Need a non Cliche'd gym opener

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Did you know that we are both individual but seperate manifestations of the same universal consciousness? With that I believe we are also functioning through a combination of genetic programming, chance events and other influences, causing us to do and think whatever it is we do.

So i don't blame you for being a retard. It's ok. Maybe one day you will be an empathetic individual. Who knows.

Also: rules like "dont approach in a gym" dont make sense. Even if its in the DJ Bible.

Anyways, it's a good thing you could argue for why not to approach. Now OP can make an informed decision.
I just went in on you and this is what you have for me? Really?

To the OP, your self development routine is way more important than any approach, sure you might have an opportunity here, but what's better to have, a single opportunity or a hundred opportunities, because that's what you'll have if you max out on your development.

You want a woman in the gym? I'll give you the keys to have any woman, in any gym, without an approach... All you have to do, is out work every single guy in that gym, every single day. That's it.
 

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Did you know that we are both individual but seperate manifestations of the same universal consciousness? With that I believe we are also functioning through a combination of genetic programming, chance events and other influences, causing us to do and think whatever it is we do.
Way too much kale.
 

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I never said OP was fvcked, i said he would look desperate, which means all the time he spent not approaching, he was scared, she will know that fear the second he looks desperate... Dense posters like yourself need to be able to read between the lines, the last thing this guy needs is a pick up line, this guy needs to work on himself for confidence.

OP has no inspiration, he's scared, that is a huge problem, something you'd know if you actually participated in the dating game.

lol , if I get any more confident il be drowning in arrogance

end of the day you can be as confident as you like , there still needs to be the right time and place for the "moment" for a cold approach or she will consciously / sub consciously label you as a creep

gyms are rarely if ever that time or that place but seeing as i only ever see this chick in the gym then im going to have to improvise

anyway will let you know how i get on
 

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What is your problem?
He sits on here literally all day, and originally regurgitated anything said by AMS & Corey Wayne. Now hes got little Hitler Syndrome


“Would you like to have a steak and share a wedge salad with me?”
Incel approach, someone who wears white ankle socks & choir shoes speaks like this, its not a statement
 

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Game and philosophy go hand in hand, if you had any game at all, you would understand that, go read the DJ Bible, what's the first thing you are confronted with, questions, why aren't you doing this? Why are you doing that? Questions lead to self development, bull**** leads to fear, now I see why this poster and so many others have fear, because we have a bunch of bullsh1tters in here without any game whatsoever.
Questions do lead to self development. Unfortunately most people ask themselves the wrong questions which keeps them in the same place as they have been their whole life. Your brain doesn't want you to change. It wants to maintain status quo.

Change the questions you ask yourself and you can change your life. Most people either can't or won't tho.
 

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I mean you can walk into any thread without any background context and be like "you need to work on your inner game bro". Sure. No one can deny the importance of inner game. But OP still just wanted advice on how to go about it.

The rest is just nonsense and a waste of time.
 

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Ask her so what do you perfer coffee or a drink.... ?
-What do you mean ?
-Simple question really, if a guy approach you and ask you if you would like to take a cup a coffee or a drink ...... Whats yours answer?
- Coffee.
-Ok .. lucky girl, we´re going to take a cup of coffee soon. Whats yours number ?
 

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I mean you can walk into any thread without any background context and be like "you need to work on your inner game bro". Sure. No one can deny the importance of inner game. But OP still just wanted advice on how to go about it.

The rest is just nonsense and a waste of time.
Sure, nobody can deny the importance of "Inner game", but if you don't mind, why don't you explain why "Inner game" is important, I'm just curious.
 

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Why should I grace you with my wisdom when you have only showed me that you just want to do dik measuring contests?

You just want to look for faults in what anyone (this time me) has to say.
 

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There is a difference between "going to the gym to meet girls" NO don't do this

and "asking out a girl you met at the gym".

I will implore you not to do it on the Gym floor. Catch her in the lobby and introduce yourself, and say "can I walk you out?"

OK OK OK you can't catch her in the lobby...Then on the floor, by the water fountain or something, ask her if she will be around after whatever time you are going to finish your workout. "great...I'll see you in the lobby at 6" then back to the iron...
 

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Who cares?

Our society has become pathologically antisocial if we have these arbitrary norms of not approaching in a gym. People have become fearful, autistic and don't even know how to make smalltalk.

I swear....

If she isn't sweating bullets just make an approach like any other. Listen to your instincts though. It would he smarter to be smooth. Talk about the workouts or something and give her a compliment.
 

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I don't do the gym anymore (1/2 sit-up's, speed bag, rope, home yoga, Mtn bike). If you're not a creepy guy, in shape,
Approachable, women interested are guaranteed to give you all the signals you need (ioi). Yes a nudge will help them come to you, a smile or something subtle. They can't help themselves, and you are spared any remote gamble at the
Gym of causing awkward sht. Believe me, if they want your attention they will get it whether you like it or not.
 

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I just now said to a little hottie half my age who didn't show me any attention beforehand.

"You're a little a$$ kicker"

She smiled, blushed and gave me the most feminine "Thaaaank youuuu" followed by a 5 minute conversation.

She now knows who I am and we will make a chat next time our paths cross.
 

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I just now said to a little hottie half my age who didn't show me any attention beforehand.

"You're a little a$$ kicker"

She smiled, blushed and gave me the most feminine "Thaaaank youuuu" followed by a 5 minute conversation.

She now knows who I am and we will make a chat next time our paths cross.
Impressive to someone who wouldn't do it.

This is the flow we need to be in.
 

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Chick at my gym has been burning holes in my head , she's kind of cute but i've never been into approaching chicks in the gym

its like a place of business for me ….go there > get **** done > leave

anyway i feel i should probably say something now and ask her out because its been going on a while

got no problem with the convo its just cold opening a random chick in the gym gives me the shivers being thought of as "that guy "

anyone cold approached any chicks in the gym ? what did you open with ? need some inspo
Super easy:


Casually stroll up to the woman as she's in-between sets and motion for her to take her ear bud out. Smile and be confident. In a relaxed smooth tone, offer her a tip or suggestion on another exercise to work X muscle or ask her about her routine. BUT, you must be casual and smooth (think James Bond) not “Joe Over-Eager and Nervous.”

Case in point:

Right before covid hit, this smoking hot 20-something has boxing gloves on and is pounding a heavy bag. Really good form; straight punches, good movement, circling, good foot work. I box/kickbox a lot. I was casually watching her from a distance in between my sets. When I finish, I stroll up to her as she's resting and motion for her to take her earbud out. She smiles and does. I asked her if she had formal training because her form was really good and I told her what I saw. Surprisingly, she said no. I joked and said you must have fought your older brother growing up then, she laughed. I asked if she knew how to throw kicks. She said not really. So I showed her a basic roundhouse, front, and side kick. Then I put a couple punch/kick combos together (medium motion, not hard) to show her. She liked it. I told her I had to run but if she ever goes pro, I get 80% as her manager. She laughed and said ok. I spoke with her when I saw her each time after that to a warm response, then covid hit.

Was easy as pie.

Good luck.
 

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I remember this chick that I saw at the gym and every single time she was doing legs, I was doing legs. Of she did chest, I did chest. If she had back, I had back. It was just weirdly coincidental. I remember we always used to joke we are doing the same split which was the weirdest thing ever. Never asked her out though, but I did always compliment her on her drive and stuff. I changed gyms, sadly. Otherwise who knows.

They had a mixed M/F sauna in that gym. I approached one chick outside after we had sat in that sauna nakes together. Was a bit of a higher end gym. She was like "wow you have balls". I was like, "the least I can do is ask for your number". I mean, it sounds funny, but she didnt mind.

Lastly, I remember I banged this pretty hot blonde girl who I saw in the gym after I ran into her in a bar. That's honestly the only gym lay I have ever pulled off even though I never spoke to her in the gym. She just told me later that she was impressed with how hard I trained with the 45 seconds rest etc.

Thats it for my gym anecdotes.

I can say though, you can meet a lot of chicks in the classes. You can see they like it if you are good at anything. And they are usually curious what you are doing in a class if it's mostly girls there.

Point is just be social and act normal.
 

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"Damn we are both sweaty. Why don't you come over to my place and we can shower together". Lol.
 
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