Daughters Mum - Advice Needed

[Georgepithyou]

Interesting to see a couple of you guys mention that the spark dies down, and i think its a very realistic thing to acknowledge, the honeymoon phase doesn't last forever, but its up to those who want to fight for each other that truly stand the test of time.

Thanks for your insight fruitbat. I take on board.

Mike

Most women have this unrealistic expectation that the "spark" is supposed to last forever.

In reality a LTR is like a roller-coaster, they’re ups and downs.

 

[Focal core]

. She mentioned she doesn't want to see me with anyone else and that she is going to miss talking to me every day as she has been

Do this Get her to see you with someone elses. and watch the fireworks show.

 

[derby1]

What do you feel is the best method to move forward for me?

This is what you do, Ive pimped this scenario a few times...

First of all you go ultra low contact with her and do not get drawn into any emotional chat. Every reply to her must be polite but you word it as if you are a mediator/solicitor arranging the drop off of the child. make sense? you keep wording your replies this way and you do not reply to messages about the relationship, leave them on read. if she doesnt reply to your messages stay cool and stay the solicitor

HOWEVER heres the problem, she will throw many sh*t tests at you over the next 3 months when she sees this new pimp. maybe she will supply you with some good *****, and butter you up. you must decline.

this a test to see if she can still get you, and she will flip the script on you the morning after giving you the pu*sy.

Every night youve followed my advice without succumbing to her jezebel spirit, I want you to stand in the mirror and admire the size of your huge titanium balls

 

[MT93]

Not even 2 days

Few missed Facetime calls last night - a couple of messages

"Had some really positive news yesterday in regard to my housing application, I know you didn't want me to call but I really wanted to share it with you, you were the first person I wanted to call, it does after all involve where our daughter will be living"

"Woke up to pictures of my daughter with a toy I bought her and idol talks about how she has styled her hair etc"

Also finished off by asking if I wanted to go to an adventure park for kids with them both at the end of the month.

I'm not sure what her intentions are here, its almost as if there is some level of interest there? Smell danger.

 

[derby1]

I'm not sure what her intentions are here, its almost as if there is some level of interest there? Smell danger.

what do you want from this? relationships very rarely work the 2nd time around.

women are very selfish, they usually dont want to put the family back together like a man does, that was a blue pill trap i fell for,

women are MERCENARIES usually everything has to do with there drug supply of attention, youve withdrawn it and it sends her mind in a spin. Has he replaced me with a new star striker? theyre mind lives in mystery! This is why guys who lay down good D then mess the woman around are all they talk about, if you lay down good D and are dependable. your validation is worth nothing

Let me ask you..........Has she/or did she, have a loyal family unit with a good dad, she adores?. or is your ex the bi product of a fatherless home.?

 

[MT93]

what do you want from this? relationships very rarely work the 2nd time around.

women are very selfish, they usually dont want to put the family back together like a man does, that was a blue pill trap i fell for,

women are MERCENARIES usually everything has to do with there drug supply of attention, youve withdrawn it and it sends her mind in a spin. Has he replaced me with a new star striker? theyre mind lives in mystery! This is why guys who lay down good D then mess the woman around are all they talk about, if you lay down good D and are dependable. your validation is worth nothing

Let me ask you..........Has she/or did she, have a loyal family unit with a good dad, she adores?. or is your ex the bi product of a fatherless home.?

Mum and Dad still together - very self absorbed though - spent a lot of time working away and my ex was left to grow up with grandma and grandad majority of the time, mum and dad middle class - very big drinkers (would say alcoholics) have a very strong relationship but that is all they see - even if it means neglecting everyone and everything else around them, they are a team and rarely back down or side with others if the another is against it.

Ex partner recently had physical altercation with her father which has resulted in her searching for supported housing as mentioned above - mum/dad now want nothing to do with her and visaversa

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Never let this woman into your romantic life again, she is leveraging your daughter against you in every way she can, she will blame you for all her problems, you need to go NC and stay NC.

 

[derby1]

Mum and Dad still together - very self absorbed though - spent a lot of time working away and my ex was left to grow up with grandma and grandad majority of the time, mum and dad middle class - very big drinkers (would say alcoholics) have a very strong relationship but that is all they see - even if it means neglecting everyone and everything else around them, they are a team and rarely back down or side with others if the another is against it.

Ex partner recently had physical altercation with her father which has resulted in her searching for supported housing as mentioned above - mum/dad now want nothing to do with her and visaversa

resort back to my huge titanium balls reply. if you let this woman give you any ***** or you tell her any emotions you have lost.

bout time men claimed back there pride over these mediocre poorly behaved b*tches

 

[Alvafe]

what do you want from this? relationships very rarely work the 2nd time around.

women are very selfish, they usually dont want to put the family back together like a man does, that was a blue pill trap i fell for,

women are MERCENARIES usually everything has to do with there drug supply of attention, youve withdrawn it and it sends her mind in a spin. Has he replaced me with a new star striker? theyre mind lives in mystery! This is why guys who lay down good D then mess the woman around are all they talk about, if you lay down good D and are dependable. your validation is worth nothing

Let me ask you..........Has she/or did she, have a loyal family unit with a good dad, she adores?. or is your ex the bi product of a fatherless home.?

meh even mercenaries have more honor then woman, at least they will keep working as long you pay then, woman even paying they will leave for a chance of something better, that is hardly a good bussiness move

 

[dude99]

What's up all.

Been a long time since I've posted on here, life has been good, wouldn't be back unless absolutely necessary but I'm in a bit of a drum....

Long story short, me and my daughters mum split almost 12 months ago, the first 6 months after this was a traumatic time, I lost my home - she kept my daughter from me - I embarked on a custody battle and eventually after much back and forth won joint visitation of my daughter.

Fast forward to June this year, I had my new place set up, things were good with regular contact with my daughter and work was going well (both me and my ex work for the same company)

My ex started to come around again, frequently contacting me via facetime, coming over with our daughter, generally being more engaged - we ended up sleeping together just the once - and kiss - go out as a family here on since.

I tried to escalate - asked on dates, tried to take things further and rebuild the family unit, she would always be quite stand off'ish and say that she wants to take things slow its going to take time etc etc especially after the situation we have gone through. Still she would seem hot - regular contact but just wouldn't take it that extra step - I figured not much longer I can persevere with this before I am wasting my time.

Yesterday she came over, we had a kiss - lunch etc etc. Back of my mind though I know something isn't right, our daughter was playing in the living room and she just came out like I think we need to talk....

Basically said that whilst she has tried to regain the feelings she once had for me, she's struggling with something, she cannot gain the love that she once had - she wants too, but that she just cant put her finger on it but there is something 'missing' she doesn't feel the same way she did before - she feels like she is letting our daughter down.

I agreed - I said its not worth pursuing if she doesn't feel the way she should - I advised that I sensed this was how she was feeling and fair play for her honesty - that I was disappointed but she shouldn't feel like she has let our daughter down as happiness is key - for both of us.

I said there was no real need to continue contact as much as we have been and that everything should be kept strictly around collection times/welfare of daughter.

She mentioned she doesn't want to see me with anyone else and that she is going to miss talking to me every day as she has been. I advised I will need to be selfish and there is no real purpose in doing that.

Gotta say fellas I have taken this one quite hard - not quite as bad as the first but her returning into my life and then bailing again has hurt.

Im not interested in getting her back but moreso how to improve my mindset and work through this to come out positive on the other end

thanks for your time in advance.

MT

So this woman screws you over, takes your house away, denies you your daughter, you have to fight in court to get visitation which should have naturally and freely given, waste thousands of dollars legal fees not to mention having to re-establish your life and the mental anguish........


And you wanted to give her a second chance??? Did she not stab you in the back hard enough???

And to boot she doesn't want you back but doesn't want you to date other women??


Can you not see what a low quality selfish self centered deplorable excuse for a woman she is?

Dude there has to be other women out there. Keep your head up you were fixing your life stay on that track. Taking her back will only set you back. Not move you forward. In actuality she doesn't deserve another chance with you.

 

[dude99]

Not even 2 days

Few missed Facetime calls last night - a couple of messages

"Had some really positive news yesterday in regard to my housing application, I know you didn't want me to call but I really wanted to share it with you, you were the first person I wanted to call, it does after all involve where our daughter will be living"

"Woke up to pictures of my daughter with a toy I bought her and idol talks about how she has styled her hair etc"

Also finished off by asking if I wanted to go to an adventure park for kids with them both at the end of the month.

I'm not sure what her intentions are here, its almost as if there is some level of interest there? Smell danger.

"Thanks for the pictures of my daughter. Keep those coming. Sorry i have date. Can't go to the adventure park.

Bye for now."

That should be all you reply.

Never answer her calls. Ignore her positive news. She is only thinking of herself. Only reply to stuff to do with your daughter and ignore or refuse every outing/date she asks you out on.

What she is doing is very selfish and very cruel. She is feeding you false hope and keeping you from other women.

She has already stated she " something is missing," and doesn't want you back. Don't let her feed you false hope and stall your progress.

She had her chance. 2 of them in fact. She blew them both. Don't hang around giving her the ego boost thinking she has a 3rd

 

[MT93]

So this woman screws you over, takes your house away, denies you your daughter, you have to fight in court to get visitation which should have naturally and freely given, waste thousands of dollars legal fees not to mention having to re-establish your life and the mental anguish........


And you wanted to give her a second chance??? Did she not stab you in the back hard enough???

And to boot she doesn't want you back but doesn't want you to date other women??


Can you not see what a low quality selfish self centered deplorable excuse for a woman she is?

Dude there has to be other women out there. Keep your head up you were fixing your life stay on that track. Taking her back will only set you back. Not move you forward. In actuality she doesn't deserve another chance with you.

This is a very valid response, and deep down - I know this is the mentality I should be taking, she has pulled me from pillar to post and realistically doesn't deserve an ounce of my time.

One thing I will learn from this and i hope somebody will take away from this thread is that "ALWAYS ALWAYS make sure on a female before agreeing to children"

What hurts is I know I WILL have to witness my daughter being co-parented by another man - and BELIEVE me - that is never how I envisaged life panning out for me.

That's what hurts the most - and that's my ego talking. I know that.

I take responsibility for some things - but believe me fellas, this was all taken from me in the blink of an eye.

She came to pick daughter up today after asking me to babysit last minute, didn't hear from her at all whereas she would usually check in to see how she has been - probably out riding the cawk carousel already.

Tough day today.