What to do in this situation?

[raush]

I pretty much devoted my time to 22-23 years in the study. So never knew much about the girl. So, I have been a typical beta guy. I wasted my 2 years on the first girl without any physical intimacy thinking she liked me. After that 2-3 unsuccessful attempts, I started to read about PUA and the red pill. I tried PUA techniques approached around 50-60 girls without much success.

I would say I have failed too many times with women. I have been to dates with a fair amount of women like 10-15. Thinking that the girl likes me it never turns out to anything physical. After that, I came to realize I have wasted too much time chasing girls. I literally don't want to do anything with them.

But the problem I am facing I don't know how to handle it.

I feel when I ignore women they try to chase me. It happened with me 2-3 times. I go to the gym daily. I go to the library daily (pursuing a master's in computer science). I don't try to even look at any girls. But there are always a few girls like in the library or in the gym they seem to want to talk to me. In the library, this girl always comes whenever I go to the library and sit at the counter. She smiles whenever I look at her. She is a girl I know she will never talk to me directly. But she always acts in such a way that I will talk to her. And it already happening. We are already started saying hello to each other.
The same things happen in the Gym. I have literally ignored the girl countless times but still, she seems to want to talk to me.

Now I don't want to get involved. I don't have any interest of becoming either friend or anything with these girls becuase so far I had bad experience with women. I want to focus on my study. But somehow I get entangled with these girls. They take all the attention from me without giving me anything in return.

My question is How to ignore these girls? I have tried to ignore them countless times. I can't stop going to library or gym. But whenever I go to library she is always there. She even has a boyfriend so I don't even know why she is doing it.

 

[Trez]

I pretty much devoted my time to 22-23 years in the study. So never knew much about the girl. So, I have been a typical beta guy. I wasted my 2 years on the first girl without any physical intimacy thinking she liked me. After that 2-3 unsuccessful attempts, I started to read about PUA and the red pill. I tried PUA techniques approached around 50-60 girls without much success.

I would say I have failed too many times with women. I have been to dates with a fair amount of women like 10-15. Thinking that the girl likes me it never turns out to anything physical. After that, I came to realize I have wasted too much time chasing girls. I literally don't want to do anything with them.

But the problem I am facing I don't know how to handle it.

I feel when I ignore women they try to chase me. It happened with me 2-3 times. I go to the gym daily. I go to the library daily (pursuing a master's in computer science). I don't try to even look at any girls. But there are always a few girls like in the library or in the gym they seem to want to talk to me. In the library, this girl always comes whenever I go to the library and sit at the counter. She smiles whenever I look at her. She is a girl I know she will never talk to me directly. But she always acts in such a way that I will talk to her. And it already happening. We are already started saying hello to each other.
The same things happen in the Gym. I have literally ignored the girl countless times but still, she seems to want to talk to me.

Now I don't want to get involved. I don't have any interest of becoming either friend or anything with these girls becuase so far I had bad experience with women. I want to focus on my study. But somehow I get entangled with these girls. They take all the attention from me without giving me anything in return.

My question is How to ignore these girls? I have tried to ignore them countless times. I can't stop going to library or gym. But whenever I go to library she is always there. She even has a boyfriend so I don't even know why she is doing it.

Just ignore her by not paying any attention to her. Pretend she's like a chair or something...

 

[7onriverI f]

Yeah you don't want to be approaching like how these pua's tell you to approach. unless you want blowouts which they all get until they actually find a girl who was interested in them.

Just stare them down mate from across the room while your lifting the heavy crap, looking for books and walking on the treadmill. who gives a f. if their boyfriend turns up they may soon advice you to cut it out when he's pissed. Happened to me when girls were giving me alcohol in a bar and some gangster dude and all his mates turn up and I'm still looking at her and shes telling me to cut it with her hand slicing across her neck. My mates who were arabs will all pissed at her.

 

[daproest1]

Lol I don’t think u want to ignore them. And if you’re not having success on your dates, you’re not doing enough. The whole trajectory is on you as the man. U lead. They follow. Read the mystery method. An oldie, but a goodie.

 

[raush]

Lol I don’t think u want to ignore them. And if you’re not having success on your dates, you’re not doing enough. The whole trajectory is on you as the man. U lead. They follow. Read the mystery method. An oldie, but a goodie.

Obviously she is a girl so there is the attraction/desire. But I know that going down that path will be the only deviation from my current goal. So, I really want to ignore them. Yeah but I agree I am not able to ignore them the same as when I ignore an ugly girl.

 

[7onriverI f]

Lol I don’t think u want to ignore them. And if you’re not having success on your dates, you’re not doing enough. The whole trajectory is on you as the man. U lead. They follow. Read the mystery method. An oldie, but a goodie.

He has to up the tension. Just looking at them you can do this. In the eyes not at her at tits or ass lol. You don't have to do all the time only when shes looking. You should be able to feel when shes looking at you. Mystery Method has some good advice.

 

[Black Widow Void]

Welcome aboard raush

When much younger, I was in similar shoes as you and will explain the psychology behind your situation.
My confusion was once: "why is it that when I've finally had it with a relationship (and ended it) they suddenly become everything I wanted them to be at the beginning?"

The above used to drive me crazy. I thought I was cursed. Sound familiar?

Also, a "cousin" to the above scenario is "why did I have a dry spell and now that I've got a girlfriend, strangers (girls) are outwardly expressing interest? "

Both the above (and your situation as well) stem from how we project ourselves In many cases it's subconscious, but in either case, if we try too hard or become too invested, we rob a woman of their desires. Think of it as being told the end of an interesting mystery book before reading the end.

The girls that are currently showing you interest are doing so because you've not "killed their desires."

 

[7onriverI f]

Welcome aboard raush

When much younger, I was in similar shoes as you and will explain the psychology behind your situation.
My confusion was once: "why is it that when I've finally had it with a relationship (and ended it) they suddenly become everything I wanted them to be at the beginning?"

The above used to drive me crazy. I thought I was cursed. Sound familiar?

Also, a "cousin" to the above scenario is "why did I have a dry spell and now that I've got a girlfriend, strangers (girls) are outwardly expressing interest? "

Both the above (and your situation as well) stem from how we project ourselves In many cases it's subconscious, but in either case, if we try too hard or become too invested, we rob a woman of their desires. Think of it as being told the end of an interesting mystery book before reading the end.

The girls that are currently showing you interest are doing so because you've not "killed their desires."

lol that has no practical application described in this post and is kinda just waffle mental jerk off.
It does has truth though and not something you need to understand in order to get girls into you.
op doesn't like these girls so he might as well keep doing what hes doing and ignoring them getting nothing by doing it other than a few eyes on him and maybe a hand.

 

[raush]

Welcome aboard raush

When much younger, I was in similar shoes as you and will explain the psychology behind your situation.
My confusion was once: "why is it that when I've finally had it with a relationship (and ended it) they suddenly become everything I wanted them to be at the beginning?"

The above used to drive me crazy. I thought I was cursed. Sound familiar?

Also, a "cousin" to the above scenario is "why did I have a dry spell and now that I've got a girlfriend, strangers (girls) are outwardly expressing interest? "

Both the above (and your situation as well) stem from how we project ourselves In many cases it's subconscious, but in either case, if we try too hard or become too invested, we rob a woman of their desires. Think of it as being told the end of an interesting mystery book before reading the end.

The girls that are currently showing you interest are doing so because you've not "killed their desires."

I agree with you. I kind of sense that I become needy or more emotionally invested in the process. But the thing is like I feel I got damaged through this process. If I knew 5 years back that getting a ***** is so much work I would have never started it. I have been through hell in this whole process anxiety, depression. I am still getting attracted to women because of biology but there is much more hate inside me against them. I somehow want to kill this attraction.

 

[7onriverI f]

I agree with you. I kind of sense that I become needy or more emotionally invested in the process. But the thing is like I feel I got damaged through this process. If I knew 5 years back that getting a ***** is so much work I would have never started it. I have been through hell in this whole process anxiety, depression. I am still getting attracted to women because of biology but there is much more hate inside me against them. I somehow want to kill this attraction.

don't go to a gym where there's girls who are into you. switch gyms is a start. What do women do? they go to women only gyms. if you cant do that switching gyms then go at different times. wear different clothes. I don't really understand why you wanna kill the attraction in the first place? this is a pickup board.

 

[7onriverI f]

if you really wanna get conventational, then find out who the boyfriend is and tell him shes flirting with you and you don't like it. or tell her first and if she keeps doing then advice the boyfriend of what you did and see what he does to stop it.

 

[raush]

if you really wanna get conventional then find out who the boyfriend is and tell him shes flirting with you and you don't like it.

. This seems like a good idea. I will do that.

 

[7onriverI f]

. This seems like a good idea. I will do that.

You will get some respect for doing that. He will probably start a argument with her and then they will have makeup sex or breakup. Depends actually how angry to two of them are.

 

[Black Widow Void]

I agree with you. I kind of sense that I become needy or more emotionally invested in the process. But the thing is like I feel I got damaged through this process. If I knew 5 years back that getting a ***** is so much work I would have never started it. I have been through hell in this whole process anxiety, depression. I am still getting attracted to women because of biology but there is much more hate inside me against them. I somehow want to kill this attraction.

Once we become "awake" on how things seem to be, it can be quite a jolt. Experiencing anger and uneasiness is quite common. Some of us (self included) even went through a phase of contempt with women.

Peeling back the layers though, can be a bit tough and humbling. It is then that we have to come face to face with our own mishaps.

Do women act illogical and unpredictable? Of course. With this being said though, we men also play a role on their outcome and behavior as well. In other words, it's best to use this energy to work on ourselves and improve on our behavior with women. Having a bad outlook (and not working on ourselves) will create a bad downward spiral.

 

[raush]

Guys I would like to further extend this post/question. So the girl I was talking about she keeps coming to the library and I keep ignoring her. But I feel guilty/bad inside to not talking to her. And I kinda know it's a nice guy trait.

Is it natural to feel bad? Because she isn't giving me her vagina so obviously it shouldn't affect me even a little bit.

 

[bat soup]

Guys I would like to further extend this post/question. So the girl I was talking about she keeps coming to the library and I keep ignoring her. But I feel guilty/bad inside to not talking to her. And I kinda know it's a nice guy trait.

Is it natural to feel bad? Because she isn't giving me her vagina so obviously it shouldn't affect me even a little bit.

Try to bang her. If she's not cooperating THEN ignore her. Repeat that 100 times with 100 different women.