Ok, why did this girl ghost?

[PRW63]

So, to clarify, conversationalist is NOT effective?
Just wow. That’s what I’ve been saying all along. You guys are genuises/s

Never said that.

Not once.

Dude, you have no sense of nuance. It is all binary with you,...all extremes. It is either ice cold or boiling hot,...no concept of the existence of "warm". I think we are starting to see the root of the problem you have with women,...you can't communicate with them. If you do the same thing to them that you do to us, then you don't have a prayer,...you don't stand a chance. Women are emotionally driven and speak covertly,...it is ALL about nuance with women, and you speak in extremes,...two different languages. I called it Subtext in maybe my 3rd message to you.

 

[bat soup]

Isn’t that what everyone has been telling me is the wrong way? Wonder how I developed my current style eh?

you guys are hilarious. Literally giving me the advice I already do. Bravo

I'm not responsible for what other guys are telling you.

 

[SargeMaximus]

Never said that.

Not once.

Dude, you have no sense of nuance. It is all binary with you,...all extremes. It is either ice cold or boiling hot,...no concept of the existence of "warm". I think we are starting to see the root of the problem you have with women,...you can't communicate with them. If you do the same thing to them that you do to us, then you don't have a prayer,...you don't stand a chance. Women are emotionally driven and speak covertly,...it is ALL about nuance with women, and you speak in extremes,...two different languages. I called it Subtext in maybe my 3rd message to you.

And yet I’ve gotten laid till I started taking advice from this forum, then my results suddenly began to vanish.

 

[PRW63]

And yet I’ve gotten laid till I started taking advice from this forum

Then why are you here?

You came here asking why you got Ghosted. You were told why,...multiple times. H*ll,...you've got half of us wanting to ghost you by now. So where's the mystery?

 

[SargeMaximus]

Then why are you here?

You came here asking why you got Ghosted. You were told why,...multiple times. H*ll,...you've got half of us wanting to ghost you by now. So where's the mystery?

I’m here to try and find some missing keys. I have a journal I started but I guess none of you here read my OP there.

tl;dr version is Itried Pua for years but it never worked for me, now I’m trying to find some keys thatI haven’t tried before in an attempt to improve my natural game

 

[DonJuanjr]

That is why you have to meet in person as quick as you can to beat the others to the punch. Many of those guys will chat her fingers off for days with out making a date so use it to your advantage.

This is a very astute way of looking at online dating. Many djs on here say meet in person asap. I haven't seen it pointed out how this works against the competition.

 

[PRW63]

This is a very astute way of looking at online dating. Many djs on here say meet in person asap. I haven't seen it pointed out how this works against the competition.

Back when I used Tinder for a very short time, this is how it played out. I'm not using the exact words but I'll use place holders that make the point. I had the date established by my 3rd message on the 1st contact session. I only did two dates, two different women, but it happend the same with both

Me: Hi. What area are your from? I'm in the <name of area>.
Her: I'm in the <town name> near <another town name>

...............(Pause while I Google for a restaurant in her area)

Me: Ye, I know where that is. Let's grab dinner on this Friday night at <name of place> in <name of town> just north of you at 6:00pm
Her: Let me check to see if I can.

................(30 minutes or less later)

Her: Sounds good. I'll meet you there at 6:00
Me: Cool. See you then. (We exchanged cell numbers to take it off Tinder)

That was it. That easy. The date was about 3 days away. I did not make any contact with her after that, I just showed up for the date. I wanted to see if she would keep her word. She texted me about 20 minutes before the date to ask if I was still on. I said I am in the car and on the way,...see ya there. She showed up,...on time even,...and the date went well.

Notice how the exchange had absolutely nothing sexual in it,...no inuendo at all,...no humor or joking around, trying to be funny, and I said nothing to try to "impress" her, and no pictures. I kept myself a complete mystery apart from the area I lived in and whatever was in the Tinder profile. So I remained a mystery that she was curious about and wanted to find out more about, so I had no problem getting her to show up to find out more about me. I asked nothing about her which left her wondering why, and feeling the need to impress me.

 

[SargeMaximus]

Back when I used Tinder for a very short time, this is how it played out. I'm not using the exact words but I'll use place holders that make the point. I had the date established by my 3rd message on the 1st contact session. I only did two dates, two different women, but it happend the same with both

Me: Hi. What area are your from? I'm in the <name of area>.
Her: I'm in the <town name> near <another town name>

...............(Pause while I Google for a restaurant in her area)

Me: Ye, I know where that is. Let's grab dinner on this Friday night at <name of place> in <name of town> just north of you at 6:00pm
Her: Let me check to see if I can.

................(30 minutes or less later)

Her: Sounds good. I'll meet you there at 6:00
Me: Cool. See you then. (We exchanged cell numbers to take it off Tinder)

That was it. That easy. The date was about 3 days away. I did not make any contact with her after that, I just showed up for the date. I wanted to see if she would keep her word. She texted me about 20 minutes before the date to ask if I was still on. I said I am in the car and on the way,...see ya there. She showed up,...on time even,...and the date went well.

Notice how the exchange had absolutely nothing sexual in it,...no inuendo at all,...no humor or joking around, trying to be funny, and I said nothing to try to "impress" her, and no pictures. I kept myself a complete mystery apart from the area I lived in and whatever was in the Tinder profile. So I remained a mystery that she was curious about and wanted to find out more about, so I had no problem getting her to show up to find out more about me. I asked nothing about her which left her wondering why, and feeling the need to impress me.

I’m going to try this. Thank you

 

[RBK]

You’re better off in my opinion leaving the sexual stuff until AFTER you have met them in person and slept with them. Use it as fuel for the next meetup

 

[SargeMaximus]

You’re better off in my opinion leaving the sexual stuff until AFTER you have met them in person and slept with them. Use it as fuel for the next meetup

In the past I’ve tried that and gotten blocked or ghosted. Almost as if they were expecting a lay but when I wasn’t able to take things there they got asd

 

[SargeMaximus]

I forget who suggested it, but I tried it. Pic below

 

[DonJuanjr]

I forget who suggested it,

I tried it last night on pof. Chick responds with "Neither, but bold move".

 

[SargeMaximus]

I tried it last night on pof. Chick responds with "Neither, but bold move".

Yeah here’s another. I just blocked her