Tips for when you like a girl at the gym

[oc16]

1.) Don't approach her when she is in the middle of a workout (obvious)

2.) Don't offer advice

3.) Start off small with eye contact and a smile and then progress to a hello and then a convo. You will see this woman at least once a week, no need to rush into an awkward conversation (let her warm up to you)

4.) Do not follow her around the gym "fishing" for eye contact or looking at her through the mirror.

5.) Pay attention to subtle moves by her. She will not approach you, but she will put herself in your proximity if there is mutual interest.

6.) Last but not least; DO NOT get oneitis over this girl. Other attractive women could be giving you IOI's and you might miss these if you are hung up one this one woman.

 

[powersize]

1.) Don't approach her when she is in the middle of a workout (obvious)

2.) Don't offer advice

3.) Start off small with eye contact and a smile and then progress to a hello and then a convo. You will see this woman at least once a week, no need to rush into an awkward conversation (let her warm up to you)

4.) Do not follow her around the gym "fishing" for eye contact or looking at her through the mirror.

5.) Pay attention to subtle moves by her. She will not approach you, but she will put herself in your proximity if there is mutual interest.

6.) Last but not least; DO NOT get oneitis over this girl. Other attractive women could be giving you IOI's and you might miss these if you are hung up one this one woman.

For 3 point you can come to her and start speaking straight away - if she likes you you will find it out. Why should you play this female games, you job to come and show your interest. If she is not interested - fine, who cares, not the end of the world. No need to change the gym cause of her.

Assume if she is hot - all guys at the gym will be looking on her, so what is the point to be like other dudes and just watch and wait for eye contact.

In fact I lost a lot of opportunities with potential girls cause I was too afraid to come and talk or was waiting for the perfect moment.

 

[rjc149]

I think unless her IOI’s are obvious, leave her alone and focus on your workout.

 

[oc16]

For 3 point you can come to her and start speaking straight away - if she likes you you will find it out. Why should you play this female games, you job to come and show your interest. If she is not interested - fine, who cares, not the end of the world. No need to change the gym cause of her.

Assume if she is hot - all guys at the gym will be looking on her, so what is the point to be like other dudes and just watch and wait for eye contact.

In fact I lost a lot of opportunities with potential girls cause I was too afraid to come and talk or was waiting for the perfect moment.

I made eye contact with the one I like a few weeks ago, gave her a smile and she smiled back.

Today as I was going towards the cardio machines , she was coming off and headed for the paper towels. She avoided eye contact and had head phones in. Lack of eye contact could be lack of interest or she was self conscious that she was all sweaty.

 

[powersize]

I made eye contact with the one I like a few weeks ago, gave her a smile and she smiled back.

Today as I was going towards the cardio machines , she was coming off and headed for the paper towels. She avoided eye contact and had head phones in. Lack of eye contact could be lack of interest or she was self conscious that she was all sweaty.

But you see - you are guessing again. My point was to avoid it. You assume she is interested and approach.

She might be an attention ***** who just gives signals and than cuts it all.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Treat her the same as any other woman, they are attracted to men who's feelings are unclear

 

[SargeMaximus]

You forgot the most important tip: don’t sh!t where you eat.

 

[oc16]

Treat her the same as any other woman, they are attracted to men who's feelings are unclear

That's a Corey Wayne quote.

That puts us in between a rock and a hard place.

Woman thinks you are attractive but the fact that she knows you think she's attractive she will lose interest?

Man finds woman attractive, but doesn't show it since he wants to remain mysterious and wants his feelings to remain unclear. Woman thinks he's not interested in her and becomes disinterested over time.

See what I mean. It's almost a lose lose situation.

 

[SW15]

I think unless her IOI’s are obvious, leave her alone and focus on your workout.

On the regular gym floor, yes. Some gyms have classes, which is usually the better option for approaching. A man could also join a facility that is primarily class based.

You forgot the most important tip: don’t sh!t where you eat.

If you're going to do gym approaching and gym pickup, be prepared to switch gyms. If you like your current gym and would find it difficult to replace, you might want to focus on other venues. If you're a member of some big box gym like 24 Hour Fitness or LA Fitness, you can hit on women there. If an interaction or relationship goes bad, you go to a different location for a bit.

 

[oc16]

On the regular gym floor, yes. Some gyms have classes, which is usually the better option for approaching. A man could also join a facility that is primarily class based.



If you're going to do gym approaching and gym pickup, be prepared to switch gyms. If you like your current gym and would find it difficult to replace, you might want to focus on other venues. If you're a member of some big box gym like 24 Hour Fitness or LA Fitness, you can hit on women there. If an interaction or relationship goes bad, you go to a different location for a bit.

I go to LA Fitness.

Yes, classes are a great way to meet women. I've gotten a couple dates that way in the past.

I will take classes again in the New Year.

 

[SW15]

I go to LA Fitness.

Yes, classes are a great way to meet women. I've gotten a couple dates that way in the past.

Classes are a way better option for getting dates than the general gym floor. With classes, you eliminate the earbud/headphone problem, which makes women far less approachable. Any class will have a better ratio than the general gym floor. Classes of any style are majority women.

With that said, classes are far from a perfect solution. You're giving up 45-60 minutes for the 5 min window before and after the class to do approaches. In any given class, you might get in 2 approaches. 1 good approach (a 5 minute conversation ending in an ask out and/or phone number exchange) is a good outcome from class attendance. It's not a quantity play. Additionally, there will be many times when you'll attend a fitness class and won't do any approaches of substance because the women won't be receptive at all or no pretty women attend the class that day.

 

[SargeMaximus]

If you're going to do gym approaching and gym pickup, be prepared to switch gyms. If you like your current gym and would find it difficult to replace, you might want to focus on other venues. If you're a member of some big box gym like 24 Hour Fitness or LA Fitness, you can hit on women there. If an interaction or relationship goes bad, you go to a different location for a bit.

Not worth it IMO. Especially when there are hot women literally everywhere.

 

[oc16]

Not worth it IMO. Especially when there are hot women literally everywhere.

Yeah there are but why is it such a struggle.

Let's me honest, most hot women are taken.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Think IOI's go out of the window in the gym

it's such an informal setting and can be intimidating for the female so they will be overly friendly anyway

2 new HB's started at mine last week , within 15 mins every bloke in there was in their vicinity creeping pretending to do legs

You cant be creepy in gym environment remember there's a good chance your going to see this girl a lot , last thing you want is for it to be awkward

Earlier in the year after ending my LTR I made the critical mistake of messaging a HB from the gym on insta without actually speaking to her in person, she did reply but her replies were slow and i couldn't gauge her interest so i just ghosted her

about a week later i saw her in the gym didn't know wtf to say

Now its awkward asf every time i see her and there is little chance of ever rescuing it

 

[powersize]

Think IOI's go out of the window in the gym

it's such an informal setting and can be intimidating for the female so they will be overly friendly anyway

2 new HB's started at mine last week , within 15 mins every bloke in there was in their vicinity creeping pretending to do legs

You cant be creepy in gym environment remember there's a good chance your going to see this girl a lot , last thing you want is for it to be awkward

Earlier in the year after ending my LTR I made the critical mistake of messaging a HB from the gym on insta without actually speaking to her in person, she did reply but her replies were slow and i couldn't gauge her interest so i just ghosted her

about a week later i saw her in the gym didn't know wtf to say

Now its awkward asf every time i see her and there is little chance of ever rescuing it

I approached a girl who is a personal trainer at my gym. Got her IG. A couple of days later - I asked her out and she agreed. At the day of the date she flaked. No reply from my side. After a week or two - she unfollowed me from her IG. Did the same. Yesterday saw her at the gym - simple “Hi” from my side. No hard feelings no awkward moments.
Apparently she is single mom around 30-33 I guess, and we all know what to expect from them

And before that I approached a girl who works like a gym assistant. Got her IG, asked out in a couple of days. She had bf. I replied no worries. Still chat with her once we see each others.

 

[Bingo-Player]

I approached a girl who is a personal trainer at my gym. Got her IG. A couple of days later - I asked her out and she agreed. At the day of the date she flaked. No reply from my side. After a week or two - she unfollowed me from her IG. Did the same. Yesterday saw her at the gym - simple “Hi” from my side. No hard feelings no awkward moments.
Apparently she is single mom around 30-33 I guess, and we all know what to expect from them.

OK but you've pretty much ended up in exactly the same situation as me apart from yours has completely wasted your time and you've later acknowledged to her you are fine with it

 

[powersize]

OK but you've pretty much ended up in exactly the same situation as me apart from yours has completely wasted your time and you've later acknowledged to her you are fine with it

Why wasted? I tried my shot, it did not work out. If you try to play long game like OP mentioned - this is wasting your time.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

Bumping this thread instead of making yet another topic about this.

Today I went to the gym shortly after getting laid and hyped up on a quality preworkout. Was doing some squats, and some chick was giving very strong IOIs (the kind you can just tell in your gut) and she walked over and started using the squat machine by me, then the leg press behind me. Clearly she wanted me to talk to her. Then when I saw her walking away she actually looked sad and disappointed.

Anyone else relate to this? I am beating myself up over it. I have absolutely no idea how to handle gym approaches.

I normally don't bother...I prefer traditional club/bar approaches, or even street approaches. But the idea of gym approaches never sat right with me. I've only ever done it 1 real cold approach at the gym and it went very poorly, so it kind of put me off.

 

[Chuck Taylor]

Bumping this thread instead of making yet another topic about this.

Today I went to the gym shortly after getting laid and hyped up on a quality preworkout. Was doing some squats, and some chick was giving very strong IOIs (the kind you can just tell in your gut) and she walked over and started using the squat machine by me, then the leg press behind me. Clearly she wanted me to talk to her. Then when I saw her walking away she actually looked sad and disappointed.

Anyone else relate to this? I am beating myself up over it. I have absolutely no idea how to handle gym approaches.

I normally don't bother...I prefer traditional club/bar approaches, or even street approaches. But the idea of gym approaches never sat right with me. I've only ever done it 1 real cold approach at the gym and it went very poorly, so it kind of put me off.

A chick doing squats and leg press? Pass. I like my ladies ultra-feminine.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

A chick doing squats and leg press? Pass. I like my ladies ultra-feminine.

She was only squatting like 60lbs and leg pressing 90 lbs lmao. She was tall and thin. Great body, not thotty or wearing much makeup either. Definitely my type.