Society's dysfunction junction.....

D

derby1

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 10, 2017
Messages
3,300
Reaction score
3,441
Had a chic cancel on me yesterday, (Id actually say she hint dropped over 5 messages so i would cancel for her)......

I had bought some drinks in for our evening, she knows this as she was working at the off licence at the time.

throughout the cancellation messages, not once did she apologise. they literally are oblivious to men and think were disposable.

I told her "I will let her know if i want to try again in a couple of weeks"(remember shes fully aware i've invested time & effort)

Shes gone insane and sent me 5 messages in a row.

Theyre sick.
 
D

derby1

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 10, 2017
Messages
3,300
Reaction score
3,441
Georgepithyou said:
It sounds to me like she just wants free attention and nothing more.
Click to expand...
fortunately I knew, i feel ultra sorry for the average blue pill guy who just would be happy to get a date though, then he wonders whats going on....
 
BMX

BMX

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 12, 2004
Messages
1,491
Reaction score
418
Location
Everett
She works at the off license. That's hot.
 
M

Medina

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 23, 2019
Messages
866
Reaction score
1,546
You know it bro. They're nuts. But there is an explanation,or at least my take on it anyway

Women always wanna be in the chasing position. When you were making the effort, you were giving her the power. Women don't want that. They want you to have the power and for themselves to be chasing it. So when you pulled back, you took the power with you, and turned her into the chaser, which is what she wants (hence 5 messages in a row) It's not just a sh!t test on her part. She is manipulating the situation to make you the masculine and her the feminine. I am not so sure that women are even aware that they do this. But in my opinion, they do
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

EyeOnThePrize

EyeOnThePrize

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 9, 2019
Messages
1,152
Reaction score
1,884
Age
34
Medina said:
You know it bro. They're nuts. But there is an explanation,or at least my take on it anyway

Women always wanna be in the chasing position. When you were making the effort, you were giving her the power. Women don't want that. They want you to have the power and for themselves to be chasing it. So when you pulled back, you took the power with you, and turned her into the chaser, which is what she wants (hence 5 messages in a row) It's not just a sh!t test on her part. She is manipulating the situation to make you the masculine and her the feminine. I am not so sure that women are even aware that they do this. But in my opinion, they do
Click to expand...
There's truth to this. Some women will do terrible shiit just to apologize and be in a weaker position, forcing you into your masculine. And they don't want you to forgive them instantly, in fact they want you to be on the fence or to become indifferent so they have something to chase and strive for emotionally.
 
D

derby1

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 10, 2017
Messages
3,300
Reaction score
3,441
Her 1pm: "and oh right if you feel like it or if you have the time, ....I took the hint there!
Her again 3pm: "I was really looking forward to seeing you its just i feel so bad & low today" (she 100% got drunk the night before)

Me at 5pm: "youll have to prove this to me in real life and make it up to me then"

Her 5.01pm "its just ive had home "first dates" before and they sometimes end bad for me(after showing super invested interest all week!/plus shes no prude)

Me at 5.20pm "Ive seperated myself from a hook up, the way ive treat you so far, got to dash, speak soon"

Her 5.21pm "I honestly was eager to meet"

.......................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................

Im giving her a little leeway as she did let me know in plenty of time, and shes always stayed polite, never messed around with leaving me on read etc.....she also continued to reply after my full on sosuave classic replies. she could have thought "who does he think he is".

However shes brilliant at replying like a politician, 100% loves men fawning over her. and notice not once does she acknowledge my "make up" reply

I have a low tolerance for female behaviour and shes currently give me ED
 
S

Stoic

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 2, 2018
Messages
643
Reaction score
695
Age
41
OP, I think you took her seriously. By acting really annoyed after she cancelled. For your own benefit, tell her no problem! And then do your thing.

Cancellations shouldn't be a surprise. It happens all of the time. Always have a plan b for your night so you are always productive.
 
D

derby1

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 10, 2017
Messages
3,300
Reaction score
3,441
stringpuller said:
You were nicer then I would have been.
Click to expand...
My job involves helping local children (everyone knows each other in our towns)......, I remain polite at all times just so they cant screenshot me , and use it against me with their herd mentality on whatsapp chats
 
D

derby1

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 10, 2017
Messages
3,300
Reaction score
3,441
Stoic said:
OP, I think you took her seriously. By acting really annoyed after she cancelled.
Click to expand...
she messaged me 5 times prior the evening before looking for me to confirm her gates are made of gold, when she messaged the same kind of message the morning after I lost attraction,.....remember i actually put effort into this meet due to lockdown, this wasnt a low investment coffee meet(we cant do them at mo)
 
S

Stoic

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 2, 2018
Messages
643
Reaction score
695
Age
41
derby1 said:
she messaged me 5 times prior the evening before looking for me to confirm her gates are made of gold, when she messaged the same kind of message the morning after I lost attraction,.....remember i actually put effort into this meet due to lockdown, this wasnt a low investment coffee meet(we cant do them at mo)
Click to expand...
I get that. But women do that now. They've been conditioned to behave that way. This behavior is the rule, not the exception.

I would just keep investment low in the beginning. Shes got to meet you at least half way. Next time, have her invest something too..making or bringing something. Never lean too forward with a woman.
 
D

derby1

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 10, 2017
Messages
3,300
Reaction score
3,441
Stoic said:
I would just keep investment low in the beginning. Shes got to meet you at least half way. Next time, have her invest something too..making or bringing something. Never lean too forward with a woman.
Click to expand...
I usually would, I'm with you , weve been on the forum long enough. 5 years ago i would have been running round like larry out the 3 stooges..usually i would arrange a low investment coffee meet
 
D

derby1

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 10, 2017
Messages
3,300
Reaction score
3,441
stringpuller said:
Gotcha and probably good. When i say nicer i wasn't implying capitol punishment in this case. Reserve those for other times.
Click to expand...
yeah i agree, i think its because she went a bit wishy washy the day before, and i hit her with decisive indifference, I wasnt doing to do it again the morning after, that was ridiculous so i came across firm
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top