What to do here

[Barrister]

I agree. Both my friend and I thought it would be an easy slam dunk based on how she was coming off to me. I guess even a for sure thing isn’t a for sure thing anymore which blows my mind.

This is part of your problem. Having any type of expectations is always dangerous and can make you get sloppy with game. You already know this. You also are likely giving off this vibe that you see her as a "slam dunk" and it is making her anti-slvt defense kick in.

 

[jaymbrs]

This is part of your problem. Having any type of expectations is always dangerous and can make you get sloppy with game. You already know this. You also are likely giving off this vibe that you see her as a "slam dunk" and it is making her anti-slvt defense kick in.

I'm getting this vibe 100%. The way she was with me that night gave me the impression she wanted to hook up. She probably realized it afterwards and is now pulling back.

 

[Willie Naylor]

I'm getting this vibe 100%. The way she was with me that night gave me the impression she wanted to hook up. She probably realized it afterwards and is now pulling back.

Or, like I said, she just wanted you to leave a large cash tip when you left the bar that night.

This is a case of you looking for advice that jives with how you already feel about the situation. You've ignored anything that you don't personally agree with.

Continue to chase this chick. I know you're going to.

 

[jaymbrs]

Or, like I said, she just wanted you to leave a large cash tip when you left the bar that night.

This is a case of you looking for advice that jives with how you already feel about the situation. You've ignored anything that you don't personally agree with.

Continue to chase this chick. I know you're going to.

She gave the number after my friend paid the tab. The hate is strong in you.

 

[Willie Naylor]

She gave the number after my friend paid the tab. The hate is strong in you.

I'm telling you something you don't want to hear, so you accuse me of being a hater. I'm sorry the world doesn't coddle everyone with stuff they want to hear all the time.

My advice is that this chick is going to string you along. But I digress.... I'm keeping you away from the posts that tell you to keep pursuing this chick. By all means, get back to those.

 

[Glassguy]

Just tell her to hit you up when she is free to hang out. If she does, she does. If she doesnt, she doesnt.
Knock the ball back over the net and see what she does with it.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

I’m trying to use the right head here. Short backstory: my friend and I went to Twin Peaks on Friday. I’m not a regular there but I have gone a few times. The HB 7 bartender is instantly engaging me in conversation that leads to her telling me she’s single and looking. I tell her I’m in the same boat and proceed to tell her we should go out sometime. I go to the bathroom and upon returning my friend is telling me how she was telling him that she’s into me and wondering if he thought I felt the same. Before leaving she voluntarily gave me her phone number, I text her and she texts back to confirm.

Next day I sent her a text asking how her day is looking with the intention of linking up. I got no response.

Today she sends me a text with some BS about how she was super busy At work, blah blah blah. I know women have their phones on them at all times so that’s BS.

Question for the forum, should I even entertain this or just move on? I have no issue doing either one as I have 2 other plates I’m interested in.

Only pursue women that:

1) Complies (Says yes and follows through)
2) Gives you alternatives when she is "busy" (and follows through with that alternative)

Generally speaking, you don't want to pursue/chase any women, you should be attracting them and having them invest in you.


Modern Man Advice

 

[Willie Naylor]

They are cyclic. Give her a couple weeks and hit her up again. Maybe she will initiate.

These are opposing ideas.

 

[2Rocky]

Next day I sent her a text asking how her day is looking with the intention of linking up. I got no response.

Today she sends me a text with some BS about how she was super busy At work, blah blah blah. I know women have their phones on them at all times so that’s BS.

Question for the forum, should I even entertain this or just move on? I have no issue doing either one as I have 2 other plates I’m interested in.

Being around the Holidays, folks are legitimately busy. Keep your pipeline full but she is not 1st string. SHE volunteered the number, end her a "Ball in your court" text, and leave it there...

 

[Willie Naylor]

No they are not willie. It means give her time after the initial exchange. Then hit her up again later but in the meantime she MAY reach out. Plain english. Maybe a reading comprehension issue.

How long have you had thin skin? I made a comment, not even a personal attack, and you respond with a cheap shot.

 

[2Rocky]

My advice is that this chick is going to string you along. But I digress.... I'm keeping you away from the posts that tell you to keep pursuing this chick. By all means, get back to those.

While this may indeed be the case, There is nothing wrong with leaving the door open for her if she feels like a DNA injection at a convenient time. Assuming this is a resto-bar he wants to return to, there is no point in blowing her out.