You guys, does love exist in the same quantities anymore? Has anyone here ever had love? There is a whole lot of sex advice on this forum but not really any relationship advice/ advice for actual LOVE. Yes, I said the L-word. I bet there are hundreds of guys on this forum who have had sex with over 30-40 different girls but never fallen in love. Am I wrong?
Also please don’t be rude just because I believe that sex is not the only motivator in the world… I know some people will still make fun of me though. Oh well.
"love" is a societal construction not a natural one … you don't need to love anyone to survive sex and love are not mutually exclusive if they were you would need to love every woman you banged to get hard and ***
( we all know that's bS )
in years gone by where societies were more naïve and free thinking wasn't a thing , the illusion of love was easily maintained and stimulated by Hollywood , the media , Disney and just about every other industry you can imagine
hot tip "love" is perhaps the most marketable and very useful perception sales tool i have ever seen ......
then along came social media and hyper connectivity oooops all of a sudden Pandora's box is open
Temptation , information and attraction is suddenly readily available at our finger tips ( the curtain is raised )
Now all of a sudden "love" isn't what we perceived it to be its starting to look forced ....... now its an Instagram / Facebook post but "hang on a second i know them two people aren't in love because one of them was messaging me filth the other day" …
oh and shock horror it transpires people still find others attractive even when they are supposedly in "love"
catch my drift !?! now stay with me
Societies perception of love is changing you can see it with your very eyes .......marriages aren't lasting heck most people can't get past the 5 year stage in a relationship that's because they were never really meant too
the concept of a 30- 40-50 year relationship is so heavily flawed i cant even understand how anyone could consider investing that sort of time into something that is so destined to fail
for me Micro relationships are far more fulfilling and less demanding ......i spent 4 years with my ex GF we had a great time but she started constantly asking me did i love her !?! i said yea sure and went along with it for a bit but apparently "my behaviour wasn't matching"
so eventually i asked how can you define love ? its entirely subjective im not telling you i love you to fulfil some Disney perception you have because i know its bullsh1t i am still attracted to other women and i know you are probably still attracted to other men
so how the hell can i tell you i "love" you when we both know it is a lie
it was too much purple pill for her too cope with and it will be for a lot of others but its the truth .