringing them up... And told me that it's a deal breaker when someone is not being honest... And that she does not usually give many chances to people in that regard.
??
These messages went on and on and on and on and on and on and on.
I was so angry that she was again accusing me of being a liar and being dishonest... That I told her to immediately stop messaging me. And that this is completely unacceptable... And not something I appreciate. I said a few more things along those lines and told her that when I want to speak to her I will call her.
2 hours later she sends me another text message, telling me she doesn't like the fact that I'm controlling her... Controlling her how she can confront me.. etc etc etc and says that we should not be together anymore (I actually deleted the entire message as I just did not want to deal with it).
I was just never going to respond or call her again.
Thoughts?
TIA
Mike
I'm not one to judge anyone per se, in terms of how one feels or what they're feeling in the moment.. but in some ways it felt pretty fast.
Keep in mind, though, the past couple months there have been some disagreements. One thing she said to me about a week and a half ago was that if I'm not telling her "exactly" how I feel in the moment, then I am essentially lying to her.
?
This is after I called her out on something that was bothering me throughout the day. I sort of kept my mouth shut at the time, and later in the day I brought it up... Just when timing was better and it made more sense.
We talked it out, resolved everything.. and everything seemed really good.
She slept over a few times since, and this past weekend we spent about 3 days with each other.
Again, things went really well.
Today I had to get up early to go to the gym.. she had to get up early to go to a film set... So we were both in a rush...sort of going separate directions.
Because she didn't pack anything the night before she was mega stressed out and was concerned about getting there on time.
Being kind.. and with her obviously freaking out... I did not rush her.. and stayed aroud longer then I wanted to, in order to make sure she had everything packed correctly and was able to get out.
So basically, I left about 15 minutes later than I wanted to,. Was I a bit bothered by it.. yes.. but it was my choice.
I did think about just giving her the key, leaving, and just telling her to lock up when she ready to go.. But I know her well enough that she probably would not have reacted well to that. Plus it didn't really feel right in the moment.
So...I stuck around, helped her pack her car, kissed her goodbye, I made sure she left okay. Again, in my mind that was me doing a kinder thing.
After I get to the gym, I get a frustrated and angry voice message from her because supposedly I contributed to the majority of her stress...
Supposedly (unknown to me) she picked up on the fact that I was a little bit bothered by me hanging around later than I wanted to, which in turn made her a even more stressed.
I couldn't call her back because she was on set, so I in turn, left her a voice message apologizing as that was not my intention. I also told her I thought about giving leaving and simply giving her the key.. but sort of assumed she would not like that.
I figured everything was sort of smooth out after that..
I was wrong.
She thanked me for the message via text.. said she got on set fine and things are a bit calmer... And then she proceeded to tear me a new arse, accusing me of being dishonest and lying to her.
It was the same as before: because I didn't express my exact feelings in that exact moment of time... That was me not being honest and essentially lying to her in that moment. She then yelled at me for "assuming" things without bringing them up... And told me that it's a deal breaker when someone is not being honest... And that she does not usually give many chances to people in that regard.
??
These messages went on and on and on and on and on and on and on.
I was so angry that she was again accusing me of being a liar and being dishonest... That I told her to immediately stop messaging me. And that this is completely unacceptable... And not something I appreciate. I said a few more things along those lines and told her that when I want to speak to her I will call her.
2 hours later she sends me another text message, telling me she doesn't like the fact that I'm controlling her... Controlling her how she can confront me.. etc etc etc and says that we should not be together anymore (I actually deleted the entire message as I just did not want to deal with it).
I was just never going to respond or call her again.
Thoughts?
TIA
Mike
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