What's Her Interest Level? Confused.

[jamesfromhouston]

Hey bros.

Would like to know the IL of this girl I recently met:

- Met a Tinder date at a Starbucks for some night coffee recently. We make out during the date.
- We have a good time. Tons of laughs. She invites me to her friends birthday party on the same night. We bounce off together.
- We dance and make out. She had the whole starry eyes situation. Intensely looking at me. Holding each other's hands. Had her arms around me. It just got really heavy and was epic.
- Next day, I ask her out again to come party with me and some friends because my friends wanted to check out a new place that had just opened in town.
- She comes but throughout the whole night she was much more reserved than before.
- We'd kiss but the kisses were weak. Her pulling away with our short make outs. She constantly looks around the room. Hold her hands, again she will eventually pull her hand away. Basically everything felt weak. Yet she did not outright reject my advances. It just felt like me endlessly pushing because the energy wasn't returned.
- Yet she stayed with me till the end of the night. She never bounced. So I tried to close the deal and suggest continuing things at my place but she said another time. And overall just felt distant.
- The energy was very different. Literally 24 hours apart.

I'm confused. I understand actions speak more than words. But I'm really not too sure what's happening in this situation.

What do you bros think.

What would you bros do in terms of next steps.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Is she Italian?

 

[devilkingx2]

As a general rule, since I haven't read your post just yet, if you're ever confused about a woman's interest level:

1. She's not interested
2. She's crazy
3. She's interested but starring in her own season of The Bachelorette

Those are the top 3 most likely possibilities, however other situations may occur.

 

[isasda66]

- Next day, I ask her out again to come party with me and some friends because my friends wanted to check out a new place that had just opened in town.

This was your mistake. Even if she invites you the next day and it wasnt you inviting her dont go for it. Subconsciously they think you have too much free time which means you must not be that great.

Maybe the meeting friends makes it seem to quick for her. She may think you want something more while she doesnt want to.

 

[jamesfromhouston]

Is she Italian?

No she isn't. She's American.

 

[dude99]

Hey bros.

Would like to know the IL of this girl I recently met:

- Met a Tinder date at a Starbucks for some night coffee recently. We make out during the date.
- We have a good time. Tons of laughs. She invites me to her friends birthday party on the same night. We bounce off together.
- We dance and make out. She had the whole starry eyes situation. Intensely looking at me. Holding each other's hands. Had her arms around me. It just got really heavy and was epic.
- Next day, I ask her out again to come party with me and some friends because my friends wanted to check out a new place that had just opened in town.
- She comes but throughout the whole night she was much more reserved than before.
- We'd kiss but the kisses were weak. Her pulling away with our short make outs. She constantly looks around the room. Hold her hands, again she will eventually pull her hand away. Basically everything felt weak. Yet she did not outright reject my advances. It just felt like me endlessly pushing because the energy wasn't returned.
- Yet she stayed with me till the end of the night. She never bounced. So I tried to close the deal and suggest continuing things at my place but she said another time. And overall just felt distant.
- The energy was very different. Literally 24 hours apart.

I'm confused. I understand actions speak more than words. But I'm really not too sure what's happening in this situation.

What do you bros think.

What would you bros do in terms of next steps.

Give it a week of space then ask her out again. The next day may have seemed a bit thirsty to her. After a week ask her out again if she acts distant again i think you have your answer.

 

[Serenity]

Next day and with your friends was probably too much too soon. She barely knows you and don't know your friends at all, she probably had no clue how to deal with that and it made her uncomfortable. Constantly looking around the room is textbook behavior when someone is uncomfortable.

Being affectionate and being uncomfortable are conflicting emotions, so that's why everything felt weak. She was too uncomfortable with the situation to focus on affection.

You should have waited before seeing her again, but the bigger issue is that you shouldn't have introduced your friends so soon.

 

[bat soup]

Hey bros.

Would like to know the IL of this girl I recently met:

- Met a Tinder date at a Starbucks for some night coffee recently. We make out during the date.
- We have a good time. Tons of laughs. She invites me to her friends birthday party on the same night. We bounce off together.
- We dance and make out. She had the whole starry eyes situation. Intensely looking at me. Holding each other's hands. Had her arms around me. It just got really heavy and was epic.
- Next day, I ask her out again to come party with me and some friends because my friends wanted to check out a new place that had just opened in town.
- She comes but throughout the whole night she was much more reserved than before.
- We'd kiss but the kisses were weak. Her pulling away with our short make outs. She constantly looks around the room. Hold her hands, again she will eventually pull her hand away. Basically everything felt weak. Yet she did not outright reject my advances. It just felt like me endlessly pushing because the energy wasn't returned.
- Yet she stayed with me till the end of the night. She never bounced. So I tried to close the deal and suggest continuing things at my place but she said another time. And overall just felt distant.
- The energy was very different. Literally 24 hours apart.

I'm confused. I understand actions speak more than words. But I'm really not too sure what's happening in this situation.

What do you bros think.

What would you bros do in terms of next steps.

If you're confused then her interest level is zero.

 

[Bigpapa]

Hey bros.

Would like to know the IL of this girl I recently met:

- Met a Tinder date at a Starbucks for some night coffee recently. We make out during the date.
- We have a good time. Tons of laughs. She invites me to her friends birthday party on the same night. We bounce off together.
- We dance and make out. She had the whole starry eyes situation. Intensely looking at me. Holding each other's hands. Had her arms around me. It just got really heavy and was epic.
- Next day, I ask her out again to come party with me and some friends because my friends wanted to check out a new place that had just opened in town.
- She comes but throughout the whole night she was much more reserved than before.
- We'd kiss but the kisses were weak. Her pulling away with our short make outs. She constantly looks around the room. Hold her hands, again she will eventually pull her hand away. Basically everything felt weak. Yet she did not outright reject my advances. It just felt like me endlessly pushing because the energy wasn't returned.
- Yet she stayed with me till the end of the night. She never bounced. So I tried to close the deal and suggest continuing things at my place but she said another time. And overall just felt distant.
- The energy was very different. Literally 24 hours apart.

I'm confused. I understand actions speak more than words. But I'm really not too sure what's happening in this situation.

What do you bros think.

What would you bros do in terms of next steps.

just so you know , in order to be successful on tinder you have to basically be a boring guy

when you meet in reality and scale things up , then the woman will not know which is the real you

so she will be uncomfortable

 

[EyeBRollin]

You fvcked this up. She liked you the first day. Then you got so eager and needy that you asked her out to a group date the next day.

You dried up her pvssy, OP.

 

[Dr.Suave]

Wait at least one day before the next date. After sealing the deal you can relax a bit with this rule.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Seems like you are way more into her than she is into you and you invited her out the next night which makes you seem like you have no other options. She senses desperation with a guy trying to GF her up after one date.

Also, if you have to wonder what her interest level is after two dates and are "confused", it's nowhere near high enough.

 

[bat soup]

Hey bros.

Would like to know the IL of this girl I recently met:

- Met a Tinder date at a Starbucks for some night coffee recently. We make out during the date.
- We have a good time. Tons of laughs. She invites me to her friends birthday party on the same night. We bounce off together.
- We dance and make out. She had the whole starry eyes situation. Intensely looking at me. Holding each other's hands. Had her arms around me. It just got really heavy and was epic.
- Next day, I ask her out again to come party with me and some friends because my friends wanted to check out a new place that had just opened in town.
- She comes but throughout the whole night she was much more reserved than before.
- We'd kiss but the kisses were weak. Her pulling away with our short make outs. She constantly looks around the room. Hold her hands, again she will eventually pull her hand away. Basically everything felt weak. Yet she did not outright reject my advances. It just felt like me endlessly pushing because the energy wasn't returned.
- Yet she stayed with me till the end of the night. She never bounced. So I tried to close the deal and suggest continuing things at my place but she said another time. And overall just felt distant.
- The energy was very different. Literally 24 hours apart.

I'm confused. I understand actions speak more than words. But I'm really not too sure what's happening in this situation.

What do you bros think.

What would you bros do in terms of next steps.

One thing I notice is that you kokblocked yourself by bring along your friends. It's a very bad idea to bring friend along to a date. Maybe she was happy escalating with you in private, but not now that a bunch of strange guys are watching her.

 

[SW15]

You fvcked this up. She liked you the first day. Then you got so eager and needy that you asked her out to a group date the next day.

You dried up her pvssy, OP.

This is exactly what happened.

 

[Glassguy]

Back off of her and see if she comes around. Zero contact. If she reaches out, great. Don't be so ambitious to go out with her. Play it cool.
If she doesn't reach out, hit her up in a week or two if at all.

 

[jamesfromhouston]

Hey everybody.

Thank you all for responding.

So it turns out it was a combination of what most of you were saying.

Just an update from my side for anyone who ever find themselves in the same rut:

- She eventually reached out to me on her own and asked me out for some drinks at this new bar that opened.
- So it was just me and her and this time it was very clear she is very interested. Starry eyes again.
- The bar being new was quiet and mostly empty; so we were back to that initial level of passion again.
- Yet when I kissed her outside in the street, she was more reserved.
** So it seems to me that she has an issue with public affection. **
To be honest this is really new for me because I've never had an issue with girls in terms of public affection. Maybe I've been lucky. But I' always thought if you're really into someone, public affection is unstoppable. So I will see how this goes.

Anyway, I DO THINK, that what most of you were saying is right, especially @catsmeow (btw I've always really loved your sharing on the forum).

I should have let it simmer on for longer to really get the butterflies going again.

But funnily enough, despite the fact that we had met frequently, the level of energy seems quite high, meaning the IL might be very high.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Hey everybody.

Thank you all for responding.

So it turns out it was a combination of what most of you were saying.

Just an update from my side for anyone who ever find themselves in the same rut:

- She eventually reached out to me on her own and asked me out for some drinks at this new bar that opened.
- So it was just me and her and this time it was very clear she is very interested. Starry eyes again.
- The bar being new was quiet and mostly empty; so we were back to that initial level of passion again.
- Yet when I kissed her outside in the street, she was more reserved.
** So it seems to me that she has an issue with public affection. **
To be honest this is really new for me because I've never had an issue with girls in terms of public affection. Maybe I've been lucky. But I' always thought if you're really into someone, public affection is unstoppable. So I will see how this goes.

Anyway, I DO THINK, that what most of you were saying is right, especially @catsmeow (btw I've always really loved your sharing on the forum).

I should have let it simmer on for longer to really get the butterflies going again.

But funnily enough, despite the fact that we had met frequently, the level of energy seems quite high, meaning the IL might be very high.

The only way you'll know her interest level is high is if she fvcks you. Until then it's all conjecture. Many a woman has acted head over heels up until the time to get naked comes and then you find it's all a rouse, then the back away, the ghost, the LJBF starts...

So far so good...just saying don't let it get to your head too much until you fvck her. Everything else doesn't matter.

 

[jamesfromhouston]

The only way you'll know her interest level is high is if she fvcks you. Until then it's all conjecture.

You're right.

In terms of term of sexual escalation; still a bit hesitant.

Maybe she's in it for the attention.

Let's see how it goes.

 

[Steno]

Be careful with going on so many dates with her in such a short time span. I don't recommend going on more than 1 date per week, especially since you guys just started seeing each other. After like a month you can slowly increase it, but only if things are going well and you want to slowly transition it into a more serious relationship.

At the pace your going you might end up in a relationship too fast, take your time to feel things out because you might not be compatible.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

You're right.

In terms of term of sexual escalation; still a bit hesitant.

Maybe she's in it for the attention.

Let's see how it goes.

3rd date heading to a 4th. The clock is ticking my man and it's not in your favor at this point.

What are you hesitant for? Hopefully this doesn't turn into another situation after the 6th date and nothing happened and then you wonder why she is losing interest...