Why have my girlfriends hated my energy?

[BMX]

Well that's just too d amn bad bruv. I could care less if they don't like "my energy" and the fact that I lift, do HIIT workouts to improve my boxing or overall health, hike, etc. She is a leach of your time, energy and happiness. Pass hard AF so you can continue to do YOU and SUCCEED in life. You get one pass through it, so make that sh.t count. Without adequate gym time set aside for myself, I would've been kicked out of my career years ago and right back at square one ironically, with all the weight I had to lose to get into the job. Plus no job = no pay, no retirement funds, no health insurance, no fkn nothing. I'm not about that bigoty bs. These tricks aren't going to pay my expenses. They never have, and as far as I'm concerned, they never will. So if I really wanted to play those stupid games, then I realize the stupid prizes in store for me.

Even though I've switched over to part-time, I still have to A. take off all of this bodyfat from lockdowns and leave periods and B. Continue to maintain those bodyfat standards. So that means cardio and lifting will remain mandated as prescribed by the job and by ME. I know what works and I know what needs to be done continually. I can't sacrifice that for some new woman. Like I said earlier, they aren't paying my salary. It's part of my weekly rotation and who I am since many years ago. If they are just meeting me now, then they will quickly come to realize that and either flex to it with what they bring to the table themselves or feel free to GTFO. And I am not going to do some wannabe BUD/S bullshiit workouts at "03:30, a few days a week" to create an optical illusion for them. F uck off.

 

[SargeMaximus]

I've noticed that people generally hate on me when I'm in a great mood as well.

 

[firstbornunicorn]

Reread his post. He seems very self centered and selfish in terms of being in an LTR. Its all about what he wants. That doesn't work in an LTR.

I didn't want to make this a post about me saying how good I was to her and how life is unfair.

Instead I just wanted to isolate this part that she hated when I was in a good mood.

I moved to a different country to help with her career, and at the same time slowed mine down by about 3 years if not more, in my early twenties. Not to mention the insane amount of money I spent on her.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I didn't want to make this a post about me saying how good I was to her and how life is unfair.

Instead I just wanted to isolate this part that she hated when I was in a good mood.

I moved to a different country to help with her career, and at the same time slowed mine down by about 3 years if not more, in my early twenties. Not to mention the insane amount of money I spent on her.

Hmm...maybe that is part of the problem?

Maybe you have done too much for her and she now feels entitled to you doing whatever she wants?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I've noticed that people generally hate on me when I'm in a great mood as well.

True. I've heard the type complaint about "shining on me" or "turn your light off". Those types gain esteem by dragging or pushing someone down btw. That makes them shine temporarily. When we shine its a "flow state", things are going well, our thoughts are positive and clear. We feel good. We are growing in a "gain state".

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Hmm...maybe that is part of the problem?

Maybe you have done too much for her and she now feels entitled to you doing whatever she wants?

'Doing too much " might mean its the "wrong type". Imagine a type that feels shes with you and your actions are met with increased Esteem in the situation and you. Greater admiration and growing desire and love. Where the girl you was "doing too much" for was ALWAYS there for what she could "get out of it ". See the difference?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

'Doing too much " might mean its the "wrong type". Imagine a type that feels shes with you and your actions are met with increased Esteem in the situation and you. Greater admiration and growing desire and love. Where the girl you was "doing too much" for was ALWAYS there for what she could "get out of it ". See the difference?

Yes exactly...you explained it much better than I did

 

[B80]

They see you as out of their league and are sabotaging your success in a effort to keep you mediocre and their anxiety in check. It's some evil sh*t when you think about it..

Yeah it's typical across all sorts of things. Easier to try and tear someone down to your level than make changes to your life. I'd happily stay single and just have fwb's the rest of life than over compromise with what's important to me.as we know, even if you do that, there's still a good chance the relationship will come to an end at some point. Then you'll feel like a **** for making so many concessions with what's important to you.

My brother is also really into weights like myself.


It's amazing how many women try to stop you doing it.


The woman im seeing told me a few dates in she prefers a dad bod... which I just laughed off.

Then other times she drools over my abs, shoulders etc.

Maybe drop a day or 2 a week if tge girl is good fun to be around, as 6 days isn't necessary to build/maintain a top physique (although now i have garage equipped, 30 -45 mins a day isn't a huge time commitment).

One things for sure, my brother and me won't stop lifting weights for no one. Has so many positive benefits to most areas of life, not just about looking good and vanity. The other other facet I won't change is business, money. You're either on board with what I do or it's not going to last long. As much chance of those things changing as me getting gang banged by 10 men : D

 

[firstbornunicorn]

Lifting weights might have saved my body this summer. A mtn bike crash that would have otherwise obliterated my shoulder resulted in just a broken collarbone!

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

I come home from work after a hard day, and I just want to grab my gym gear and head to the gym.

It's morning, I want to get up and cook breakfast, maybe dance and a sing a little whilst doing it.

It's Saturday morning, and I want to get up, and go hiking after speeding through breakfast. On the hike, I go fast and run a little.

This ANGERS my girlfriend. I have to go at her pace, or she loses her ****. She wants to "chill" after work before going to the gym, but we all know it won't happen if we do.

I've noticed that whenever I'm happy, girlfriends lose their **** and bring me right down to wherever they are. What is it? I'm open to the idea that the energy I'm giving off isn't healthy, but to me it seems like something else is the case.

I lead. She follows or next. Concessions is low T.

 

[firstbornunicorn]

I lead. She follows or next. Concessions is low T.

Do low T men make concessions happily? With my longest girlfriend I made some serious concessions I'll never make again, but when making them I felt severe resentment towards her. This happened just when I started lifting, put on a solid 8Kg of mostly lean mass from then to now, I think my T is higher since then.

 

[r4zorsharp]

I come home from work after a hard day, and I just want to grab my gym gear and head to the gym.

It's morning, I want to get up and cook breakfast, maybe dance and a sing a little whilst doing it.

It's Saturday morning, and I want to get up, and go hiking after speeding through breakfast. On the hike, I go fast and run a little.

This ANGERS my girlfriend. I have to go at her pace, or she loses her ****. She wants to "chill" after work before going to the gym, but we all know it won't happen if we do.

I've noticed that whenever I'm happy, girlfriends lose their **** and bring me right down to wherever they are. What is it? I'm open to the idea that the energy I'm giving off isn't healthy, but to me it seems like something else is the case.

Question, do you feel like the girls you have attracted were "easy" to get? I noticed whenever I go for the girls who seem to fall right in my lap / are the easiest, it always ends up being a mess. WE always attract a type. Sometimes we gotta kinda curve that type and go for some more "sane" girls

 

[bcude]

I didn't want to make this a post about me saying how good I was to her and how life is unfair.

Instead I just wanted to isolate this part that she hated when I was in a good mood.

I moved to a different country to help with her career, and at the same time slowed mine down by about 3 years if not more, in my early twenties. Not to mention the insane amount of money I spent on her.

Women will rarely, to never truly appreciate what you're doing for them. Everything you do will be seen as your 'duty' as a man, and the performer and it will never be enough. Just like when you spoil a child, it will take and demand more and more and act up when daddy finally says "no".

Keep women honest by reciprocating all the time, energy and effort you put in and cut through the fog of their wants to give them what they truly need - your masculinity (being steady and centered, a competent leader, a strong moving force forward in life, protector of loved ones).

 

[firstbornunicorn]

Question, do you feel like the girls you have attracted were "easy" to get? I noticed whenever I go for the girls who seem to fall right in my lap / are the easiest, it always ends up being a mess. WE always attract a type. Sometimes we gotta kinda curve that type and go for some more "sane" girls

Hell yeah to all of the above! With "normal" girls I can't read their signs and whether or not they're interested. If she's jumping into bed with me on the first date it's pretty clear that she's interested. "normal" girls take it at least a bit slower and are much less obvious with their signs, and I've banged a few that I started off as friends with, but it never occurred to me that they wanted anything more(until they told me months/years after) because I simply cannot read them, and have gotten a little used to the "passive" role with the crazies that want commitment from day 1(and I say no). The crazies are straight to the point. My brain doesn't work with reading signs of the normal ones. It's an issue I know I have but all attempts to change it haven't worked.

 

[Çharismo]

Hey man I want to commend you on following your pursuits and most of all taking care of yourself physically and financially which translates to other areas in life as well so keep doing what your doing and don’t let anyone tell you different. Most people are out of shape and 68% - 70% of people in the US are living paycheck to paycheck and are basically broke so your already doing good by not being part of the statistic. As for your issue I’ve dealt with this as well not only from women but from men as well too.

Anytime you are moving forward in life or bettering yourself in anyway shape or form whether it’s physically, financially, emotionally, intellectually, or even spiritually it translates outward and reflects very strongly in how you carry yourself, your confidence, and just your overall mood. Other human beings can sense that and become threatened and even hostile towards you. It disrupts the status quo. You are basically showing them what is possible and they start to play the comparison game which you should never do with anyone.

Its a very primitive way to respond to someone who makes you realize that you aren’t as good as you think you are. It rattles the ego. So what do they do? They try to sabotage you or your efforts and try to put a stop to you. Depending on the environment and or the relationship you have with the person it will manifest in many different ways from small remarks, criticisms, envy, jealousy, anger, excessive competition, hostility and just an overall negativity when you come around.

Most people are not even secure in themselves or comfortable in there own skins to be around exceptional human beings like you or myself. My advice is that if you care about this woman be diplomatic and tactful about her behavior. You don’t have to end the relationship but try to get her to realize that instead of progressing she is regressing and it’s not healthy for you or her. If she continues to act this way despite your efforts then I suggest you move forward. Avoid unhappy and negative people it will keep you sane and on the right path.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Do low T men make concessions happily? With my longest girlfriend I made some serious concessions I'll never make again, but when making them I felt severe resentment towards her. This happened just when I started lifting, put on a solid 8Kg of mostly lean mass from then to now, I think my T is higher since then.

First mate, concessions is low T.

Bending the knee is low T.

The ultimate sign of competition is willingness to walk. That in and of itself is GOAT status. Men are not competing and yes game is on hard mode contrary to what Rollo or other married dating coaches who aren't competing may say.

One lad posted about his gf wanting to be lazy after work, he concedes, they don't go, she gets fat. It's his fault. He tolerated it. Bad attitude GTFO.

 

[firstbornunicorn]

First mate, concessions is low T.

Bending the knee is low T.

The ultimate sign of competition is willingness to walk. That in and of itself is GOAT status. Men are not competing and yes game is on hard mode contrary to what Rollo or other married dating coaches who aren't competing may say.

One lad posted about his gf wanting to be lazy after work, he concedes, they don't go, she gets fat. It's his fault. He tolerated it. Bad attitude GTFO.

I never tolerated it though, did my thing anyway.

 

[r4zorsharp]

Hell yeah to all of the above! With "normal" girls I can't read their signs and whether or not they're interested. If she's jumping into bed with me on the first date it's pretty clear that she's interested. "normal" girls take it at least a bit slower and are much less obvious with their signs, and I've banged a few that I started off as friends with, but it never occurred to me that they wanted anything more(until they told me months/years after) because I simply cannot read them, and have gotten a little used to the "passive" role with the crazies that want commitment from day 1(and I say no). The crazies are straight to the point. My brain doesn't work with reading signs of the normal ones. It's an issue I know I have but all attempts to change it haven't worked.

It might be that, or have you ever thought of yourself as being a push over? or maybe settling for girls who gotta make the moves..

Theres the Crazy girls when they want a ship usually go for a guy they believe they can manipulate or that would never cheat on them.

Theres the other crazy girls who just are super needy and they'll jump from seemingly any guy to any guy to feel good until they find one that they can make things work with.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

I never tolerated it though, did my thing anyway.

If a girl won't get with your program, downgrade her to booty call. It's a game of musical chairs. Hire slow. Fire fast.

 

[firstbornunicorn]

maybe settling for girls who gotta make the moves..

Not always, but yes.