So can you or can you not date pretty women as an older man?

[Kotaix]

It seems to be very common for women to get involved with guys who are 10+ years their senior. In my family alone I have three cousins and my sister who are all in their 30s or 40s, in LTR or married to guys who are 10-15 years older than them.

I've had WAY more luck with younger women (mid 20s) now that I'm over 40 than I ever had before. Part of this is due to me looking younger than I am, but I also still act young. I'm unmarried and I don't have kids. At work this means that I don't hang out with the coworkers who are playing the family game and instead hang out with the younger crowd who actually have the time to go out and have a drink after work. It also means I get invited to their parties and get to meet their friends, so I'm naturally surrounded by younger women most of the time. I've pulled my coworker's friends at those parties just by giving them a look of interest.

As a general rule, I don't enjoy the company of women younger than 23 once they start talking.

 

[speed dawg]

10+ years is no big deal, up to around 15+. But as you approach the 20 year gap, things just get weird. I mean you're in totally different generations. Yeah you can fvck them all that, but real life isn't porno, you have to actually talk and do things. A 20 year age gap pretty much guarantees you'll be in different places in your life. I'm 39 and I could not imagine trying to date a college age kid today.

 

[oldmanofthesea]

44 here and I regularly date hot 23-24yo women. The oldest woman I have ever slept with in my life was 40. That was once. Down from there was 35 (twice). The rest have all been 31 or under, with many in their early 20’s. I will admit that most people guess me to be early 30’s and if I’m hanging out with late 20’s friends, most guess I’m their age too. I think that generally a 10-15 year age gap is totally fine with many women so long as you have taken good care of yourself and don’t look really old for your age. No dad outfits, and stay slender.

 

[Lookatu]

44 here and I regularly date hot 23-24yo women. The oldest woman I have ever slept with in my life was 40. That was once. Down from there was 35 (twice). The rest have all been 31 or under, with many in their early 20’s. I will admit that most people guess me to be early 30’s and if I’m hanging out with late 20’s friends, most guess I’m their age too. I think that generally a 10-15 year age gap is totally fine with many women so long as you have taken good care of yourself and don’t look really old for your age. No dad outfits, and stay slender.

Dude, 44 and dating young 20's? I for some reason can't fathom that, at least in my area where I live. Good for you and your genes.

 

[oc16]

10+ years is no big deal, up to around 15+. But as you approach the 20 year gap, things just get weird. I mean you're in totally different generations. Yeah you can fvck them all that, but real life isn't porno, you have to actually talk and do things. A 20 year age gap pretty much guarantees you'll be in different places in your life. I'm 39 and I could not imagine trying to date a college age kid today.

Agreed 100%. When I was 41 and hanging out with the 21 year old, I ran into a few problems.

She was still living at home, she had to lie to her parents about where she was going and I couldn't pick her up.

I didn't even bother telling some of my friends since I knew they would just be jealous.

She was still in school and not in the real world yet.

I was bothered by the age gap more than she was; I was old enough to be her Dad.

When I said to her "Why couldn't you be at least 28?"!. Her response "Just pretend that I am."

 

[oldmanofthesea]

Dude, 44 and dating young 20's? I for some reason can't fathom that, at least in my area where I live. Good for you and your genes.

There are pros and cons. I had lousy luck with women in my 20’s because I looked so young (and because I was blue pilled). So instead of enjoying it then, I’m enjoying it now. It would have been better to enjoy it in my 20’s, but I’m not complaining.

 

[Epicwinguy]

You mentioned "dating" rather than "hooking up" and so I'll share some dating related perspectives.

After a couple of months of dating an 18 year old, I (at age 32) unwrapped my last virgin. Unlike the majority of above postings, I don't agree that this age ratio is easy and that these young girls are readily available to older men.
Seriously. Look around you. It's not as though every college freshman is passing on a college peer in order to be with a 30 something. My situation was a result of being at the right place at the right time. Perhaps having some prior female experience helped, but overall, it was more a matter of circumstance. On a forum, anyone can post anything, but I'm here to say that most likely, this is your actual reality.

Personally, it's kind of weird in some ways. I remember being with her and hearing an "oldies" song on the radio. I was thinking to myself that when that song was popular, I was in 11 years old. And by 5th grade, I'd already had four or five girlfriends and kissed as many. Meanwhile, she wasn't even yet in her mothers womb. Then I thought to myself... the year that I lost my virginity, she was probably in daycare.

While on college break, I picked her up at her mother's place. When you're sitting at a family table drinking iced tea and staring at a mother that was nine years older than me and a girlfriend that was fourteen years younger than me, it does give a man some perspective.

Again, your topic was about dating a much younger woman rather than a simple hook up and so I share my above experience. The sex was good and frequent,at social gatherings, I got evil glares from women my age (which was amusing) and friends my age envied me, but I confess that in some ways, I felt like a creepy old man as well.

I mean I didn’t mean serious dating, but figured hookups would be less likely than dating then ****ing her.

 

[Lookatu]

There are pros and cons. I had lousy luck with women in my 20’s because I looked so young (and because I was blue pilled). So instead of enjoying it then, I’m enjoying it now. It would have been better to enjoy it in my 20’s, but I’m not complaining.

You're like Scott Baio...

 

[oc16]

I think men also have to get it through their heads that female attraction does not work the same as male attraction.

We men are naturally attracted to youth, smooth glowing skin, a certain waist:hip ratio, tight bodies, etc. It signals she is healthy and fertile (even if you don't want kids)

Men incorrectly think their crows feet, few wrinkles and grey hairs and bald head are going to turn women off since it doesn't look youthful, right? Wrong! A lot of women will see the above as dominating, mature and masculine (a good thing).

 

[Epicwinguy]

I think men also have to get it through their heads that female attraction does not work the same as male attraction.

We men are naturally attracted to youth, smooth glowing skin, a certain waist:hip ratio, tight bodies, etc. It signals she is healthy and fertile (even if you don't want kids)

Men incorrectly think their crows feet, few wrinkles and grey hairs and bald head are going to turn women off since it doesn't look youthful, right? Wrong! A lot of women will see the above as dominating, mature and masculine (a good thing).

This contradicts with a lot of other answers in this thread. If women are so attracted to signs of aging why do older guys need tighter game and six figure incomes?

 

[oc16]

This contradicts with a lot of other answers in this thread. If women are so attracted to signs of aging why do older guys need tighter game and six figure incomes?

I should of said a little aging. I am talking about men 35 to 50 perhaps; still in shape but with crow's feet, some wrinkles and grey hair.


I am not referring to a 55+ man who has a belly and looks like a senior citizen.

 

[Ant92]

And by pretty I mean young. I have seen posts saying you can date 19 year old girls in your 30s and I’ve seen posts that say a 35 year old man will only be able to get old ladies his age or older. So in this thread I want to know once and for all how doable it is to date pretty young women.

I had a boxing coach who was 38 dating a 19 year old and she was a little dime piece. I say go for it !

I got a buddy who’s 49 and his girl is 35. I think if you’re older but still active it only makes sense to date younger women.

 

[Epicwinguy]

I should of said a little aging. I am talking about men 35 to 50 perhaps; still in shape but with crow's feet, some wrinkles and grey hair.


I am not referring to a 55+ man who has a belly and looks like a senior citizen.

So you’re saying a 35 year old guy will be more attractive than his 25 year old self, granted he’s not obese?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

So you’re saying a 35 year old guy will be more attractive than his 25 year old self, granted he’s not obese?

He could be with more cash more style more confidence and built the same. But its not usually likely. Alot of men "let themselves go" in their 30's.

 

[oc16]

So you’re saying a 35 year old guy will be more attractive than his 25 year old self, granted he’s not obese?

I believe so!

I'm 43 and I'm in good physical shape.

I can't understand for the life of me why people don't exercise at least 3x a week.

I don't understand how obese men aren't bothered when they look in the mirror , feel lethargic all the time and NEVER get any positive attention from hot women. Doesn't this bother them??

Find something you enjoy. I was never fond
of lifting weights at a gym, it's boring to me and I don't get an endorphin release.

I prefer 2 to 4 mile runs or group fitness classes (HIIT, boot camp, Tabata, etc.) You meet new people, there is music and you are all working toward a common goal. Once you start working out 4 to 5 days a week, it becomes part of your routine and you get so used to it. The benefits, both physically and mentally are so worth it!

 

[oldmanofthesea]

So you’re saying a 35 year old guy will be more attractive than his 25 year old self, granted he’s not obese?

Again, women don’t see attraction the same way as men. When looking at a photo, a 35yo guy CAN look just as good to a woman as that same guy at 25, it’s just that most guys don’t keep themselves up. Secondly, the 35yo version of himself could be more suave, more experienced, more confident, have the means to dress better and make dating more fun, etc etc.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

All I’m willing to say is ‘thank god for daddy issues’.

 

[SW15]

The ones saying a 35 year old man will only be able to get women around his age or older are wrong.

Men shouldn't be dating older women at 35.

Dating women younger than 30 at 35 is a challenge for a lot of men. You're going to have to stand out in some way to achieve it.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

And by pretty I mean young. I have seen posts saying you can date 19 year old girls in your 30s and I’ve seen posts that say a 35 year old man will only be able to get old ladies his age or older. So in this thread I want to know once and for all how doable it is to date pretty young women.

Depends on the guy obviously. Everyone is different. PM me if you want more details.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

40 year old women post wall press their ideas onto younger women constantly; she cannot effectively compete anymore, certainly not with a younger woman, so rather than admitting defeat, what the older woman does is try to circumvent the competition by attacking younger women who date older men with gossip, proxy mutual friends and traditional values.

Even if the older woman does not get the man, her blowing up the relationship is still in her favor.

So you can date younger women as an older man, but there is a level of politics going on that you may not be privy if unaware. L