She was a stripper, a party girl, not loyal or faithful, not sorry she cheated( means she will again) and still acting like a piece of garbage by putting it all on you when she is the one who cheated. Doesnt believe you will stay alpha. Wants to still entertain the attention of other men( you say flirting, she means cheating) proof! She wants to have a 3 some. Aka phuck another dude with you watching. Tell her a 3some is ok as long as it is with another woman, watch her bawk that.
Bottom line is this. You can't make a ***** a house wife. Stop trying. As alpha as you have become you are still being her cuck if you think you can fix this.
Throw her ass to the curb.