Every Man Here Needs to Cold Approach Women

[Zimbabwe]

A man sees a women on the street he likes, and goes and talks to her and has a human to human conversation, something humans have been doing for millions of years.

I've done many cold approaches in public.
Women fantasize about an alpha confident guy who comes in and sweeps them off their feet/takes them. In no women's fantasy is a guy ever saying stuff like "hey let me ask you for a female opinion, who do you think is more gay, me or Ricky Martin".

You are a man and you deserve to have a good woman in your life. Give yourself permission to find a woman attractive and be comfortable with your sexual desires. Creepy behavior comes from those who can't acknowledge social queues. If you ignore her body language or words that's when you become creepy. Brightening someone's day isn't creepy behavior. Being overtly sexual before getting to know her is creepy behavior

 

[roaming shark]

Agree. The key is to embrace the moment and accept the nervousness that comes from approaching. Always remember that even the best PUAs only close 10% at best. It’s a numbers game, and always will be

 

[SW15]

A man sees a women on the street he likes, and goes and talks to her and has a human to human conversation, something humans have been doing for millions of years.

I've done many cold approaches in public.

I have also done many cold approaches lifetime.

Nobody does.

If you DO cold approach, you're welcome to write your reports in the thread. Most "cold approach guys" here didn't participate, I guess it's because they don't really cold approach. Lot of puss1es dressed as DJs here, sorry to say that.

I stopped writing reports because I realized it was useless, I wanted to create a positive thread (have you read something positive here lately?) where guys would go out there and get better at approaching women, get out of their comfort zone and become men.

It's easier to complain behind a computer than to go on the streets and approach attractive women. I do go on the streets and approach women.

@mikedee started a good thread with the cold approach challenge. It is a thread that deserves more activity. I have not cold approached as much in the pandemic era but I have gotten action during the pandemic. If getting action, there isn't a need to cold approach. Cold approach was not easy prior to the pandemic and it has gotten more difficult now. Cold approach is still a better option overall than app swiping, but both are difficult paths.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

Nah

 

[corrector]

I have also done many cold approaches lifetime.



@mikedee started a good thread with the cold approach challenge. It is a thread that deserves more activity. I have not cold approached as much in the pandemic era but I have gotten action during the pandemic. If getting action, there isn't a need to cold approach. Cold approach was not easy prior to the pandemic and it has gotten more difficult now. Cold approach is still a better option overall than app swiping, but both are difficult paths.

Your "action" is your claim of a rotation of 2 women (who are fwbs) you met before the pandemic. If you are willing to settle with 2 fwbs rather than cold approach and even have that in the background as a confidence boost, then it means you dont like cold approaching.

 

[SW15]

Your "action" is your claim of a rotation of 2 women (who are fwbs) you met before the pandemic. If you are willing to settle with 2 fwbs rather than cold approach and even have that in the background as a confidence boost, then it means you dont like cold approaching.

Vagina is vagina. It does take skill to maintain those. Incels wish that they could have what I have.

I don't see how anyone could like cold approaching. It's a drag. In the past 22 years, I've done more cold approaches than the majority of men. There's a lot of lingering around waiting for IOIs, a lot of short, 30 second convos that go nowhere, a lot of rejections. It's not that great of an option, but it is better than app swiping.

Social circle is much better. I am about to start a thread related to some aspect of social circle.

 

[SargeMaximus]

I’ve done hundreds “back in the day” waste of my time.

 

[corrector]

Vagina is vagina. It does take skill to maintain those. Incels wish that they could have what I have.

They are fbws and sleeping with other guys. If you have a stale rotation then its like having two familiar prostitutes and seeing them over 2 years. Fbws are just like a free prostitute you are seeing over time. if you had two relationships and they were both okay with it then its a different story. Fbws are not loyal to you so the biggest attraction for rotations is bigger and fresh rotations, not having one or two stale fbws and settling in that. Claiming to be a step up to the worst is not much of a claim. That does not inspire any excellence.

I don't see how anyone could like cold approaching. It's a drag. In the past 22 years, I've done more cold approaches than the majority of men. There's a lot of lingering around waiting for IOIs, a lot of short, 30 second convos that go nowhere, a lot of rejections. It's not that great of an option, but it is better than app swiping.

Social circle is much better. I am about to start a thread related to some aspect of social circle.

Exactly my point. Even if you got there by cold approach in the past, its just not fun.

 

[SW15]

There's another important thing about Cold Approach. It's very hard.

Most Cold Approaches do not lead to sex. This needs to be very clear for guys. The best thing about Cold Approach is that it is extremely good for your masculine core.

I would say that an average Cold Approacher probably bangs 1 out of 100 cold approaches or even way less. That's the amount of failure we are talking here. You can't even put an exact number on it - there are no guarantees. If you're a spam-approaching autist then you could probably do a million approaches and not even get a number.

I come across daygamers in my city, from time to time, who are very committed and pretty much only get laid 2 or 3 times a year purely from daygame alone - these are your average, run-of-the-mill white guys. And they are going out every weekend and doing approaches.

I think most guys aren't prepared for that, and don't have the constitution to weather that much rejection. You have to be a pretty cold dude to be able to do daygame regularly and consistently.

I agree with all of this. I have said many times that cold approaching is a difficult path.

My approach to bang ratio was probably 1 in 100 to 1 in 200. That's from doing a combination of non-bar and bar cold approaching. Because of all of this effort, I attempted to have medium term relationships from it. I didn't want to be one of those guys who gets laid 2-3 times a year from daygame and spent good portions of my weekends doing daygame approaches.

I also do not have the emotional constitution to weather that much rejection. I have done it and it is bad. I've even discussed it in therapy.

When a man is successful in this, it feels extremely satisfying in a way that can't be replicated from app swiping.

I have also actively managed my testosterone levels since the mid-2010s for the purposes of sex and cold approaching. No porn, no mbate, eating clean, and regular exercise. Even with doing those things to make myself hornier and more motivated to cold approach, I have found it difficult and not enjoyable to cold approach.

 

[Robert28]

I mean, hell, if I wanted to go through all that rejection and waste of time I could get the same results from online dating.lol
I was eating lunch with my employees the other day and the waitress kept touching my arm. I counted SEVEN times she touched my arm. Isn’t touch a sign of interest? Apparently not. She had a boyfriend when I asked for her number.lol

 

[SargeMaximus]

I mean, hell, if I wanted to go through all that rejection and waste of time I could get the same results from online dating.lol
I was eating lunch with my employees the other day and the waitress kept touching my arm. I counted SEVEN times she touched my arm. Isn’t touch a sign of interest? Apparently not. She had a boyfriend when I asked for her number.lol

Dude waitresses want tips. The monetary kind. That’s the only reason they seem interested.

If you want to get real with where you are at In Terms of attractive or not, don’t hit on hired guns. They are literally paid to like you

 

[Robert28]

Dude waitresses want tips. The monetary kind. That’s the only reason they seem interested.

If you want to get real with where you are at In Terms of attractive or not, don’t hit on hired guns. They are literally paid to like you

I get that. But what’s up with the need to constantly touch me? What if I kept touching a woman over and over I didn’t know? We left her the standard 18%, she didn’t need to go above and beyond, just bring me my food on time and keep my drink filled. No need to touch me and call me “hun” and “babe” and sh!t like that.

 

[SargeMaximus]

I get that. But what’s up with the need to constantly touch me? What if I kept touching a woman over and over I didn’t know? We left her the standard 18%, she didn’t need to go above and beyond, just bring me my food on time and keep my drink filled. No need to touch me and call me “hun” and “babe” and sh!t like that.

She wanted a tip and probably thought you could be “gamed” for a bigger tip by doing all that

 

[DonJuanjr]

She wanted a tip and probably thought you could be “gamed” for a bigger tip by doing all that

Which would result in no tip from me.

 

[SargeMaximus]

Which would result in no tip from me.

I’d just pay the same unless she was trying to overcome sh!tty service with that act, then definitely not tip. I tip for service quality nothing else

 

[DonJuanjr]

I’d just pay the same unless she was trying to overcome sh!tty service with that act, then definitely not tip. I tip for service quality nothing else

I would consider trying to game me into a bigger tip as insulting, thus bad service.

 

[SargeMaximus]

I would consider trying to game me into a bigger tip as insulting, thus bad service.

Every waiter and waitress tries for a bigger tip.

 

[DonJuanjr]

Every waiter and waitress tries for a bigger tip.

Yeah. I'm referring to the desperate level robert experienced.

 

[SW15]

She had a boyfriend when I asked for her number.lol

Did you use a boyfriend destroyer line when you heard that?

 

[Zimbabwe]

Nobody does.
I created a cold approach challenge this summer, I was the only one approaching (sorry me + 2-3 DJs max). I don't write reports anymore but I still approach almost everyday. 2 approaches yesterday, a first approach (a 9.5) on the street which turned out really bad wow, the other one at the gym a bit later (looked like a 9 from far, but she had a bad skin, so a 7 with a hot body). If you DO cold approach, you're welcome to write your reports in the thread. Most "cold approach guys" here didn't participate, I guess it's because they don't really cold approach. Lot of puss1es dressed as DJs here, sorry to say that. Not pointing finger at you Zimbabwe, not at all.

Cold approach challenge

One cold approach (or more) a day. No excuse unless you stay at home. Summer has set in, girls are all over the place. Cold approach + report here. What do you guys think?

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I stopped writing reports because I realized it was useless, I wanted to create a positive thread (have you read something positive here lately?) where guys would go out there and get better at approaching women, get out of their comfort zone and become men. Nobody participated, very few replied but look at the number of views the thread has... What people like to do here is to complain, complain about women, about not being a chad, about this or that, women are evil, they are slots bla bla... nobody is willing to do what it takes to at least increase their chances, to do what it takes to become better. It's easier to complain behind a computer than to go on the streets and approach attractive women. I do go on the streets and approach women.

I agree with you 100%

I notice this all around the manosphere, way too much negative attitude which i admit I've been guilty of too.

You're right about cold approach, even on PUA groups everyone goes silent when someone requests a wing. It makes you wonder if most of these guys even approach at all? They would rather spend all day talking about useless political topics or wanking over Jordan Peterson instead of going out to actually talk to real women.

I’ve done hundreds “back in the day” waste of my time.

What's the alternative? OLD certaintly is not any better and most guys here don't have a social circle that would give them access to high quality women.

There's another important thing about Cold Approach. It's very hard.

Most Cold Approaches do not lead to sex. This needs to be very clear for guys. The best thing about Cold Approach is that it is extremely good for your masculine core.

I would say that an average Cold Approacher probably bangs 1 out of 100 cold approaches or even way less. That's the amount of failure we are talking here. You can't even put an exact number on it - there are no guarantees. If you're a spam-approaching autist then you could probably do a million approaches and not even get a number.

I come across daygamers in my city, from time to time, who are very committed and pretty much only get laid 2 or 3 times a year purely from daygame alone - these are your average, run-of-the-mill white guys. And they are going out every weekend and doing approaches.

I think most guys aren't prepared for that, and don't have the constitution to weather that much rejection. You have to be a pretty cold dude to be able to do daygame regularly and consistently.

The problem is the shady PUAs that sell them a dream, they think every approach is supposed to lead to a bang if they have enough "game". They end up burnt out since they don't get the results they expected.

Cold approach should be natural, if you're out buying groceries and you see a milf with a nice rack and a fat a$$ there is no reason why you shouldn't be approaching her.

Another problem is a lot of guys don't calibrate their approachs, the last wing i went out with was way too excited and happy when he talked to everyone. I told him to tone it down with women and he just wouldn't listen.