Would be interested to see when you all put your dates and what kind of activities you’re doing on them.
I have had first dates and other early stage dates on every night of the week.
First dates are almost always drinks in some bar. I stopped doing first date meal dates about 10 years ago. The Manosphere had to enlighten me on that one. A lot of men who don't discover the Manosphere/Red Pill etc. don't ever learn not to do first date dinner dates. One of my few platonic female acquaintances (I'm not physically attracted to her) has mentioned how she gets tons of offers for dinner dates off of swipe apps/online dating. Plenty of men are still doing dinner dates.
If the conversion during my in-person approach yields some commonality that works well as an activity date, I will do an activity date on a first date. That's rarely ever happens though, so I'm using the default drinks date over 95% of the time. Activity dates are decent 2nd-3rd dates if you're not getting first date sex. I don't tend to push hard for first date sex, which would be a legitimate critique of my dating style. The counterpoint to that is that I prefer longer term sexual relationships and a lot of first date sex doesn't result in a longer term sexual relationships.
Over my 20+ years in the mating environment, I have noticed a change in the atmosphere around date night on certain nights of the week. It's mainly weeknights (Sunday - Thursday nights). When I was in high school and college, a weeknight date felt a lot different than a post college weeknight date. This was especially true with college. In college, I could go on a Wednesday night date. If I didn't have a morning class on Thursday, I could go harder on a weeknight and stay out later. This would also be helped if the woman didn't have an early class the next day either. Post college, there's something deflating about 2 white collar workers going out on a weeknight and having a real job the next day that requires sleep, mental clarity, and not a hangover.
The prospect of work the next morning before 9 AM can often hang negatively over a first date drinks date on a Tuesday or Wednesday night.
As I've observed, the biggest difference between college and the white collar working world is the consequences of messing up. In college, if you mess up, the absolute worst consequence is that you fail a specific class and have to take it again. Knowing that's the worst consequence is liberating and you can have a more carefree mentality going into dates. In the white collar working world, if you fucck up at work, you can get fired. When you get fired, you're likely facing 3-9 months of job interviews while getting a fraction of your former salary from state unemployment payments. That's going to affect quality of life in a major way. You can't have as carefree of a mentality on your weeknight dates.
is it bad practice to ask a girl out on a weekend day (i.e. Friday or Saturday?) I seem to remember hearing that somewhere. Not sure how legit that advice is.
In the 2000s, I read that it is bad practice to ask out a woman on a Friday or Saturday night. Therefore, for many years, I only offered first dates during the Sunday-Thursday night time frame. My views on this have evolved over time.
The upside to asking a woman out on a Friday or Saturday is that you can have a more carefree mentality on the early stage date because you're not having to think about work in the morning. This is true if you're working a Mon-Fri 8:30 AM-5:30 PM type job.
There are downsides to planning a Friday - Saturday night first date. The biggest downside is that a female prospect might interpret that you have nothing better going on in your life because you're offering a stranger a prime time slot. This looks even worse when the interaction is occuring from behind an electronic screen, as would be the case with swipe apps and social media DMs. Additionally, almost every woman under 30 will not agree to a Friday or Saturday night first date because her social life is generally busy. She can fill up her most important time slots either going to bars to look for new men and/or spending time with her female friends.
When you are dealing with women 30+, these women often have availability on Friday and Saturday nights. Unattached women 30+ have friends who are mainly in long term relationships and married who won't be available to see them on Friday and Saturday nights. An unattached woman 30+ will be open to a first date on those night. I remember one instance where I had an amazing date with an attractive early 30s woman on a Friday night. We started the date around 7:00 or 7:30 PM and didn't end it until around 12:30 to 1 AM. I remember thinking while on that date that the 24-27 year old version of her would never have done this. You can propose a Friday or Saturday night first date with a 30+ woman from either a swipe app or real life approach method. I would still recommend choosing the Sunday-Thursday night option.
Occasionally, I have had first dates that were activity dates on a Saturday or Sunday afternoon. Those can be good options. It's even possible to do a day drinking first date on a weekend afternoon. A weekend afternoon doesn't carry the same significance as a weekend night (not as prime of a time slot).
