Would date a woman over 40?

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Not seriously
 

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Depends on the woman. When I was 27 I was hooking up with a woman who was 42 at the time. She was AWESOME! Very cool lady and a freaking tiger in bed. You just give her a little bit of wine while we watched football, and she’d do anything you want.lol
 

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This is a good video, and he makes a lot of sense.

And no, I wouldn't date a girl over 40. Don't want a girl over 28.
 

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Yes. Love cougars. They have a different kind of beauty than 20 year old chicks so it makes a nice change in bed sometimes (also they have way more experience sucking c0ck and so forth)
 

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the vid is right on. but many perhaps most RP men don't care if the woman is taken and into an LTR (marriage or not).

so the message is if you want to date a woman over 30 make sure she is not single if you're looking for better quality.

did I get that right ??
 

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If I were 55+, yes.
This is the answer. At a certain point, it becomes difficult for men to attract women under 30, then women under 40, etc.

I'd say that if a man makes it 50 without dating a woman 40 or older, he's doing quite well. Even better if he makes it to 55.

Most men in their 30s/40s/50s are dating post prime women close to their own ages. Post prime looks different for a lot of women. Are there attractive 35 and 40 year old women? Yes. However, the attractive 35-40 year old woman you see and possibly approach was better looking when she was 25. There are many women who are 40-45 at country clubs and racquet clubs who receive a nice monthly alimony settlement and a hefty amount of child support. They've often had some plastic surgery done and look good.


Things are not as bad for women as they age in a lot of cases. When you see articles online or hear stories from your personal lives about women in their 30s/40s complaining about how threre are no good men, it's a fallacy. What women in their 30s/40s are complaining about is not being able to attract a guy in the 80th percentile or higher for a committed relationship. There are plenty of beta males who are similarly aged to them who are willing to commit to them, especially if they are childless. The numbers of 30s/40s women who are childless are growing.

The wall is actually worse for men. Let's say you're a 40 year old man most interested in women 21-27. These 21-27 year old women can date mostly anyone they want. As a 40 year old man, you're likely going to need to have a similar fitness level to the 20 something guy and you'll need to make more money/have a higher net worth than 20 something guys. If you don't meet those criteria, you'll be settling for women close to your own age. The example I just gave goes for most men in their 30s/40s and likely even 50s.
 

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what about if she has kids?
It depends on how old you are a man and how many kids you have.

A childless man between 40-55 doesn't desire to date a 40-49 year old woman with children under 18 or children over 18 who still live at home. That's too much of a nuisance. I think it's more common to see childless men 25-39 end up with a 25-39 year old woman with kids. Men over 40 who are childless do a better job at avoiding 40 something women with younger kids. The 40s is a somewhat transitional period in the mating environment where men gain a little bit more of an advantage if they're willing to date women their own ages. Still, 40s women have an advantage of over 40s men, it's just not as great as it was 18-39.

Some single dads in their 40s will date single moms in their 40s. This is mostly beta male stuff.
 

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Well, seeing as I'm 58 - Yes!
Most of the women I've been involved with since my divorce a few years ago, have been within 5 or 6 yrs either way of 40.

As SW15 says above, kids still living at home is a no-no for me if she's in her 40s.
Even a younger woman, say mid-30s, if she has a mommy-dependent kid I won't date her regularly - If she's in her 30s, I'll put up with her having a teenage kid, but not a younger one.
 

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This is the answer. At a certain point, it becomes difficult for men to attract women under 30, then women under 40, etc.

I'd say that if a man makes it 50 without dating a woman 40 or older, he's doing quite well. Even better if he makes it to 55.

Most men in their 30s/40s/50s are dating post prime women close to their own ages. Post prime looks different for a lot of women. Are there attractive 35 and 40 year old women? Yes. However, the attractive 35-40 year old woman you see and possibly approach was better looking when she was 25. There are many women who are 40-45 at country clubs and racquet clubs who receive a nice monthly alimony settlement and a hefty amount of child support. They've often had some plastic surgery done and look good.


Things are not as bad for women as they age in a lot of cases. When you see articles online or hear stories from your personal lives about women in their 30s/40s complaining about how threre are no good men, it's a fallacy. What women in their 30s/40s are complaining about is not being able to attract a guy in the 80th percentile or higher for a committed relationship. There are plenty of beta males who are similarly aged to them who are willing to commit to them, especially if they are childless. The numbers of 30s/40s women who are childless are growing.

The wall is actually worse for men. Let's say you're a 40 year old man most interested in women 21-27. These 21-27 year old women can date mostly anyone they want. As a 40 year old man, you're likely going to need to have a similar fitness level to the 20 something guy and you'll need to make more money/have a higher net worth than 20 something guys. If you don't meet those criteria, you'll be settling for women close to your own age. The example I just gave goes for most men in their 30s/40s and likely even 50s.
I've been looking on dating apps. I have to admit I'm relatively impressed at how good many 28 to 34 year old women look. For sure there's a significant drop off in average attractiveness from ages 21-27, but many still look great. It's 35+ where I found there to be precious few very attractive women.

I don't think I'll have any issues pulling a hot 32 year old when I'm 40. 50, maybe not.
 

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I've been looking on dating apps. I have to admit I'm relatively impressed at how good many 28 to 34 year old women look. For sure there's a significant drop off in average attractiveness from ages 21-27, but many still look great. It's 35+ where I found there to be precious few very attractive women.

I don't think I'll have any issues pulling a hot 32 year old when I'm 40. 50, maybe not.
I don't see tons of them around here on the sites. Most are whales or tats
 

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I don't see tons of them around here on the sites. Most are whales or tats
Where are you? I'm in Minnesota. On average, women seem more attractive here than other areas of the U.S.
 

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