Need a non Cliche'd gym opener

[Bingo-Player]

Chick at my gym has been burning holes in my head , she's kind of cute but i've never been into approaching chicks in the gym

its like a place of business for me ….go there > get **** done > leave

anyway i feel i should probably say something now and ask her out because its been going on a while

got no problem with the convo its just cold opening a random chick in the gym gives me the shivers being thought of as "that guy "

anyone cold approached any chicks in the gym ? what did you open with ? need some inspo

 

[2Rocky]

After I say hello and we exchange names:
" Hey, I don't come to the gym to meet women. It is a workplace for me. Why don't we get together away from here for a coffee or a drink so I can get to know you better? Great. Thanks. I'm gonna get back to work. "

 

[Xenom0rph]

My gym methodology:

Step 1: make sure she sees me a lot.... and I mean A LOT, and at the same time, every time. For example, I hit the gym every Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, Saturday at 8:00PM like clockwork.

Step 2: Make eye contact quite a few times, but very briefly. I'm talking like half a second at most. And then look away like you don't want to disturb her. Make it seem like an accidental eye contact.

The whole point of this is so she gets comfortable seeing you as a regular at the gym. Women need to develop some degree of comfort and rapport so they don't automatically go into defensive mode and brush you off.

Step 3: This is where I would go shirtless in the weight area outside. It's summer time and in my neck of the woods guys like to lift shirtless in the outdoor weights area. But of course, you gotta have the physique to pull this off. Make sure she sees.

Step 4: Make more eye contact shirtless if you can.

Step 5: Say anything you want.

Attraction is pretty much all physical, it has almost nothing to do with what you say.

You'll notice the prerequisite here is that you have to have the physique to pull this off.

"Game" is a pile of horsh/t, it's all about physique and facial aesthetics, boyo...

EDIT: you'll notice that this methodology has to be done over a period of weeks so as to give her time to get comfortable with seeing you around.

 

[Chamber36]

Just become generally social in the gym. Talk about the exercises. Then tell her she has a nice BMI and you would like to take her out for a kale smoothie.

Indirect game is the way here boyo. Make sure you are already social instead of some roided out gymcel who just slams iron for an hour a day and then grits his teeth for the rest of the day.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Chick at my gym has been burning holes in my head , she's kind of cute but i've never been into approaching chicks in the gym

its like a place of business for me ….go there > get **** done > leave

anyway i feel i should probably say something now and ask her out because its been going on a while

got no problem with the convo its just cold opening a random chick in the gym gives me the shivers being thought of as "that guy "

anyone cold approached any chicks in the gym ? what did you open with ? need some inspo

I've seen you the last few months, it seems like you be getting it in. Your squat and leg workout is thorough as hell...

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Just become generally social in the gym. Talk about the exercises. Then tell her she has a nice BMI and you would like to take her out for a kale smoothie.

Indirect game is the way here boyo. Make sure you are already social instead of some roided out gymcel who just slams iron for an hour a day and then grits his teeth for the rest of the day.

"Keep it social".

 

[SW15]

Go direct about what you noticed about her and go from there. It is authentic.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

You are not at the gym to meet women, you are there to aid in your purpose, your purpose is your goal, the women are the consequence of your purpose... A high value man with a purpose does not chase after women in the gym, sure, if opportunity arises, he takes it at his convenience.

The thing is, if you don't immediately approach, then you are setting a precedent of behavior, so if you see her for weeks, set the precedent like you have, then your approach will break your precedent of behavior and you will come off as desperate.

You have set the precedent already, so opportunity has to be established.

Luckily, there are other gyms for you to set a precedent at, but the initial approach has to be done right, it is very difficult at the gym, most guys just play the long game

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Dude, he asked for a specific opener.

He didn't ask for some rambling philosophical bvllsh!t.

Some of you guys need to keep it simple. Stop thinking sh!t to death.

What is your problem?

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

"Well your honor, I'm a little upset about a bad sexual episode I had last night."

Quick...what movie is that from?

I've saw you posting all around the forum, just being negative in general, attacking posts but contributing nothing, it's an old tactic used by people who want establish themselves as something they are not, you have nothing of value to add, we can all see it, you ain't fooling anyone bud.

 

[Chamber36]

I've saw you posting all around the forum, just being negative in general, attacking posts but contributing nothing, it's an old tactic used by people who want establish themselves as something they are not, you have nothing of value to add, we can all see it, you ain't fooling anyone bud.

You are projecting in every possible direction.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

You are projecting in every possible direction.

Projecting what, value? Go read my posts if you like, I actually add value to this forum, I'm not just here to **** post lol, I have better things to do with my time, like be with women.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Okay.

Just saying, answer the dang question.

He didn’t ask for anyone’s philosophical musings.

And I only give the Incels a hard time.

Do you think the incels need to be given a hard time? Is it not hard enough already? Life is far to tragic for clowns like you to be doing anything other than giving advice, the hard times drive people here, do you honestly think it's necessary to add to that? Like fvckin go away you loser.

 

[Chamber36]

Do you think the incels need to be given a hard time? Is it not hard enough already? Life is far to tragic for clowns like you to be doing anything other than giving advice, the hard times drive people here, do you honestly think it's necessary to add to that? Like fvckin go away you loser.

OP wanted advice. You say he is fvcked because of the precedent. Doesn't even matter. If he wants to approach, we help him approach.

Your negativity is exactly what fvcks life up for so many people. Maybe you are suffering inside. Maybe you want recognition and seek to find it in this forum through bragging. You should recognize the futility of arguing with strangers.

This energy of "i know everything better" is likely to drive people away also, more than it is to attract them to you. At least when it comes to quality people.

So calm down and be respectful to your fellow human being.

Edit: worst of all, you are trying to crush OP's inspiration to make an approach, which he wants to do as an exception. Whether it works or not doesn't matter. The execution of the approach is what matters. Plus, I dont think time constraints apply to an indirect approach in a gym where you will be seeing each other for weeks or months anyway. Might as well do the long game.

 

[Old Balls]

Here's what I like to go with and it has treated me right as far as getting the ball rolling. I'm a long game fan in the gym and yoga class btw.

Obviously, use your best judgement on the timing of the approach. Headphones don't mean jack sh!t. Just motion to your ear as you walk up to her and she'll get the hint.

Old Balls: "Hey, are you an athlete?" With an inquisitive look on my face.

There are a few stock answers I usually get like:
"Welllll, I used to be but not anymore" which I reply "I can tell you have athletic ability and coordination, you look like you have trained your whole life and your legs are amazingly athletic. So what's your game?" Boom conversation.

"No" replied with "Well, you fooled me. I was thinking you were an Olympic Bobsledder training for the gold medal, your legs are amazingly athletic. What did you do besides play sports? Wait, let me guess, you did all the jocks homework"

"Yes, I play..." replied with "Yeah, I could tell you were an athlete, your legs are amazingly athletic. Are you any good or do you ride the bench?"

"No, why do you ask?" replied with "Well it looks like you really know what you're doing, and your legs are amazingly athletic. What do you do besides play sports?"

At any rate, I usually get a smile and a conversation out of it regardless if she actually fits the bill of an athlete or not.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

OP wanted advice. You say he is fvcked because of the precedent. Doesn't even matter. If he wants to approach, we help him approach.

Your negativity is exactly what fvcks life up for so many people. Maybe you are suffering inside. Maybe you want recognition and seek to find it in this forum through bragging. You should recognize the futility of arguing with strangers.

This energy of "i know everything better" is likely to drive people away also, more than it is to attract them to you. At least when it comes to quality people.

So calm down and be respectful to your fellow human being.

Edit: worst of all, you are trying to crush OP's inspiration to make an approach, which he wants to do as an exception. Whether it works or not doesn't matter. The execution of the approach is what matters. Plus, I dont think time constraints apply to an indirect approach in a gym where you will be seeing each other for weeks or months anyway. Might as well do the long game.

I never said OP was fvcked, i said he would look desperate, which means all the time he spent not approaching, he was scared, she will know that fear the second he looks desperate... Dense posters like yourself need to be able to read between the lines, the last thing this guy needs is a pick up line, this guy needs to work on himself for confidence.

OP has no inspiration, he's scared, that is a huge problem, something you'd know if you actually participated in the dating game.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

But hey, let's encourage this guy to make an approach, embarrass himself at a place he regularly attends, a place where he can self develop, like it's obvious he has fear, the gym is not the place to resolve your fear, anybody with any amount of game should know this, y'all clearly do not know what you are talking about and here's the kicker: This is all covered in the DJ Bible, so you have no excuse to not be aware of this **** other than your lazy.

Y'ALL are lazy and don't know ****, it's sad, get it together

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Game and philosophy go hand in hand, if you had any game at all, you would understand that, go read the DJ Bible, what's the first thing you are confronted with, questions, why aren't you doing this? Why are you doing that? Questions lead to self development, bull**** leads to fear, now I see why this poster and so many others have fear, because we have a bunch of bullsh1tters in here without any game whatsoever.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

@Chamber36 @Hank Moody

 

[Chamber36]

Did you know that we are both individual but seperate manifestations of the same universal consciousness? With that I believe we are also functioning through a combination of genetic programming, chance events and other influences, causing us to do and think whatever it is we do.

So i don't blame you for being a retard. It's ok. Maybe one day you will be an empathetic individual. Who knows.

Also: rules like "dont approach in a gym" dont make sense. Even if its in the DJ Bible.

Anyways, it's a good thing you could argue for why not to approach. Now OP can make an informed decision.