jnMissouri
Master Don Juan
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About three months together, love each other. We recently took a trip together and we got in a fight over the same thing almost every day. I kept trying to leave and fly back, and each time she would jump on me and try to stop me from leaving. She'd cry, she'd block the door, she'd wrestle me down each time.
At one point I told her this isn't working, tomorrow we fly back, I don't think this is going to work long term, I'm going to bed for tonight instead of leaving tonight, etc. So an hour later in bed she said she doesn't want to break up with me but she has no choice. So I get out of bed and start leaving and she immediately jumps on my back, cries, starts trying to block me from leaving when I keep walking with her on my back (she got off and blocked me from the door). I went and tried to pack my things and she kept taking them from me (laptop) and stopping me from leaving, she said she wasn't trying to break up with me, etc.
So we work things out, have sex, fly back home, etc. I didn't text her for a day. She sends me $500 via zelle. No text, I knew because I got the Zelle notification. We had split the trip, but I told her I was getting our activities. When we got in a fight during the trip, she sent me that money for the activities as a gesture. I sent it back to her. She kept it for a couple days, but when we got back and I didn't text her for a day or so, she sent it back. I was busy so I didn't call or text her despite seeing it. So two hours after she sent it she calls, said she tried to do what I wanted her to do and she failed, I don't think this is going to work. I told her it's not a big deal. She said but she tried and couldn't do what I asked (it was out of her control anyways, I told her that, because I tried to do it too).
She was so hung up on that. She said she didn't want to break up but she couldn't do what she said she promised me she would do for me and I had told her if she couldn't then I don't see how this will work and she doesn't want me to be upset or suffer being with HER. So I told her I had time to think about it and discuss with friends and it's not a big deal, let's agree to move on. So she agrees to stay together. I said some sweet things to make that happen. An hour later during the call I got upset with her about something else she said and I said if you can't change this and that for me, then you're right, this is NOT going to work, let's break up. And she immediately would say no I can change that for you and I already did, I'm not saying I can't. Basically she would fight to keep me if I pulled away, just like whenever I would try to leave, even if she tried to break up with me in person.
Seems to me she is either about the chase (chasing me, me chasing her, etc.) or this was a test? I've dated girls before who liked the up and down and truth be told, they and I both liked it. It's a thrill. I wonder if this is what this was or a test.
At one point I told her this isn't working, tomorrow we fly back, I don't think this is going to work long term, I'm going to bed for tonight instead of leaving tonight, etc. So an hour later in bed she said she doesn't want to break up with me but she has no choice. So I get out of bed and start leaving and she immediately jumps on my back, cries, starts trying to block me from leaving when I keep walking with her on my back (she got off and blocked me from the door). I went and tried to pack my things and she kept taking them from me (laptop) and stopping me from leaving, she said she wasn't trying to break up with me, etc.
So we work things out, have sex, fly back home, etc. I didn't text her for a day. She sends me $500 via zelle. No text, I knew because I got the Zelle notification. We had split the trip, but I told her I was getting our activities. When we got in a fight during the trip, she sent me that money for the activities as a gesture. I sent it back to her. She kept it for a couple days, but when we got back and I didn't text her for a day or so, she sent it back. I was busy so I didn't call or text her despite seeing it. So two hours after she sent it she calls, said she tried to do what I wanted her to do and she failed, I don't think this is going to work. I told her it's not a big deal. She said but she tried and couldn't do what I asked (it was out of her control anyways, I told her that, because I tried to do it too).
She was so hung up on that. She said she didn't want to break up but she couldn't do what she said she promised me she would do for me and I had told her if she couldn't then I don't see how this will work and she doesn't want me to be upset or suffer being with HER. So I told her I had time to think about it and discuss with friends and it's not a big deal, let's agree to move on. So she agrees to stay together. I said some sweet things to make that happen. An hour later during the call I got upset with her about something else she said and I said if you can't change this and that for me, then you're right, this is NOT going to work, let's break up. And she immediately would say no I can change that for you and I already did, I'm not saying I can't. Basically she would fight to keep me if I pulled away, just like whenever I would try to leave, even if she tried to break up with me in person.
Seems to me she is either about the chase (chasing me, me chasing her, etc.) or this was a test? I've dated girls before who liked the up and down and truth be told, they and I both liked it. It's a thrill. I wonder if this is what this was or a test.