Would date a woman over 40?

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If you yourself are under 40 then it seems like a no brainer that you wouldn’t. Personally, it would take a lot for me to ever “date” a woman my own age or older. Hook up with? Sure. Date? No.
 

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Where are you? I'm in Minnesota. On average, women seem more attractive here than other areas of the U.S.
Southwest fl. That explains it. Far north states have hotter women. Scandinavian ancestry too.
 

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This is the answer. At a certain point, it becomes difficult for men to attract women under 30, then women under 40, etc.

I'd say that if a man makes it 50 without dating a woman 40 or older, he's doing quite well. Even better if he makes it to 55.

Most men in their 30s/40s/50s are dating post prime women close to their own ages. Post prime looks different for a lot of women. Are there attractive 35 and 40 year old women? Yes. However, the attractive 35-40 year old woman you see and possibly approach was better looking when she was 25. There are many women who are 40-45 at country clubs and racquet clubs who receive a nice monthly alimony settlement and a hefty amount of child support. They've often had some plastic surgery done and look good.


Things are not as bad for women as they age in a lot of cases. When you see articles online or hear stories from your personal lives about women in their 30s/40s complaining about how threre are no good men, it's a fallacy. What women in their 30s/40s are complaining about is not being able to attract a guy in the 80th percentile or higher for a committed relationship. There are plenty of beta males who are similarly aged to them who are willing to commit to them, especially if they are childless. The numbers of 30s/40s women who are childless are growing.

The wall is actually worse for men. Let's say you're a 40 year old man most interested in women 21-27. These 21-27 year old women can date mostly anyone they want. As a 40 year old man, you're likely going to need to have a similar fitness level to the 20 something guy and you'll need to make more money/have a higher net worth than 20 something guys. If you don't meet those criteria, you'll be settling for women close to your own age. The example I just gave goes for most men in their 30s/40s and likely even 50s.
Exactly, at the end of the day most people end up in relationships with others that are around their age and overall attractiveness/appearance. One of the issues I've personally had with being very fit and in shape as I get into my early 30s is that it's difficult to find single women that are physically like me and within my dating age range. Most adults in the U.S are overweight or obese, especially once you much past 25. Just by being in shape, not even super fit but reasonably so, puts you at the top 10% just from that alone. Naturally if you are looking for something comparable it will be difficult to find and when you factor in whether they are single or not it can prove to be a challenging endeavor.
 

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Exactly, at the end of the day most people end up in relationships with others that are around their age and overall attractiveness/appearance. One of the issues I've personally had with being very fit and in shape as I get into my early 30s is that it's difficult to find single women that are physically like me and within my dating age range. Most adults in the U.S are overweight or obese, especially once you much past 25. Just by being in shape, not even super fit but reasonably so, puts you at the top 10% just from that alone. Naturally if you are looking for something comparable it will be difficult to find and when you factor in whether they are single or not it can prove to be a challenging endeavor.
I'm 38. Most of the women around my age range not married have a bunch of tats overweight, etc. I'd say maybe 15 percent are considered attractive to Mr at the most.

Hard to date when only 10 or 15 percent are cute. Not enough to go around with all the fatties now.
 

It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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I don't see a big issue. In fact there is a small minority of women around 40 and over that are in tremendous shape because they play tennis and do cardio, swimming and look better than most under 30.

I think I posted a couple of them from old I went on dates with. One was 46 but knockout body and face. Other was 40 and a fitness freak and track coach.
 
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