mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
"Stress related inflammation" - you understand.... That is real. Stress also slows down a certain mindsets metabolism. Causes them to hold water and like you said, stress causes inflammation ontop of it. So it makes them feel like crap.I have not divorced her as of yet. I have a responsibility to make it work the relationship work, however in my experience tolerance is often a fools errand. She senses where things are going and she is been having stress related inflammation. She’s doing everything she can to keep the relationship going, I just don’t find her sexually appealing.
Intimacy is important if it's important to you. If it's important to the way you live, you have to make it a priority when choosing a relationship partner.After thinking about it, I think the root of the problem is the commitment came before sex. For me, the sex defiantly has to come before the commitment. I think arranged marriages can only work if both partners are virgins. It’s like a wolf after getting a taste of fresh meat, it doesn’t want dog food anymore.
Plane janes might not elicit desire. However slvts are known to have offsetting personality types. They can be very disrespectful and very abrasive. Many hardened slvts will literally "get on your nerves" with their actions.‘Plain Janes’ are just that because they don’t elicit sexual attention. A plain Jane to me might not be for you. I call my wife a plain Jane because there is no sexual tension between us.
You would find another "virgin" in a culture which values virginity. Here in modern day Babylon, good luck.,Another reason why I have not divorced with her yet is because I have some scarcity mindset; where am I going to find a woman who is a virgin, will cook and clean, and doesn’t argue with me. I think to myself, “if I could only start finding her sexually attractive, I’ve got it made.” When I go out somewhere and look at women, I see arrogance, jadedness, and ugliness. She’s better looking than most women (not always according to me though), she’s a virgin, and relatively humble. Sexually to me however, she’s repulsive, again because I think she represents a whole lot of responsibilities and no fun, commitment without sex.
In your current wife, you said her body is not too fat or anything, it's just for whatever reason she doesn't cause desire. Why not allow her to take on a "lover" to learn about sexuality. Sex and being desired will start to fill a part of her ego, which will make her look more sexually attractive to people. As long as that part is starved, she will will look more plain to most.
It's unhealthy for a man, it's also unhealthy for a woman. It's unhealthy for her to bask in that lack of desire attention that you have for her, just like it's unhealthy for a man to be starved of reasonable affection.Also, I've known her for years, and I've developed platonic feelings for her. Having platonic emotions for a woman is very unhealthy for a man. Breaking off the relationship is not going to be easy to do for both of us.