7 yrs Celibate at 35

[SH03C]

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No need to delete lmao. Just couldn’t see how it related.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Can I ask, what exactly is wrong with being celibate? It's absolutely no reflection of the person abstaining.

Nothing wrong with being celibate. Though, there are probably better places in the internet to hang out in than this one.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

I’m beginning to find myself in bad place. Adhering to black pill ideology and being quite wreck-less with all forms of social interaction, but more so with women via social and dating apps.

The last several years of celibacy have been predicated on being heavily medicated, the meds I was on made me a shell of myself. I began to isolate and remove all friends except those on Xbox. My life became consumed with these interactions as the meds I was on had a severe impact on my hormones and it kept me in a state of finding all the fulfillment I needed from video games or trading crypto and earning money.

At the end of August 2021 my primary doctor advised that I discontinue these meds that had been prescribed from my gastroenterologist. After the three month period it took for the meds to be fully removed from my system I found myself in a deep depression as I began to realize how messed up the meds made me for the last 5.5 years. My rationality began to return and I found it difficult to grasp how much damage and lost time I’d had from isolating over the prior 5 some years. It’s unlike any life challenge I could ever imagine. These meds really messed up my perception.

Now today I am struggling with this depression and all the missed opportunities and lost friendships. It quite literally is unfathomable.

More so I began to chat with a female via OLD about a month ago and that ended after one brief meetup. She later explained that there was no physical attraction and she was also seeing someone else. It’s only added onto my depression.

I’m now in fear of continuing on a wreckless path of black pill and I don’t know how to remove myself from this ideology. I very much want to be the upbeat and social person I was prior but have no idea where to begin. Females seem to do more harm to my mindset but bc of the many missed years of irrationality I feel a level of haste to link up with a girl and begin the next stage of my life. Never would I ever think I’d be 7 years celibate. I need to break this cycle and become myself again.. but how the fvck do I get there.

Didn't read much either OP.
Don't let pvssy control and define you because it doesn't define you and honestly it doesn't matter either.
What matters is to get your sh|t together.

Just like the other guys say here:
Hit the gym and get in shape, grind on yourself and your financial future and let your excellence define you instead which is what really matters.

 

[Mike32ct]

I’m in a 4-yr dry spell that I would like to end this year.

It’s far from important, but still on my radar.

 

[Smok1nAce]

as long as you have been working on yourself and improving yourself you should be good to go.

 

[Solomon]

If you don't mind sharing what medicines? I know sometimes doing a week or two detox can help to rebalance your hormonal system

 

[corrector]

I’m in a 4-yr dry spell that I would like to end this year.

It’s far from important, but still on my radar.

You did not do anything with that girl you were talking about ?!?

 

[Mike32ct]

You did not do anything with that girl you were talking about ?!?

Made out and fooled around recently. That was as far as it went. Then things fizzled out. Didn’t go all the way.

But it’s an improvement over nothing. Next lol.

 

[SH03C]

If you don't mind sharing what medicines? I know sometimes doing a week or two detox can help to rebalance your hormonal system

Something called Azathioprine. It’s a black label which I was over prescribed, it takes 3 months to fully remove from your system. Did have an impact on my hormones and rationale for quite some time.

Lesson learned here - don’t trust doctors with anything they prescribe you, unless antibiotics. You never really know what impact they have on your state of mind.

 

[MatureDJ]

I am 8 years celibate so I beat you by one year. Also at least 30% or more of guys are celibate these days because the blackpill is real, so its not that big of a deal.

Gosh, if I didn't count EscortMaxxing, it would be a LONG time for me too.

 

[manfrombelow]

OP, hit the gym, get in shape, eat healthy, and make money - not for the sake of pvssies of course, but for the sake of yourself.

Even though I also don't think being celibate is wrong, but I also believe men are born to fvck women and at least have some emotional interaction with them.

 

[corrector]

Gosh, if I didn't count EscortMaxxing, it would be a LONG time for me too.

My last sexual interaction was with an escort. Too demonic. Keep interactions with them from a safe distance (onlyfans).

 

[StacksHitEmUp]

My last sexual interaction was with an escort. Too demonic. Keep interactions with them from a safe distance (onlyfans).

You need therapy.

OP,
Most are telling you to hit the gym and blablabla. You should get in shape, but do it in a way that you enjoy it. Find out what makes you a better man, what makes you happy and what you enjoy and do those things instead. They can’t be self-destructive things though. Improve in the way you see fit and you like.

 

[SH03C]

You need therapy.

OP,
Most are telling you to hit the gym and blablabla. You should get in shape, but do it in a way that you enjoy it. Find out what makes you a better man, what makes you happy and what you enjoy and do those things instead. They can’t be self-destructive things though. Improve in the way you see fit and you like.

Thanks my guy.

Today I set aside time for a good massage and found it to do wonders for my peace of mind and confidence. Would advise others in a rough mental frame to do the same. Very therapeutic. Also look and feel like a million bucks.

I’ve also been quite consistent with the gym in recent weeks and will make a concerted effort to keep pace.

 

[LucianoM]

Honestly for a person like you id recommend fvcking a couple escorts. Go to a country where its legal and cheap if you live in the US. I think thatll jolt you into a better state mentally.

 

[corrector]

Thanks my guy.

Today I set aside time for a good massage and found it to do wonders for my peace of mind and confidence. Would advise others in a rough mental frame to do the same. Very therapeutic. Also look and feel like a million bucks.

I’ve also been quite consistent with the gym in recent weeks and will make a concerted effort to keep pace.

What type of massage was it? Was it like a soft escort service or a legit health practice?

 

[Slowhandluke]

Sex is sex. Why the hangup? For guys it shouldn't be a big deal. Get an escort or a massage therapist... whatever floats your boat, and move forward with your purpose.

Throughout history sex was not a big deal for men. Women obviously it is different. They saved themselves. Those that wanted to have ltr... however, throughout history, in basically all societies escorts existed for a reason - a release valve for men. Even in very religious time periods. Heck, even in muslin countries now they exist.

Men should not have this hangup.

 

[SW15]

Shiit. I can identify with something like 3-6 months of celibacy. Maybe a guy needs some time off after some relational trauma.

I tend to get a bit out of sorts after 2-4 weeks of no sex. I also do no porn/no mbate too. Having sex at least every 2-4 weeks helps to keep my balanced. Having sex helps me keep succeeding with no porn & no mbate.

7 years is too long. After 6 months, it is too long. 1 year would be bad.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

You don’t have to join a gym, but I’d suggest exercising in some form or fashion. Don’t run, you don’t need to become “runner skinny”. Do push-ups, challenge yourself to do 3 sets to failure EVERY NIGHT for a month. If you want, do it every other night. But just keep trying to beat what you did the time before. I have to workout, I would be a freaking nutcase if I didn’t after dealing with all the bull crap I have from women.

We all have to be comedians about it, the alternative is depressing.