When a girl tells you you don't text enough or that much

[Paper Crane]

Once again there you go with assumptions. I am not anxious at all about that girl. My mind is already on the next one i am seeing tonight and juggling the fact my friend is coming out to visit tonight as well and might need a place to crash. I am here to bang new women every day. Stop projecting your insecurities already. You come off as a ***** in general who is just ready to passively aggressively go after someone. Am done replying to you and taking your bait.

Hey man I didn't mean to offend you or come off as an a-hole.. I may have assumed quite a bit and I apologize for that. However, the thing I don' get is this girl told a few things and it made you go off on a rant about how women manipulate men and take advantage of them? I see something wrong with that picture. I think you acting like you don't care about her, shows you care more than you want others to think about her. Good luck though bud and don't be so cynical about everything... Enjoy it for what it is.

 

[jamesfromhouston]

If both of you keep following the old outdated advice on this forum of texting or calling only to set up the date and to wait to hit them up after getting the number, then both of you will continue to fail. It's 2021 and women have a short attention span and have plenty of other men after them. You need to text here and there up until the date to build comfort and hold attraction. You also need hit them up the following evening after getting the number. Nowadays, you strike while the iron is hot. I've been on 100s of dates and have experimented doing things both ways.

Can you elaborate your approach to texting?

I'm currently stuck. Most DJs here have mentioned texting other than logisitcs kill attraction. I used to be a serial texter. What's the right approach?

 

[AureliusMaximus]

The sex was just so so as far as intimacy goes but but her body was really nice. Perfect ass and veey nice feeling down there in general. But she seems a bit bi-polar and is doesnt come off as an intelligent individual in general. She is definitely very manipulate though.

Ever seen a communist parade?

Now, im not even sure i actually do want to really see her again as i have 3 new dates lined up for this week already.

Why even bother to make a thread about her? Just next her and move on dudebro...

Now, im not even sure i actually do want to really see her again as i have 3 new dates lined up for this week already.

You sort of already answered your own question btw.

 

[Glassguy]

As a man with a strong frame we should do what we want. If you don't text much (which is smart), just tell her that you are a busy guy and aren't glued to your phone.

Let her come into your frame.

 

[Elephantomia]

From my experience living long time in Asia. I find that when women tell things like that to men like you don’t text much, or you look different from your photo, it’s like she seemed insecure about her looks because that’s the only thing often women can bring to the table. You can always bargain about her looks not being good enough and gain frame.

It’s like women when want to often sound harsh or ironic, everything comes from poor family backgrounds or difficulties in her past and the easy way to leverage that fake phony persona in order to protect their own complexes and insecurities or when they want to leverage that faked toughness to cover up their lack of communication skills or lack of things to bring to the table other than sex.

While I’d take account of her age range, meeting circumstances, and other background she has to gas up the frame I need to have her spinning in my plate. You have other dates going and that reassured me you are quite aware of it. Once you got the lay, a woman can always be your booty call no matter how much time passes if you don’t act clingy or give her chance to feel some entitlement.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

My ex- told me I was a ‘dry texter’

 

[dasein]

If both of you keep following the old outdated advice on this forum of texting or calling only to set up the date and to wait to hit them up after getting the number, then both of you will continue to fail. It's 2021 and women have a short attention span and have plenty of other men after them. You need to text here and there up until the date to build comfort and hold attraction. You also need hit them up the following evening after getting the number. Nowadays, you strike while the iron is hot. I've been on 100s of dates and have experimented doing things both ways.

I have also been on hundreds of dates just like you, have experimented doing things both ways, and will stick to low/no texting/calling going forward. YMMV of course, you do you, there is no one size fits all. The example I offered was how low texting/phone screens out Cluster B (about 25-40% of women today IME), when that works correctly, it is a success not a failure IMO, so calling it failure is an error. No lay is worth letting a crazy woman into my house or going to hers. Again, set your own boundaries as you choose.

To strain an often seen cliche here, do you think Brad Pitt worries about his "text/phone game?" Sure, for teens and young adults in college or young starting out, text/call away. I myself used texts to displace stacks of orbiters from high demand women 15 or so years ago but no longer, for me, it's effeminate and frivolous. For mature, established and busy professionals with options who are dealing with higher social/professional class women, I think texting can be minimized... especially until she invests in significant face time and is obviously into sex with me.

 

[RangerMIke]

If she wants you to text more, and you don't like to text... well... then the chick isn't right for you.

Women need to fit you... you are not obligated to twist yourself into a knot trying to keep her happy.

 

[Glassguy]

My ex- told me I was a ‘dry texter’

Did you respond with "you are a dry fvck"?

 

[BadBoy89]

If a man has slept with a woman, he keeps the texting amount exactly the same.

If a man hasn‘t slept with the woman, he adjusts the texting accordingly in order to sleep with her.

 

[zinc4]

Update on OP:

Havent talked to her since. Refuse to reach out first.

Have met another Asian chick who i really like though. Didnt get the lay first date but am seeing her on Saturday again. Will def get it.

Got a new girl coming over at 11 am tomorrow for coffee and pool time. Will try to pull her after lounging at the pool. Will see.

Im going to start doing a **** tonne of sober cold approaching in the casinos and strip during the day time try to get insta dates.

My 4 targets today, all asian, chicks rejected me very harshly lol. Am tired and hungover though. Not high energy. Asian women tend to go for really skinny hipster looking white guys in general i have noticed.

Going to do much more approaches after my date tomorrow. Asian women are by far the most intimating to cold approach in my experience. They tend to that that super serious bitchy fish face if they arent into it. Black girls are the least intimidating just because they will talk and joke around.

Although a group of 4 black chicks from Nehraska ruthlessly rejected me last might at the casino bar at like 4 am. I was too drunk and tired to even talk though. Going to hit it hard sober tomorrow. Screw drinking.

 

[EyeBRollin]

I always tell them I don’t text. Call me if they want to chat. The chit chatters will oblige.