Not banging a chick

[Robert28]

I used to be WAY more aggressive in escalating before the MeToo movement happened. Now I don’t and women call me out for it, one even said I was prudish. Sorry but you can’t go hollering metoo for years and expect guys to keep being sexually aggressive. If you want me you better make the move, I refuse to do it anymore.

 

[darksprezzatura]

My take on situations like these is always the same, it's either a sh*t test or she is still on the fence about you.

When a girl is 100% into you, she will give herself to you. She will submit, she will consent, with no hesitation. Simple. We all know this (hopefully).

The older you get, the less energy and desire you possess to "convince" a woman to be with you. She is either fully in or she is not. If she is not, there is the door. I have and always tell girls that, I literally point at the door.

Sounds like a tease. Let her come to you if she wants it, but for now, move on.



Modern Man Advice

Spot on

 

[Poonstra]

You guys where right on two accounts, I should not have stopped, and she was on the fence about me.

Solid advice in this threat, thanks!

 

[SW15]

You guys where right on two accounts, I should not have stopped, and she was on the fence about me.

LMR is annoying. If you can get a woman down to at least her underwear, you'll be able to get her to have sex. She shoved her tits in your face, she was definitely ready to go.

 

[derby1]

Reading this makes me want to go and live in the Himalayan mountains

I think theyre truly pathetic, weak and insufferable.

guarantee she hasnt got a 2 page post open on some forum trying to figure men out.....

I wish all men woke up tomorrow morning and ghosted them

I also wish all good men sat down for 1 week, did not get up and did not attend their infrastructure job. The Devastation would start after around 36 hours.....it would be an artistic masterpiece

 

[BDDazza]

I matched with this girl on Bumble about six months a go, she was quite forward in her messaging. As it was late summer we went out and got a couple of beers. The date went pretty well, there was some escalation, and thus physical interaction. She held on to my hand with the firmest grip I've ever experienced from a female. Me thinking this is a good this I tried to get her home in which I might have been a bit overwhelming. She ghosted me a couple of days later.


So here I was, swiping along on tinder yesterday, saw her, swiped right and match. Again she was forward in her messaging, and she came over for dinner. We made pasta, drank some wine, and d!cked around on youtube. During said d!cking around I again escalated, and she seemed fine with me touching her but when I tried to kiss her, twice, I twice received the cheek of death. At around 2230 I'm thinking this isn't happening, so I'm like I've got to walk the dog and work tomorrow, trying to get her to leave. I still had half a bottle of wine I wanted to finish. She climbs on my lap, shoves her tits in my face. And down the escalation ladder we go, I got her naked, she's gripping my ****, I get up to get a condom. She's like, perhaps we should wait a bit. I didn't want to seem to thirsty so I said, sure, no problem. We fooled around a bit more and after a while she went home.

I think postponing a bit might pay dividends in the future. What's your take on situations like this?

The before mention bottle is now empty and I'm going to walk to dog. Thanks guys!

After the first date you left a good impression, despite her initially ghosting you she decided to meet with you again at your home. Women are often cautious about meeting strangers alone, so she must have felt some what comfortable to meet you at home and then subsequently assist with drinking a bottle of wine and getting naked.

Your mistake was moving too fast when the escalation picked up, when you got up to get he condom she had a moment of clarity and reminded herself that you are a stranger. Women know that once you put the condom on its an additional pressure to follow through with sex, hence why she stopped you at this point.

I feel if you continued the escalation for longer, perhaps introduce foreplay and get her sexy excited for longer she would have changed her mind. Also, next time keep the condom nearby the bed or in your wallet so you don't have to get up. When you got up it may have ruined the mood.

She has made it clear that she may feel comfortable to have sex on the third date, to avoid appearing "thirsty", i would say this is somewhat of a successful outcome. You did the right thing by not over perusing it.

Its been a few weeks since your post, any update?

Let her chase you now. Back burner b!tch in my opinion.

I don't completely agree with this, the lady got naked and carried out foreplay, she is cooperative. She said sex is on the table on the next date so why ruin that!

 

[Striker_93]

Once you got her naked and gripping your dvck there is absolutely no excuse why it didn't happen, none at all. All women will use what I like to call "Token Resistance" it's not real and is very common and almost expected, it's something that men should've learned by high school......Take your L on this one and learn from it.

In situations like this, most of the time you lose the girl(Another guy smashes her, she thinks your a pvssy or just loses interest) depending on how much she likes you.

I have been through similar situations in my life where I screwed a opportunity but I got MANY more opportunities because the girl really liked me....

All in all, it's no big deal

But if you hang out with her again and don't fvck her you lose your man card lol j/p

 

[Juanto]

I would go out with her one more time, in a scenario where sex can happen (meaning something at your place or her place). If nothing happens there, just move on

 

[Poonstra]

Its been a few weeks since your post, any update?

We through a couple of messages back and forth, and she ghosted again. Thanks for the video tho, I appreciate it.