Hi forums!
I'm looking for advice. I cold approached this girl, and she basically went ghost on me. The conversation went well. It could be me, it could also not be me at all(her problems), but this lead went cold. I want advice on what I could have done better! See below
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I think this is going to be a new post series. I really need to work on my texting I think.
(If you're curious how I meet girls, I catalogue my daily approaches on my college approach log here on the forums)
If we are being honest this just simply didn't have an initial genuine interest on her part. I think where it might have went wrong was either the cold approach or the actual in person interaction. I would need that to gauge this texting interaction but let's give it a shot:
1) Most women will hand out their phone to be polite. At least those that have manners do as they want to avoid confrontation or awkwardness and not seem rude and say "No, I am not interested" or the good ol' "I have a boyfriend, I'm sorry" or for the more modern girl "Here, take my snapchat".
2) The conversation seemed to be around career/job. You perhaps misread the interaction, you were interested in getting to know her romantically/sexually, she wasn't. She was interested in your job for various reasons.
3) On to the actual text. You never prolong texting for more than a couple of words before either jumping on a call or setting the date via text. Texting a girl you just met back and forth can only hurt your chances (if you had any) (and unless you are highly skilled at escalating, bantering via text). Always, ALWAYS, keep it simple. Few words and then on to your ultimate goal: Getting to see and know her.
4) Double texting. Never do it. Many guys will buy into the idea that someone can forget to text back but that is simply a lie. Especially modern girls (and people in general). At some point in our evolution, if we keep doing things we are, smartphones will simply come next to our hand when we are born. EVERY girl has their phone around at all times. You don't forget. You simply didn't feel like it. Period. And even if you are that "busy", if the genuine interest is there, she WILL find time to reply back. The best scenario I can give you is, if Leonardo DiCaprio was the one texting her, rest assured that she won't "forget" to reply back.
Botton line, move on, and continue cold approaching. The more you do it, the more you'll learn and understand people's behaviors and body language.
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