Well, first off, let's examine the impacts of fatherlessnes children.
https://fathers.com/statistics-and-research/the-consequences-of-fatherlessness/
So now, let's examine societies overall response to this and I believe it is captured in this article
https://www.google.com/amp/s/globalnews.ca/news/4263122/dad-bias-praise-parenting/amp/
As we gear up for Father’s Day and many of us get ready to celebrate the man who taught us how to ride a bike and kept indiscretions from Mom that he knew would get us in trouble (it was OK to sneak a cookie before dinner as long as we shared it with him), the question of society’s views on fatherhood pops up.
Those of us who are old enough to have families of our own now were likely raised by a father who did “Dad stuff” (see the aforementioned bike-riding lessons and the occasional homework help), but for the most part, everyday tasks like dinner, school runs and laundry were left up to mothers.
Today, as a new generation of dads takes on many of those responsibilities and more, they are often enthusiastically praised for doing things that merely fall under the umbrella of parenthood, and for which mothers are rarely acknowledged.
In an essay for
Parents magazine, Ross McCammon wrote of an experience he had when his son was still an infant. He was walking home one Sunday morning with his baby strapped to his chest and a bag of groceries in each hand: “The boy and the food total about 35 pounds, evenly distributed, and I’m not struggling in the least,” he wrote.
He then passed a man in his 20s who took one look at him and said, “You’re a great father, man.”
McCammon was confused by this stranger’s unquestioning praise of his parenting prowess, because as far as he was concerned, it was a decidedly ordinary act.
“We need to move beyond the idea that a dad’s presence alone makes him great at the job. It’s condescending and undervalues the importance of a father’s regular engagement,” he wrote.
Fathers have been increasingly vocal about not wanting to be referred to as “babysitters” when they’re out with their own children or seen as heroes.
“I get undue adulation all of the time for simply being out with my kid,” Adam Mansbach, author of the bestselling book
Go the F**k to Sleep, said to
The Atlantic. “Just because my kid isn’t freezing to death, I’m a great father.”
It’s considered ‘novel’ when fathers parent
What this comes down to is society’s inability to accept or at least recognize changing gender roles.
“In general, our traditional values are shifting. Men are becoming much more involved in raising the children and helping with household tasks,” says
Joanna Seidel, a Toronto-based family therapist. “But women have traditionally been in the roles of taking care of the children and the home, so it’s considered novel when men do it.”
Aside from this being a welcome response to the realities of modern life — more women have full-time jobs and therefore cannot dedicate themselves entirely to raising the children and running a household the way they may have half a century ago — we’re also learning more and more that fathers’ hands-on involvement makes for better kids.
Studies have shown that fathers who are involved in their sons’ lives early on
reduce their risk of homelessness later in life. Hands-on dads also raise kids with
better cognitive abilities and
fewer psychological problems.
But mothers (and clearly, some fathers too) take issue with just how much praise is being heaped on hands-on dads. Especially considering that in Canada, women still do 50 per cent more unpaid work (namely, housework) than men despite working full-time. In the U.K., women do 60 per cent more, while 79 per cent of American working moms say laundry responsibilities fall exclusively to them — plus 50 per cent of the cooking.
Seidel hears many of these same issues from her patients, although she says some of that is due to women being unable to let go of their stronghold on the homestead.
“Even if they work, some women set up the structure that they take on the majority of childcare and housework,” she says. “They will defer to the fathers for support or assistance, but they are the leaders.”
Sorry my copy and paste on my phone isn't working, push and drag annoying af, jyst of it is there... Basically we've entered a time of equal rights where our rights as men are not equal and that is saw as OK because women are tired of hearing about how important dads are... Dads are almost being put above the mom, but it is what is necessary... The truth is that Dads have evolved to the point where we don't need women outside of a birth canal and they know it... We are better teachers, better providers, better protectors and there is not this lingering sense of empowerment that women have, women tend to just focus on themselves, you can see it in the article, it isn't about the children, it is about the praise... Who cares who gets praise if your kid turns out great, well no, it seems a woman is willing to forfeit her child's future for praise.
