Dealing with embarrassment of performance anxiety

[Dash Riprock]

Exactly..usually viagara comes in 50mg usually. If you want. Cut it in half. 25 mg will probably even do the job.

You have to see a dr anyway to get it. It's not a big deal.

I get 20 mg pills and cut those in half and still have a huge effect. If you're already healthy, you don't need much. There's nothing wrong with putting some premium gas in the tank once in a while. Will likely delay your orgasm too. Does for me.

 

[Romanemp22]

I get 20 mg pills and cut those in half and still have a huge effect. If you're already healthy, you don't need much. There's nothing wrong with putting some premium gas in the tank once in a while. Will likely delay your orgasm too. Does for me.

Also, can you take viagra when you know you are perfectlly healthy with heart etc without counceling with doctor. The thing is in my country every doctor appointment is pretty much Pain in the azz and is also very expenssive, even just counceling. I would Like to maybe try viagra or cialis but idk i read they have some side effects Like poor vision, or maybe permanentlly ed and etc?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Also, can you take viagra when you know you are perfectlly healthy with heart etc without counceling with doctor. The thing is in my country every doctor appointment is pretty much Pain in the azz and is also very expenssive, even just counceling. I would Like to maybe try viagra or cialis but idk i read they have some side effects Like poor vision, or maybe permanentlly ed and etc?

Once you know your good with a female i wouldn't take anymore. Her desire and confidence in you will allow a rock hard erection.

 

[Stoic]

Also, can you take viagra when you know you are perfectlly healthy with heart etc without counceling with doctor. The thing is in my country every doctor appointment is pretty much Pain in the azz and is also very expenssive, even just counceling. I would Like to maybe try viagra or cialis but idk i read they have some side effects Like poor vision, or maybe permanentlly ed and etc?

Side effects like poor vision is extremely rare. The side effect I get is a little redness in my eyes for a couple hours. No one really noticed but me.

And tylenol has side effects too. Nothing's 100 percent safe.

 

[Stoic]

@Dash Riprock
I dont go any longer without cumming while on viagara.

I take a small dose of zoloft though and last long.

 

[Stoic]

OP one more thing. Look up roman.com. you can do a virtual dr appt. Then they will send the viagara right to your door. I could be wrong but I believe they deliver outside the u.s too. As a matter of fact, I think they are based somewhere in Europe.

 

[Kitttydiet88]

If a girl is not begging you to **** her, especially on the first lay, then she is simply not sufficiently aroused. It sounds like this woman was not aroused, which in turned killed your arousal. Hard to blame you for that.

You need to work on your foreplay/oral. Simply popping some sildenafil and boning her like a mannequin is not going to help your situation. It’s much easier to get a girl aroused/orgasmic through foreplay/oral than it is through penetration. Your boner is not the problem here.

 

[corrector]

Yea i guess that was it, i really thought about that. Usually i dont have problem at attracking women but this hit my confidence a little bit but i guess as you say its not worth stressing about it

If you don't have a problem then what's the big deal about this one? It's silly how there are so many threads from people who have no issues getting more women but get freaked out when they get rejected by one, someone is rude with them, or they have a fail in the bed with one. To make threads like this is scarcity mind-set. An abundant mindset would shrug this off and only make this an issue if it happens frequently enough.

BTW I read your original post. The quality of sexual interaction with her sounds worst than if you used a hooker. She rushed you and killed the mood. That was a disaster. That is how hookers who give bad service are supposed to behave. Was this pity-sex or something? Sometimes you need a bit of foreplay and connection to get you into the mood.

 

[corrector]

Rejection from these types of women are hard because their SMV is supposed to be lower than yours so you expect them to be into you. It makes your SMV like a man feel cratered. Like there is no safe base. It's like being rejected by a whale. It hurts your ego worst than if you are rejected by an 8. That's why it's best to have standards and not lower them since you may get burned anyway.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Years ago, I used to battle the same thing mainly with a new partner. Now before each interlude, I take 10 mg (a very small dose) of Sildenafil (generic Viagra) and have zero issues. As a matter of fact, if I take it after drinking, I can f*uck for over an hour. I've had women tell me they're getting sore, lol. If the girl stays over, I've also found the effects carry over to morning, though a bit diminished.

Some women can be brutal about a bad performance in bed, especially for a ONS or early in a relationship, and dump the guy, get distant, or spread around to their girlfriends for a laugh. There was a hot chick at my gym years back. Kind of a b*itch. She started dating a young doctor and told everyone he couldn't get it up during their first sexual encounter. She dumped him cold.

Women watch a lot of porn these days so I think they all expect men to be walking dildos and get hard and stay hard on command, like in the porno flicks. Little do they know those scenes are often shot over hours or days and most porn guys take a ton of ED meds and/or inject a drug via needle directly into their d*ick. No thanks, man.

No reason not to have some Viagra on hand. Take about 45-60 minutes before the deed.

Good luck.

Most porn dudes seen so much pvssy they have to get head first.

 

[redskinsfan92]

Sounds like she sucks in the bedroom. No pun intended

 

[Romanemp22]

If a girl is not begging you to **** her, especially on the first lay, then she is simply not sufficiently aroused. It sounds like this woman was not aroused, which in turned killed your arousal. Hard to blame you for that.

You need to work on your foreplay/oral. Simply popping some sildenafil and boning her like a mannequin is not going to help your situation. It’s much easier to get a girl aroused/orgasmic through foreplay/oral than it is through penetration. Your boner is not the problem here.

I did some foreplay and made her wet whille rubbing her pvssy but i guess that wasnt enough. And Yea i think you got a pretty good point that i shouldn't blame myself for this whole thing but i guess it was all in my head

 

[Romanemp22]

If you don't have a problem then what's the big deal about this one? It's silly how there are so many threads from people who have no issues getting more women but get freaked out when they get rejected by one, someone is rude with them, or they have a fail in the bed with one. To make threads like this is scarcity mind-set. An abundant mindset would shrug this off and only make this an issue if it happens frequently enough.

BTW I read your original post. The quality of sexual interaction with her sounds worst than if you used a hooker. She rushed you and killed the mood. That was a disaster. That is how hookers who give bad service are supposed to behave. Was this pity-sex or something? Sometimes you need a bit of foreplay and connection to get you into the mood.

I guess i made it a big deal first it happened to me because i never had something before happening and was kinda ashamed. Also i expected her to be as you said like a pro but she just layed down and that was it no oral etc so that really maybe kill the mod

 

[Romanemp22]

Side effects like poor vision is extremely rare. The side effect I get is a little redness in my eyes for a couple hours. No one really noticed but me.

And tylenol has side effects too. Nothing's 100 percent safe.

Everything has its own risk, the thing that made me scared the most about viagra was that piapism thing, when you can broke your d1ck for good even If you have no issues physicalli

 

[corrector]

I guess i made it a big deal first it happened to me because i never had something before happening and was kinda ashamed. Also i expected her to be as you said like a pro but she just layed down and that was it no oral etc so that really maybe kill the mod

"Dead Fish Sex" I think its called.

 

[Kitttydiet88]

I did some foreplay and made her wet whille rubbing her pvssy but i guess that wasnt enough. And Yea i think you got a pretty good point that i shouldn't blame myself for this whole thing but i guess it was all in my head

Being wet doesn’t necessarily mean she’s aroused. Vaginal secretions are an involuntary physiological response to sexual cues. Just because her body is getting her cervix ready for penetration doesn’t mean she’s aroused and wants you to **** her brains out.

This is why the advice you’re getting in this thread (i.e get viagra) is not going to help you. I will say this again because it is important. It is much easier to get women aroused/orgasmic through foreplay/oral than through penetration. I don’t care how big your **** is, how long you can last, or whether you have the Kama Sutra memorized, the penis is no match for your fingers and tongue when it comes to vaginal stimulation.

The answer here is not to pop a pill and drill away like you’re looking for oil. You need to go back to the basics. Work on your foreplay/oral skills. Once you have a woman begging you to **** her after having multiple orgasms from foreplay/oral, your performance anxiety issues will disappear.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Being wet doesn’t necessarily mean she’s aroused. Vaginal secretions are an involuntary physiological response to sexual cues. Just because her body is getting her cervix ready for penetration doesn’t mean she’s aroused and wants you to **** her brains out.

This is why the advice you’re getting in this thread (i.e get viagra) is not going to help you. I will say this again because it is important. It is much easier to get women aroused/orgasmic through foreplay/oral than through penetration. I don’t care how big your **** is, how long you can last, or whether you have the Kama Sutra memorized, the penis is no match for your fingers and tongue when it comes to vaginal stimulation.

The answer here is not to pop a pill and drill away like you’re looking for oil. You need to go back to the basics. Work on your foreplay/oral skills. Once you have a woman begging you to **** her after having multiple orgasms from foreplay/oral, your performance anxiety issues will disappear.

That particular babe is just not sexually compatable. Find one that is.

 

[Romanemp22]

Being wet doesn’t necessarily mean she’s aroused. Vaginal secretions are an involuntary physiological response to sexual cues. Just because her body is getting her cervix ready for penetration doesn’t mean she’s aroused and wants you to **** her brains out.

This is why the advice you’re getting in this thread (i.e get viagra) is not going to help you. I will say this again because it is important. It is much easier to get women aroused/orgasmic through foreplay/oral than through penetration. I don’t care how big your **** is, how long you can last, or whether you have the Kama Sutra memorized, the penis is no match for your fingers and tongue when it comes to vaginal stimulation.

The answer here is not to pop a pill and drill away like you’re looking for oil. You need to go back to the basics. Work on your foreplay/oral skills. Once you have a woman begging you to **** her after having multiple orgasms from foreplay/oral, your performance anxiety issues will disappear.

Really good spot on. Will follow up with next girl i get in bed with

 

[Kitttydiet88]

Really good spot on. Will follow up with next girl i get in bed with

The trick is not to take any of it personally. There’s tons of misinformation out there when it comes to sex. I wish I knew this stuff when I was your age.

In real life, most women are not going to deep throat you like a porn star the minute you unzip you pants. Many of them kind of just lay there. It doesn’t mean they’re “dead fish”. It could be that they’re not aroused, or are insecure, or inexperienced. It is your job as the guy to lead them and break down their inhibitions. Not surprisingly, many of the girls who initially just kind of lay there turn out to be very sexual and naughty when fully aroused/orgasmic.