Society's dysfunction junction.....

[derby1]

Had a chic cancel on me yesterday, (Id actually say she hint dropped over 5 messages so i would cancel for her)......

I had bought some drinks in for our evening, she knows this as she was working at the off licence at the time.

throughout the cancellation messages, not once did she apologise. they literally are oblivious to men and think were disposable.

I told her "I will let her know if i want to try again in a couple of weeks"(remember shes fully aware i've invested time & effort)

Shes gone insane and sent me 5 messages in a row.

Theyre sick.

 

[Georgepithyou]

It sounds to me like she just wants free attention and nothing more.

 

[derby1]

It sounds to me like she just wants free attention and nothing more.

fortunately I knew, i feel ultra sorry for the average blue pill guy who just would be happy to get a date though, then he wonders whats going on....

 

[BMX]

She works at the off license. That's hot.

 

[Medina]

You know it bro. They're nuts. But there is an explanation,or at least my take on it anyway

Women always wanna be in the chasing position. When you were making the effort, you were giving her the power. Women don't want that. They want you to have the power and for themselves to be chasing it. So when you pulled back, you took the power with you, and turned her into the chaser, which is what she wants (hence 5 messages in a row) It's not just a sh!t test on her part. She is manipulating the situation to make you the masculine and her the feminine. I am not so sure that women are even aware that they do this. But in my opinion, they do

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

You know it bro. They're nuts. But there is an explanation,or at least my take on it anyway

Women always wanna be in the chasing position. When you were making the effort, you were giving her the power. Women don't want that. They want you to have the power and for themselves to be chasing it. So when you pulled back, you took the power with you, and turned her into the chaser, which is what she wants (hence 5 messages in a row) It's not just a sh!t test on her part. She is manipulating the situation to make you the masculine and her the feminine. I am not so sure that women are even aware that they do this. But in my opinion, they do

There's truth to this. Some women will do terrible shiit just to apologize and be in a weaker position, forcing you into your masculine. And they don't want you to forgive them instantly, in fact they want you to be on the fence or to become indifferent so they have something to chase and strive for emotionally.

 

[derby1]

Her 1pm: "and oh right if you feel like it or if you have the time, ....I took the hint there!
Her again 3pm: "I was really looking forward to seeing you its just i feel so bad & low today" (she 100% got drunk the night before)

Me at 5pm: "youll have to prove this to me in real life and make it up to me then"

Her 5.01pm "its just ive had home "first dates" before and they sometimes end bad for me(after showing super invested interest all week!/plus shes no prude)

Me at 5.20pm "Ive seperated myself from a hook up, the way ive treat you so far, got to dash, speak soon"

Her 5.21pm "I honestly was eager to meet"

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Im giving her a little leeway as she did let me know in plenty of time, and shes always stayed polite, never messed around with leaving me on read etc.....she also continued to reply after my full on sosuave classic replies. she could have thought "who does he think he is".

However shes brilliant at replying like a politician, 100% loves men fawning over her. and notice not once does she acknowledge my "make up" reply

I have a low tolerance for female behaviour and shes currently give me ED

 

[Stoic]

OP, I think you took her seriously. By acting really annoyed after she cancelled. For your own benefit, tell her no problem! And then do your thing.

Cancellations shouldn't be a surprise. It happens all of the time. Always have a plan b for your night so you are always productive.

 

[derby1]

You were nicer then I would have been.

My job involves helping local children (everyone knows each other in our towns)......, I remain polite at all times just so they cant screenshot me , and use it against me with their herd mentality on whatsapp chats

 

[derby1]

OP, I think you took her seriously. By acting really annoyed after she cancelled.

she messaged me 5 times prior the evening before looking for me to confirm her gates are made of gold, when she messaged the same kind of message the morning after I lost attraction,.....remember i actually put effort into this meet due to lockdown, this wasnt a low investment coffee meet(we cant do them at mo)

 

[Stoic]

she messaged me 5 times prior the evening before looking for me to confirm her gates are made of gold, when she messaged the same kind of message the morning after I lost attraction,.....remember i actually put effort into this meet due to lockdown, this wasnt a low investment coffee meet(we cant do them at mo)

I get that. But women do that now. They've been conditioned to behave that way. This behavior is the rule, not the exception.

I would just keep investment low in the beginning. Shes got to meet you at least half way. Next time, have her invest something too..making or bringing something. Never lean too forward with a woman.

 

[derby1]

I would just keep investment low in the beginning. Shes got to meet you at least half way. Next time, have her invest something too..making or bringing something. Never lean too forward with a woman.

I usually would, I'm with you , weve been on the forum long enough. 5 years ago i would have been running round like larry out the 3 stooges..usually i would arrange a low investment coffee meet

 

[derby1]

Gotcha and probably good. When i say nicer i wasn't implying capitol punishment in this case. Reserve those for other times.

yeah i agree, i think its because she went a bit wishy washy the day before, and i hit her with decisive indifference, I wasnt doing to do it again the morning after, that was ridiculous so i came across firm

 

[derby1]

Update reply

Her : "She understands if i want to never speak to her again"

god these women are insufferable, such A.W behaviour

 

[derby1]

"OK"

I actually need viagra now for my mind