I used to post here back in the days I was a pickup artist. Now I've been with the same woman for 14 years and married for 11.
We hit our first big patch of trouble here recently.. not sure how deep a dive i wont to go into details of what caused it. In any event i'm at the need to give her alot of space part of the conflict resolution. We were having a really elevated level of sex this year since covid hit and there was nothing else to do lol. But now I'm cut off.. and i guess i'm wondering the best tips to get the passion off after say a month of pretty serious arguments and fighting.
Most people are really focusing on the minimal convo/contact for a while until everything cools down. One other married friend said he and his wife have had arguments that went on for 2 weeks and led to them only communicating minimally and mainly texting while in the same house.
We have a daughter together and she is 7 and awesome, so i kind of just want to focus on being the best dad for her now and avoid divorce. Sorry to be so vague on what caused all of this, but i will admit i have developed some anger issues related to it and i'm going to see a psychologist over it tomorrow for the first time.
Best tips for increasing my value and attraction for her...
Id take a step back. Be your own man. Learn to box. Take boxing classes. It will really help. Dont let her negative looks deter you. If you say you are going to do something... then do it.
Read "the manipulated man" and "womens infidelity".
I think they will help you see what you are really dealing with.
Meaning, women ate playing 3d chess and men are playing checkers.
Dont put her on a pedestal. I grew up being taught that mentality and it is b.s. you are a person as much as she is.
Be away. Go golfing. Get some buddies you can do guy only things with. Even if she gives uba hard time... if you say u are going golfing saturday... then do it. Be gone and sont let her displeasute deter you.
Let her know that her approval does not affect you. You are who you are. You do what you want. You are a man.
Be happy. Be pleasant. Talking about things will only make it worse. When she is asking you where u were ... then its starting to work.
Dont get to mad or too happy with her. Treat her like shes a 12 year old girl. You dont need to explain to her.
Dont kneel to her. Be strong. Be courteous. Let her know that if you dont have her.... the sun will rise tomorrow.
Heads up buddy.