I have this gf. Decent looking chick in her mid 20s'. I usually dont bring my girls around my guy friends but during COVID there is not much to do so I will occasionally break that rule. All of my friends are chill and respectful. Family on the other hand were not. I met up with couple of a cousins. Very close with one and sort of close with the other.
These guys starting roasting me non stop. They were trying to show off in front of my girl. I even warned my girl in the parking lot that these guys will turn in comedians once they are around her. I didn't know it will be this bad. Cracking jokes on family is cool. Thats how guys bond but jokes are often ways to hide secret animosity. It gives you plausible deniability when confronted about the joke. Its cowardly.
One cousin openly was hitting on my girl. I played it cool in front of the ladies. I had to check him in private about that. Of course the excuse was " oh cousin I didn't know". The other one I had to check him publicly because he kept trying to humiliate me with jokes. It went bad. Real bad. Big blow out.
The thing that hurt is that my gf was laughing the whole time. The jokes were funny to her. She was also entertaining the cousin who kept chatting her up. Her excuse was " I didn't realize he was hitting on me because he is your cousin". In the car she apolizged endlessly but I am now looking for an exit in the relationship.
The dynamics are discussed in detail in another thread.
I know this will be tough for some of you to accept, but it's reality. I know very few women who can actually remain faithful to her man. Virtually every woman I've met who is in a relationship WANTS to cheat. This includes married women but also women who are supposedly in a committed...
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Basically, women are "heat seeking missiles" instinctively seeking out the most alpha male in any room. Your status has clearly been diminished and she no longer respects you.
A simple way to handle this in the future is to tease the guys back, unloading just as much ammo as they throw at you, but with a smile on your face the entire time. It's a defensive measure only, don't go on the offense, or get angry. Just stand your ground and give as much as you get.
But yeah, this one was over before it even began. Telling her you wouldn't bring her around your (male) friends telegraphs a lack of confidence. It's one thing not to, which is perfectly normal and understandable, but it's another thing to tell her you won't. It makes it all too obvious you lack the confidence to keep a girl's interest in light of potential competition.
For those guys trying to draw lessons, there aren't any really. This is some small town hillbilly bullsh-t. Such scenarios are filled with insecure, hyper-aggressive losers who only derive a sense of importance by trying to humiliate others. Their job washing dishes at Arby's certainly ain't cuttin' it.
