Girlfriend Wants To Meet My Friends, But I don't have Any

[Zimbabwe]

So it's gotten to the point where she introduced me to her 3 friends, they seemed really nice. She introduced me to them slowly one by one and i got to know them.

The problem is she's been asking about meeting my friends, I can't really use the pandemic as an excuse since cases are going down. The problem is I have no friends at all, sure i have a bunch of aquatainces i occasionally talk to but nobody close enough that i would introduce my girlfriend to.

I'm not sure what to do here exactly, should i just tell her I don't actually have any friends?

 

[corrector]

Yeah, she will find out eventually so you have no choice but to be honest.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

I would lie and say you have at least one. She will feel that she owns your spare time if you don't.

 

[Clamslammer]

So it's gotten to the point where she introduced me to her 3 friends, they seemed really nice. She introduced me to them slowly one by one and i got to know them.

The problem is she's been asking about meeting my friends, I can't really use the pandemic as an excuse since cases are going down. The problem is I have no friends at all, sure i have a bunch of aquatainces i occasionally talk to but nobody close enough that i would introduce my girlfriend to.

I'm not sure what to do here exactly, should i just tell her I don't actually have any friends?

Are you guys sleeping with each other? On your days you are not with her what do you do and whom do you hang out with?

 

[Zimbabwe]

Yeah, she will find out eventually so you have no choice but to be honest.

Yeah but i can't just say "btw I have no friends". I need a plan.

I would lie and say you have at least one. She will feel that she owns your spare time if you don't.

This has happened in the past with my ex girlfriends so that's why I'm hesitant to just say i have no friends.

Are you guys sleeping with each other? On your days you are not with her what do you do and whom do you hang out with?

Yes we are, I'm usually approaching other girls,going to the Gym or playing video games at home. I don't have friends so in the past i used to get too dependent on my Girlfriends for social interaction, which turns them off.

 

[Velasco]

There's got to be at least ONE cool guy you work with who you could consider a 'friend'. Ask him to bring his girlfriend along and all do a couples activity together. Like a dinner and a movie at the cinema

 

[Zimbabwe]

There's got to be at least ONE cool guy you work with who you could consider a 'friend'. Ask him to bring his girlfriend along and all do a couples activity together. Like a dinner and a movie at the cinema

We've been doing WFH since day one in my current job, I've never actually met anyone from my team in person besides my manager's.

I know some cool guys from my last job but i haven't spoken to them since i left.

 

[Plinco]

So it's gotten to the point where she introduced me to her 3 friends, they seemed really nice. She introduced me to them slowly one by one and i got to know them.

The problem is she's been asking about meeting my friends, I can't really use the pandemic as an excuse since cases are going down. The problem is I have no friends at all, sure i have a bunch of aquatainces i occasionally talk to but nobody close enough that i would introduce my girlfriend to.

I'm not sure what to do here exactly, should i just tell her I don't actually have any friends?

Be completely and bluntly honest with her and say something like, "I don't have any close friends, I have people I hang out with."

Be blunt and straight to the point. You will sound like you are your own man, and you will also sound completely authentic.

 

[Stuffnu]

I’ll be your friend mate.
You make the determination between friends and acquaintances.
How would she know the difference?
Line something up at a local pub with them. Invite her out.
The introductions will appear the same.

 

[SW15]

You need some male friends.

 

[corrector]

Be completely and bluntly honest with her and say something like, "I don't have any close friends, I have people I hang out with."

Be blunt and straight to the point. You will sound like you are your own man, and you will also sound completely authentic.

He doesn't have people he hangs out with so that would still be lying.

 

[Velasco]

He doesn't have people he hangs out with so that would still be lying.

"sound like"

 

[corrector]

Yeah but i can't just say "btw I have no friends". I need a plan.

Or else what? You are afraid you'll lose her? That's scarcity and oneitis. At least tell me this us this is an hb8+ without tatoos, a weird hairstyle and a leftie nut so it doesn't seem so bad.

Your plan should be having either having other options so you have an abundance mind-set, and don't care too much about this girl, or have an exit plan if the relationship doesn't work out.

 

[Plinco]

He doesn't have people he hangs out with so that would still be lying.

...sure i have a bunch of aquatainces i occasionally talk to...

 

[Who Dares Win]

So it's gotten to the point where she introduced me to her 3 friends, they seemed really nice. She introduced me to them slowly one by one and i got to know them.

The problem is she's been asking about meeting my friends, I can't really use the pandemic as an excuse since cases are going down. The problem is I have no friends at all, sure i have a bunch of aquatainces i occasionally talk to but nobody close enough that i would introduce my girlfriend to.

I'm not sure what to do here exactly, should i just tell her I don't actually have any friends?

If her friends are cute you can try to invite a "friend" of yours...men are thirsty nowadays and will gladly pretend to know you if there is some benefit.

Even better would be a gym buddy or a work mate so you can introduce them with what they really are.

Anyway I completely understand your position, women are herd creatures and if you dont fit in the herd they feel something is wrong.

This is one of the reasons why I always approached couples in clubs and not single girls cause if the girls are two they will somehow keep the focus on them rather than me, their shield was much more relaxed.

 

[Velasco]

else what? You are afraid you'll lose her? That's scarcity and oneitis. At least tell me this us this is an hb8+ without tatoos, a weird hairstyle and a leftie nut so it doesn't seem so bad.

Your plan should be having either having other options so you have an abundance mind-set, and don't care too much about this girl, or have an exit plan if the relationship doesn't work out.

Your just copy pasting what the internet alpha males on here say. Zimbabwe is a real dude.

 

[corrector]

@Plinco That's up to OP to clarify what me means by "talking to". The words "hanging out" was never mentioned.

 

[corrector]

If her friends are cute you can try to invite a "friend" of yours...men are thirsty nowadays and will gladly pretend to know you if there is some benefit.

Even better would be a gym buddy or a work mate so you can introduce them with what they really are.

He was already introduced to her friends so he'll be introducing his thirsty friends to his girlfriend. If they are better looking than he is, then he might have some competition at worst, or lose her to his chad-guy acquaintance.

Anyway I completely understand your position, women are herd creatures and if you dont fit in the herd they feel something is wrong.

This is one of the reasons why I always approached couples in clubs and not single girls cause if the girls are two they will somehow keep the focus on them rather than me, their shield was much more relaxed.

He's not talking about cold approaching but his girlfriend who wants to see his friends.

The problem here is too much advice is hammered on approaching, cold-approach, but not enough development on building a social life, getting other male friends and being an all together rounded person so when you actually do get a good catch, you never have the social capital to back yourself up in terms of being a catch yourself since that was never the focus. This is why becoming a Don Juan is a wholistic approach rather than going to a PUA site that makes you into a social robot.

The OP should just take this as a lesson learned and build himself better so that things don't get this awkward if he meets someone else.

 

[Mike32ct]

I don’t run into this much as an older guy; but when I was younger, the girls were definitely grilling me about my guy friends (or lack thereof).

 

[Old Balls]

"I've kind of outgrown most of the friends that I used to run with. We all just kind of went down separate paths, and those paths aren't something I really wanted to be a part of. At first it was hard to not have the boys around to cause trouble and do stupid things, but I really this has a blessing in disguise so far. I'm a lot more careful how I choose friends these days. I would probably be in prison if I chose to remain close to them. I have a lot of acquaintances, and a few that I would call friends, but we don't hang really hang out as much as we should. Maybe I'll give them a call sometime and we can go have a boys night out. And then I'll decide who you get to meet. You know what, I just noticed how much I want to taste your neck right now...(taste neck and proceed into the land of milk and honey)