She has studied in the UK for a year or two in her mid 20s (she is 32 now) where she had a Germany boyfriend from her course. But I think most of her boyfriends have been Turkish including a 3 year marriage which ended in divorce a year ago and I don't think she is fully-Westernized. We were discussing the differences in the cultures in terms of dating etc and she was saying I need training if I want a Turkish girlfriend. I thought she was joking but then went to list three or four men that had married Turkish women she knew in London she thought could be suitable. But from what I try to understand she expects pampering and is high maintenance.
We've been texting recently because she's on holiday in Turkey. The fourth date which broke the pattern and didn't go so well was squeezed in just before her trip and was something she suggested as she said she wanted to see me before she left. She seemed a bit irritable from the very start of the date so maybe I just caught her when she was stressed about her travel and feeling rushed. The previous date she was hanging off my arm and hugging me and smothering me with kisses.
We are texting because she is on holiday so obviously cannot meet. I never really know what to do in that situation-when they go on holiday so early on in the dating process. She was texting me from the airport with photos of her luggage and photos of some baby that was crawling over her feet at the airport. And since then it has felt like an instagram feed as she sends me photos most days from her trip e.g. her stuck in traffic, her shopping for jewellery, her after her beauty treatments. It is all very strange and confusing. I've let her initiate most of the texts and on days I don't text her she's always dropped me a text mid afternoon with some kind of conversation starter (often a photo).
But yeah I think a lot of it is attention seeking and ideally want to find a way to wean her off the constant texting.
Obviously not going to pick her up from the airport if she asks. But when she is back will probably leave it a week or so before asking her out again and seeing if she suggests something beforehand and then escalate.
She says you need training? How about she gets training, since she's the one that has moved to the UK and is dating a local? It seems quite an arrogant attitude to think that everyone else has to adapt to her ways wherever she goes. Normally when people travel they adjust to their environment rather than expect everyone else to adapt to accommodate them.
I understand that she's on holiday now but she was giving you the "busy" line when she was in London and she was also blocking escalation, so that's not good. Any time that things are not moving forward, that means she's blocking. Also, notice how she brought up the topic of marriage. That's not a coincidence by any means.
I think you may be overestimating how westernized she is. A lot of Turkish women appear westernised because they wear revealing cloths, smoke cigarettes and drink alcohol, but even those ones stay virgins until marriage and have to marry someone that their mother, father and neighbours approve of. Very few of them go against what their family expects of them and their family watches over them constantly because what they do is considered a matter of "honour" for the family. Those that live abroad might have a bit more freedom, but their family is still watching from afar and word gets back to them.
For your own sanity, I'd advise not to respond much and not to get into a lot of conversations with her whilst she is away. If she asks, tell her that you're busy and that you'll see her when she gets back.
