It really wasn't meant to be a swing at you. I do think it's clear that you're somewhat sensitive about it, however. If your relationship is happy, you shouldn't be. And I thought the age gap was larger than 8 years. Still, 8 years isn't exactly insignificant either.
A 52 year old woman in a committed relationship with a man 8 years her junior is atypical. That's not meant as an insult, a potshot, a slight, none of it. It's simply not typical. It doesn't conform with biological and social conditioning that we all, since the dawn of humanity, are subject to. Do I care? No. Neither should you or anyone. I'm simply noting that your relationship isn't the typical relationship. You don't need to prove that you're an atypically attractive 52 year old woman either. I'll take your word for it.
Within the context of this thread, however, I believe that this atypicality is relevant because you are, on paper, the "dominant" in your relationship. You're older and more financially established. Yet, you remain attracted to your man and he to you, because the inner dynamic is still male/female, with you as the female.
In most cases, as in this case, women do not like being the "dominant." On paper, or otherwise. Your situation is unique. The sh!tbird girl we're discussing, however, is more typical.
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