Feel like calling.. need advice

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Lol you could. But you should probably start it like it’s new. An old friend. Profess nothing. You don’t love her.
let her do all the talking. Just add things to keep it going. If you “open up”, it’s over. Just relax and enjoy her stupid manipulations. She will only stick around if she thinks there’s something in it for her. She biologically doesn’t want to “own” a man yet. Unless you are loaded with money of course or have an affluent social environment that she can benefit from.

What’s the purpose of social status? The ability to climb the ladder of men. What you can do for her. You must stay her breeder. Her fuk boy. Treat her like the tramp she is. She understands this and relishes in it.
You have some tips ? I had abit of a weak mind that evening ****ed 4 girls already again. Would be fun to get her on the pole again xd
 

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Perhaps the most important truth of all...

“women will NEVER become better women through any form of legislation or enforcement. They need to be rejected as woman and human beings within the context of relationships. Government is incapable of fixing anything. Only men can fix the world and this includes women.”
Wtf MAN ?

women are silly and cute , they are not the devils that you think they are :)

having a mentality like this will only Make you shoot yourself in the foot
 

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Tell her you have some birthday wine in the fridge. Tell her to come over and help you crack it open and catch up on the current life things.

She can always say no. That would be your answer. Offer only once. Then do not contact her again...let it ride. Let her sit on it for a while. She knows what she is coming over for. Then you have to be a merciless lover. Do your shot at getting it i her a$$ too. Every hole.
Oke i texted that her back ;) we’ll see
 

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That was really dumb of you to jump to the extreme. LMAO
Women are for sex and fun. Again. Men going to the extremes like a woman in an argument.

I adore women. I love the feeling of feminine around me. I’m a man. If you think that’s severe, then you haven’t heard the best of it.
well stating things like I quoted you the first time is not really screaming “ I love women “ , on the contrary , it just show bitterness :)

like I said , women are not sex and that”s it , even though in reality this is the most that you will get from most women ;)
 

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LMAO. You sound like a woman. Are you going to ask who hurt me next?

Your smiley faces don’t hide your mocking resentment. STFU and move on. That’s all a woman has the capacity to give you. She’s not your other half like a symbiotic parasite.
no mate , I do not care who hurt you , because you are not cool and for sure you were not cool before you got hurt , or whatever happened to you .

Also do you know who pick up fights and are aggressive like you are now ? Low value people , because they think that by acting like this they gain value .The sad truth that is never the case and become even lower value than they previously were .

people do not end up where they end only because they were unlucky. It takes a lot of continued effort .

but I feel bad for you for shooting your self in the foot though
 

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I understand why you say this to a man who has wrecked himself. Let me clarify this.

Women don’t wreck men. Men wreck themselves. He should already be a separate individual point of light. He already knows this inside of himself. This is why getting more women does nothing because he still isn’t a singularity. This is vital.

To blame even one single part of the equation on the woman is weak. A man becomes weak because he lessens himself to fit the social narrative. This is the true survival trait that no longer applies to modern man.

To think you are damaged (I’ve been there) is the evidence of a man who has degraded himself. Just because the social structure hands a young man a bag of shyt with a smile doesn’t change the fact that he was handed a bag of shyt.

If any man is waiting for women to be better or that there’s some hidden cave with amazing women in it, is a pathetic worm. AND women know he’s a pathetic worm. It’s not their job to make men better. We should already know this stuff.
This is good.

Oke i texted that her back ;) we’ll see
Has anything happened? I'm going to assume not, or if it did she will lead you on to nothing.
 

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you have 2 options , either to do something either to not do something .
You decided to do something , but in the same time you were not decisive .

if you decide to do something be decisive . It is not like a woman does not know what you were actually meaning by what you wrote to her , and for sure women do not like to be treated like slut$ . Not even Slut$ like to be treated like slut$
 

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you have 2 options , either to do something either to not do something .
You decided to do something , but in the same time you were not decisive .

if you decide to do something be decisive . It is not like a woman does not know what you were actually meaning by what you wrote to her , and for sure women do not like to be treated like slut$ . Not even Slut$ like to be treated like slut$
What do you mean ?with decisive
 

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I texted her : yeah dirty thirty, I have some wine we could open for my birthday togheter:).

she responded: Dirty thirty XD

didn’t respond back but I think I got my answer :)
Too eager, gives her assurance and inflates her ego. These are not the words of a confident man. I'm not against answering her bday wishes, but i wouldn't throw in the last part immediately like that. I'd like to see some investment from her first, like: calling, saying she misses you, engages in the conversation, seemingly invested and interested. Then throw in "Hey, it's good talking to you but i'm really in a hurry. Let's catch up tomorrow tonight at 8 pm over a bottle of wine at my place."

There's alot of uncertainty after a break up and a period of no contact. The common response from most men is to become emotional in different ways, so no contact has the effect that it increases both anxiety and curiosity when you're not following the expected reaction. To soothe these feelings, women use different creative ways to reach out, to check the temperature, to see where you're at, if she 'won' the break up by seeing you miserable etc. Where a birthday/holiday gives her a convenient excuse to do this, also known as 'breadcrumbs', which is a low investment/possible high return action where she doesn't want you back whatsover, she's only looking at her self-interest.
You told her everything she wanted to know with that sentence. You responded to her, you don't seem mad and you seemingly want her too. Now she feels great again. This little 'dance' of no contact/anxiety and assurance can go on for a long time, until she's either got a new sure thing or the man genuinely moves on and away from her.

The theory goes like this.. if she wants you back you basically can do nothing wrong but if she doesn't, you'll just inflate her sense of self by interacting with her. A person who doesn't want to be with you and doesn't respect you anymore. The last part is unfortunately the case most of the time and men fall into this trap everyday and end up feeling even worse than during no contact, because of one feeling - hope.
This is not what a woman who's leaving you deserves. Because make no mistake here, you might think that you officially left her, but she had already been checking out from the relationship emotionally. Evident by her DGAF attitude towards the end in the linked post AND belated bday wishes more recently. Women check out of their relationships long before they actually cut the cord and officially tell you, you just beat her to it.

The only way you would have a fighting chance is if she had to earn your attention and followed your leadership, then got to sex asap, but like someone said, i think you need time away and other girls for a complete mindset shift to be able to pull that off. You're basically trying to negotiate attraction at this point with someone who's not interested.
 

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So much different information but thanks guys. I have no feelings for her. She ain’t responding my text even if it isn’t decisive so she doesn’t deserve anymore attention.
 

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So much different information but thanks guys. I have no feelings for her. She ain’t responding my text even if it isn’t decisive so she doesn’t deserve anymore attention.
the problem is that you do not really trust your instincts , which is ok , it happens to all of us .

most of the advice that you get is that you should be a man and not chase tail , which again is a really good advice .

truth be told is that you do things in a non attractive way you have to take more steps back , than if you would do it in an attractive way .

continuing , if you do not cross the line , by giving a needy vibe , the truth is that you can do a lot of more things that people say that you should not do .

being persistent in a non needy way is key to get girls that have at least some sort of interest in you . If you are not persistent most of this girls will be missed opportunities on which you gave up because you though that being needy = being persistent . This is a stupid reason to loose a girl , right ?
 

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the problem is that you do not really trust your instincts , which is ok , it happens to all of us .

most of the advice that you get is that you should be a man and not chase tail , which again is a really good advice .

truth be told is that you do things in a non attractive way you have to take more steps back , than if you would do it in an attractive way .

continuing , if you do not cross the line , by giving a needy vibe , the truth is that you can do a lot of more things that people say that you should not do .

being persistent in a non needy way is key to get girls that have at least some sort of interest in you . If you are not persistent most of this girls will be missed opportunities on which you gave up because you though that being needy = being persistent . This is a stupid reason to loose a girl , right ?
Sure thing. It’s more like an ego thing. I like to conquer women even if it seems impossible. Happend a lot of times haha. It fun sometimes how easy girls are.
 

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Sure thing. It’s more like an ego thing. I like to conquer women even if it seems impossible. Happend a lot of times haha. It fun sometimes how easy girls are.
if ego stands between you and whatever you want to do , then is a stupid ego .

there is nothing wrong in doing whatever it is possible , without giving the vibe of a needy guy , and failing.

actually the reason that you fail is because most likely you will do mistakes that will be corrected when dealing with future women.

when you want to get good with girls , for sure you will also do some things that are not ok , but you will learn from them . There is no easy way if you go on the path of the master :)
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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